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emillybronte chat
Date: October 30, 2022
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We do have plans to get married, and he’s even talked to his dad about it. This really took me by surprise. It makes me wonder if I’ll ever truly be part of his family even if we’re married
OP there are also resources available if you are in the US (Not sure about other countries) but call/look up women's shelters/domestic abuse hotlines. While you may not think your situation qualifies for this level they can help you find affordable housing, jobs, reduced cost daycares, roommates, counseling, etc. There are a lot of women out there who never leave bad situations because they feel “Stuck”. How would they afford to live!? Where could they go? Who will take care of the little one while I work? These resources are available and your local shelters/social services/domestic abuse hotlines or heck even you library can help you find them and get out of a bad situation before it becomes a worse situation. Be safe, be happy, wishing you the best.
How is it not? He thought she was touching herself. That's all it is. Anything else is perceived protection just because she s a girl
He’s going to cheat on you
Lol that's a normal question considering he knows your timezone. Your reaction would rub me the wrong way
You make a mutual agreement that BOTH people will always put the toilet seat AND the lid down before flushing to help prevent urine and fecal particles from being sprayed all over your bathroom surfaces (including your toothbrush) every time you flush. Because that’s the hygienic and respectful thing to do.
Dang, think you need to talk to a therapist
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Time, distractions.
But accept that she's not keen. Chasing is a no-go.
Sounds like you kept pushing and he had enough.
Why be with someone who doesn’t trust you?
I think this is the most compelling argument I’ve heard so far. If we’re starting anew and rebuilding trust, doing something behind her back like this could break or irreparably damage everything we do to rebuild.
It seems like he feels a certain way about the fact that he is taking care of the financial burden for both of you, you not contributing enough. The pillow is irrelevant in this argument.
I hope he takes you out
Your GF sounds obnoxious af honestly. I’m not saying YOU should, but id definitely be outta there.
Maybe someday you two will get together. But now is not the time. You have both experienced a traumatic loss, and you are bonding over this trauma. This will almost certainly cause issues down the line. I think you should have a frank discussion with him about how, while you are not upset and he did nothing wrong, what is happening is not healthy and you need space. It would be best for you to go stay with your dad, and for each of you to seek out a grief counselor
I didn’t think about vulnerability! Thank you! Mannnn, I was really hoping we’d all just become a chill friend group. I’ll tread lightly now though.
It doesn't have to have sexual intentions for it to cross boundaries.
I am very comfortable with my male best friend.
But my boyfriend would still be furious if I showered together with him.
And no, gender doesn't matter My best friend has no interest in me, and I have never in my life seen him as a potential intimate partner So there is as much attraction as I have to other women.
Point being, getting that close with others oversteps boundaries for many.
You are an absolutely beautiful soul for accepting your husband’s cultural norms without any problem at all. To your surprise, it ended up being such a wonderful thing. You ended up with a wonderful husband and an amazing mother-in-law who goes above and beyond for you, your husband, and your children.
Your parents can’t dictate and have to understand that your son favors his grandparents on his dad’s side more. Your parents have shown time and time again that they aren’t determined to be as involved in your kids’ lives, and that’s only a fault of their own. They haven’t lifted a finger to help you in ways that your mother-in-law has done, and they aren’t around as much and aren’t really as close to your kids as your mother-in-law is.
The best advice I can give you is to continue putting your foot down with your parents and your relatives. As soon as they start complaining to you and getting upset about something they cannot control, I would shut the conversation down and would tell them you’ll talk later because now is not a good time. It’s honestly up to them to step up and to be better grandparents and to be more involved if they want any kind of special treatment or to be treated equally to your mother-in-law.
If all you are hearing is complaints- and if this never stops or they never choose to step up their game- I would possibly lessen contact until they learn to respect you and your family and to stop trying to controlling situations they truly cannot change. I issued an ultimatum to my own mom a while back because she was constantly insulting and trying to control my parenting. I told her if she didn’t work on this, she would never see her grandkids again and I would go no contact.
Guess what? It worked. My mom made a huge effort to change. Our relationship is so much better now because my mom saw the error of her ways. If your parents see that they’re only causing more harm than good, maybe an ultimatum would help as a final effort to push them to change. They may not like it, but it’s their fault that things are like this and they shouldn’t look down on you because of this. It’s out of your control and completely out of theirs.
The porn I like is very different from who my wife is. I love my wife with all my heart. I wouldn’t change a thing about her.
porn is just there to get you off. It has nothing to do with your desires in your partner. Just ignore it and move on.
OP, why SHOULD you tolerate it any longer? LEAVE. HER. This isnt love and its better to be alone than to put up with any type of abuse.
I think its more to do with my genetics. I am pretty ugly so I definitely don't see women as sex partners at all. My mom also has a lot of social anxiety(as a child she used to hide under the bed when a guest came to the house) and I just inherited it. Combine that with the fact that I have never talked to any woman ever and its pretty obvious why I have this anxiety. Please don't think that I think of women as sex partners only, its genetic
A good, healthy partner will build you up, not tear you down. He is not a good partner.
Here's the hard part: He won't change unless he wants to. You can try telling him how you feel about being torn down all the time, but that's it. After that, it's up to him.
Now it's up to you to decide if you want to spend your life with someone who will tear you down. If it's not the weight, it will be something else (aging, wrinkles, not being in great shape, what kind of mother you are,, etc etc etc)
This will not end with weight loss.
You keep saying “child.” OP is 24 years old. His mother is drawing a boundary with her adult son, why isn’t she allowed to do that?
Because adults don't get to dictate the relationships of other adults, and it is beyond arrogant to so so.
He gets head before sex. That's a win right there. Probably just unrealistic expectations of sex cause of porn, and thinks all of that is real.
The feed back you are getting here is pretty consistent though.
I used to do this sort of thing for an ex when I was late teens/early twenties. And it was because I wanted to keep having a relationship with a person who was functioning to a certain level of cleanliness, organisation and maturity. I knew if I stopped helping him out, I'd be stuck with a partner who was just stumbling through life. It took some time for me to realise that I was just masking the problem, and he wasn't really what I wanted, I was just helping him to appear as though he was.
A relationship shouldn't be one of you worrying about how the other will cope if you don't take on a huge burden. It's meant to be two equal people who manage their own daily lives and just enjoy spending time together. The minute you feel you have to support him by doing his life admin, he's clearly not fitting the bill of the type of self-sufficient adult you want to be with.
Honestly I’d call it a blessing that he spelled out so clearly and so completely that he is such a totally insufficient partner, and generally bad person.
I think you’re right to pass on therapy here. There isn’t a point to therapy bc he doesn’t value you as a person. He values your potential to be a suitable accessory in his life. He does not see you as an autonomous person with the same full humanity as a man. And he told you this outright. Thank god for small blessings because this should actually make it much easier for you to move on!
Lmao ? oh yes I’m cancelling for sure. Already cancelled the hotel. Plane is tricky but I can always take a friend
I definitely see that OPs sisters have scapegoated him and the parents won't do anything about it. But that's what I mean, why? How did things end up this way? Because OPs story is hinting that there is something more going on, something conspiratorial almost.
If that’s true, the last thing she needs is a new boyfriend. We get therapy after leaving an abusive relationship. But. It appears she may have lied.
Masturbating at work is NOT normal.
Two questions…
Why are you continuing to stay married to that piece of shit husband of yours? You are prolonging the inevitable. Rip the band aid off.
Why are you continuing a friendship with that piece of shit friend of yours? That is not a friend, that is a prime example of why women urge each other to watch their friends, as some are real snakes in the grass.
Good God no
Read your other posts and have no clue why you are so desperate to get back together with him. He sounds awful. Just walk away and get some therapy if you still find yourself wanting to talk to him