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If this is your partner's sibling (which is sounds like he is, as opposed to your sibling's partner) then your partner needs to take point on this. He is clearly not well and unless he has some actual evidence of something you've don't to wrong him, then this is an issue of how he's treating you, not the other way around.
Most likely, from the sound of it, you haven't actually done anything, so there is absolutely no need for you to sit down with him. Someone should really strongly urge him to work on this with a professional, but you don't have time for this and it's not your fault. Is he jealous of the new baby for causing changes, or of the fact that you and your partner are experiencing things like home ownership and parenthood? It's entirely possible, but, again, not your fault, and not healthy.
If you're going to say anything at all, let it be along the lines of: “If you can give me an example of something specific that I've done that's upset you, I'd like to talk about it and have a chance to make it right. But it sounds like you're describing our past interactions in a way that doesn't at all square with what [partner] and I experienced. I hope you can understand why that's concerning to me when I thought we had established a good relationship.” Again, though, I think that should come from your partner and I think your partner should very vocally stand up for you and say that BIL isn't welcome until he can get his attitude right.
Just insistent staring is quite enough to be frightening. Perhaps you have never experienced walking alone and being stared at by groups of men looking at you like they are hungry dogs and you are a piece of meat.
Y’all might not be a good fit, relationship wise.
It’s always good to get a perspective that’s so certain. ? I appreciate it. I’ve always held her at arms length and endured her cruelty for the sake of my kids. I want my kids to have grandparents, of course. She was great when they were little. When they got older things changed and they could see who she was.
My brothers are treated differently. My oldest son is treated like them. My daughter is treated like me. My son sees it clear as day and wants nothing to do with it.
This might be unpopular, but I actually think these are subtle signs he is not the one for you, and vice versa. I think you’re right to become curious about what your gut is saying, because I think you know that you would never have a conversation like that with “your person” that left you feeling this way.
I’m sure he’s a lovely person, and this isn’t a moral judgment of him or a disparagement of any time you spend with him.
I’m simply saying that I believe someday when things run their course, you will look back and realize these were some early signs that it wasn’t meant to be. And that’s ok.
It may be time to start focusing more on what you want out of life for yourself, and out of a partner in the future.
??? why thank you. Had no idea that meant sarcasm
Yeah her behavior is suspicious. It's understandable that she became defensive when you confronted her about it because no one really likes to have to explain themselves to another person BUT if it had been an innocent thing, I would think she would have ultimately admitted to it, said it was stupid, etc. since, typically, that is what one would do if there wasn't anything nefarious behind their behavior. What makes me suspicious is something that she said, specifically that you were “crazy”, “paranoid”, and basically that you had made the whole thing up… I say this because I heard the exact same thing when I had confronted a bf after coming across some incriminating pics & texts. By the time he was done “explaining”, I actually did start to question what it was that I actually did see! Well, as the saying goes:. fool me once – shame on you, fool me twice – shame on me. Some time later, I actually ended up catching him red-handed with someone else. So, what I'm trying to say is, trust your gut! Even if she was reenacting some kind of dream/fantasy while taking a bath (I'm not excusing her behavior, cause I agree, that whole setup sounds weird), it may have been innocent enough… but, why Google a name of a hotel? Because someone is planning to meet someone else there….
Yes, it’s gaslighting and an attempt to dismiss your true emotions and make you feel like you’re crazy. Do not tolerate that shit.
Thank you, I completely agree with the “give what you get” perspective and appreciate your advice
Did you read the entire post? Nope. You did not. I understand reading comprehension is hot.
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There is something going on with this guy, and I assure you, I promise you, you don't want to find out what it is.
This is fucked up. Do not follow this. Red flags only.
I strongly suggest blocking him, but I know you're not going to do that, so the alternate is to tell him to let you know when he's ready to meet IRL and not contact you again until then. And don't reply back.
I think that is a very harmless comment. Sounds like he was trying to express his gratitude.
When we first met we talked about kids. I said it’s a big decision I think most people take too lightly
This is so true.
You should definitely be sure about this before you do it.
I think if I’m not 100% sure then I shouldn’t.
Agreed! This is a door which swings only one way.
There is no “undo” key for having children, the same way you can't “un-ring” a bell, or “un-pop” a balloon.
So when you do have kids, you better be sure you want them, because they don't take those returns at Walmart!
I suffer from panic attacks and anxiety so I’m just not sure I’d handle a child well. I also want to vomit/get nausea even thinking about birth or my IUD. I am an athlete and the idea of giving up my body and time just isn’t a great thing in my book.
All these things argue against you having children.
We had an argument the other day.
Hehe… speaking of “arguments”… ?
I said if we’re going to have kids then we need to do couples therapy.
“Getting married” is probably something you should think about, as well.
He has issues with being patient and getting upset quickly and I don’t want kids to go through that.
Hell, never mind the kids… I don't want you to go through that!
All that storm and stress isn't good, with or without children.
He has a degree in psychology so it’s not like he’s talking out of his ass.
Then he should see about getting his money back, because couples therapy is quite viable, and often necessary and beneficial.
His “not believing in it” makes absolutely zero sense, and probably isn't based on anything actual, tangible or real.
Now he asked for time to think. What in the world do I do next?
While his back is turned, slip out the door.
You and he are at an impasse which I don't see you resolving to anyone's long-term satisfaction.
He wants you to bang out babies, which will totally wreck your body. I'm not feeling good about the kind of family dynamic in which these children will grow up, and you yourself said you have panic attacks, which would definitely interfere with your ability to care for children.
All good reasons for you to not have children.
I think each of you would be better off with people with views similar to your own.
Okay so just walk me through this.
Let’s say your rent is $1000. 50/50 means you both pay $500. Does she write down that she contributes $500 but only pays forward $400? Or does she simply not know what the actual costs are and writes an estimation of what she’s putting in?
These bills are pretty cut and dry. It’s not like splitting groceries and meals out where sometimes a trip can be $200 and sometimes it’s $20.
If she is just saying she’s putting in her half but is coming short, that’s something you need to address with her head-on. If it’s putting a strain on you because you need to work more to cover her portion, you’ll need to get to the root of why she’s coming up short.
An easy fix would be to have a joint account where you both put in your 50/50 each month so there’s no ambiguity. She can write down all she wants at the end of the day but it doesn’t change the amount she should be contributing. Make a spreadsheet of the bills you share. There should be no ambiguity.
This is my last comment. I am a prolifer. I care about the life of the unborn child and I care about the pregnant mother.
Just out of curiosity, does she take care of her appearance? Does she exercise? Do you guys go on dates and still put effort into keeping the relationship fun and playful? Do you guys flirt?
Flowers & chocolate can be cheap. I give it to my gf frequently and only spend 30 bucks a month on it. But say something like you would rather he save or invest however much he’s spending until you guys are more stable. Honestly if a women tells me that I think she’s a keeper
My husband did not like that answer and said that there was no time limit on baby trapping, and that my intentions were clearly not pure given how I was acting as if his concerns were a joke. He said he had trusted me in the past, but me laughing in his face gave him no reason to trust me now.
“SO, I understand that it's terrible what your friend is going through, however, you need to realise how insulting your comments actually are. We've been married for 7 years, and we made the CONSCIOUS decision to have unprotected sex together to try and conceive a child. How is this baby-trapping? I could easily turn the situation around and claim that YOU baby-trapped me. I think at this point, we should enroll in individual and couple's counseling.”
Well now I can’t.. he called me a little while ago and I asked him about last night and what he did, no mention of the strip club until I told him I saw his location. He told me that the strip club was planned all along but he just didn’t tell me it was part of the plan.
Did you always wear condoms?
Sorry, but Lily is above your intentions. You aren’t qualified to help a traumatized teenager, no matter how well intended.
Your wife needs to come first and she can’t be guilted because this isn’t working for her anymore.
Obviously, Lily needs housing. Perhaps get a social worker onboard and make that happen, with a very clear end date in mind.
I’m sorry OP, but he’s lying about not finding her attractive to not hurt your feelings or cause you two to break up.
He has feelings for her. And she has feelings for him.
To confirm, I would propose you and Ashley get together to talk. Just the two of you and hash it out. Just be blunt and put on your best face and just talk about how her and your fiancé seem to have a lot in common and it’s making you think. In the best way you can, kind of insinuate that you’re not sure about your relationship with him and make stuff up about flaws he has that is making you reconsider being with him. Then ask her “do you think that if I broke up with fiancé you would want to be with him instead?”
I know this is messed up to put her in a trap like this, but you know your fiancé would never tell you the truth of how he feels about Ashley, so maybe if you ask Ashley instead and phrase it like you will break up with fiancé eventually, you could get the truth out of Ashley and then collect your feeling and go from there wherever you want to go in your relationship.
You need to come to terms with yourself and realize if them being around one another is bothering you, maybe it’s best to just break things off too if you don’t feel comfortable asking Ashley if she would want your fiancé or not.
It’s hot having low self esteem and sitting back and seeing your fiancé react to someone who has more in common with him than you do, that’s why you need to really ask yourself, “should I just nuke the relationship with Ashley all together and tell fiancé why and hope that if he loves me he will agree that Ashley isn’t good to keep in our lives if it’s affecting me this bad?”
Or
Just leave the relationship and let fiancé decide what to do with his feelings.
Ask him if he has a crush on her and if he doesn’t, propose the idea of cutting Ashley out of both of your lives to save your relationship. If he’s not okay with that, then there IS something there that he’s not being honest with you about.
Either way, you need to figure out if this is something you can control, or if it’s something other people can control for the sake of YOU.
I would say work on yourself to get your esteem in a better and stable place.
But also, figure out your boundaries too. Like do you feel it’s a boundary for the future men in your life to have female friends? Or what are you okay with and what aren’t you okay with your future partners doing things with other women in the future.
Good luck OP! You’re not alone in your feelings
Yes, your husband actually sounds like a decent man. And I am not saying you should leave him.
But be aware that you missed out on a number of formative years in your life where you could and should have made all kinds of experiences on your own so as to develop a better sense of who you are and who you want to be, and also who you want to be with.
By being forced into marriage, even though with a good man, a lot of your development over the past years has necessarily been influenced by your husband – you weren’t totally free to make your own choices. That’s what other commenters mean by being groomed. Your perception of anything has been influenced by what your husband has told you about those things.
Since your husband seems to be a good guy, you may actually continue to be happy with him. So you certainly don’t have to break up. But you need to make a conscious effort to find out – for every decision you make, every opinion you build etc – how you really, personally think about these things and what influence comes from your partner’s opinions.
Don't blame yourself be for your boyfriend's choices… We are all imperfect in our relationships and don't deserve to be ditched that way regardless.
Moving on, is just continuing to live! your life and keep moving forward. They also say that living well is the best revenge…. So just keep working on yourself and building your life to your ideal of living well.
Wife =/= free therapist. But guys love to try to this because they can get “therapy” without admitting they’re getting “therapy.” And if you never create boundaries around this many of them will take full advantage. I’ve encouraged my boyfriend to both get therapy (he got a business coach which is close enough for the types of things he was venting about) and more guy friends he can talk to and be vulnerable with. This has helped immensely in removing some of his compulsive need to just rocket his problems at me without even asking how my day is.
What? You’re both consenting adults, how can you get in trouble for exchanging nudes?
He needs to man up. She's going to ruin every relationship he has. Maybe he kind of likes it, keeps him feeling wanted?
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Today, my boyfriend (18M) told me (18F) that I am a fish in bed. This left me absolutely horrified. We have been in a relationship for around 10 months. I feel like I always try and make him feel good, starting with touching him and running my hands along his body and then onto the BJ/HJ combo even before we start sex. I don’t just lay in bed during sex either. I’ll often either talk to him dirty, kiss him, touch, grab and make noises. I tell him how great he makes me feel. I even make it a point to ask if he’s enjoying the sex and if there’s anything I can do to make it better, but he always responds by telling me he feels great. On one hand, we rarely have a space to ourselves, since we share our house with a roommate. Whenever our roommate is home I make an effort to be quieter and not be rough/on top since the bed is loud and squeaky and I don’t want to disturb them. He knows this. I’ve always felt a little insecure about how I look and how I do in bed because I feel the need to compete with porn and be the best girlfriend I can be to please him. What should I do?
TLDR: Boyfriend said I act like a fish in bed when I try my hardest not to already. What should I do?
So, why didn’t you offer to pay the up-charge for the better hotels? If it matters that much, offer to pay.
Why are you measuring his affection by how much he spends?
I would say we’re very compatible in most aspects except when it comes to romance.
Sounds like you'd be great friends then
God I hope his relationship falls apart bc that poor woman deserves so much more than his sorry ass.
I currently can't live! off of it. I also recieve a small stipend from the government for disability. I can't work full time because I'm disabled but I've been growing my business as something I can online off of in a few years time within my limitations. But it does generate revenue as I was expanding constantly and managed to pay off all my debt.
Progress got delayed due to covid and also some health stuff that I didn't mention. Ive recently had surgery to help me function better and business is starting up again. I still have a strong following that loved my brand and has been supportive about my recovery and is waiting for my return.
But I know where my growth was before and the direction I need to continue in for my industry. I don't feel like making random things that I'm not passionate will work towards that goal. I have zero passion to do random brands just because they're popular. And fanart is a good starting place but if you want to grow big you must eventually do your own thing. That's my experience in the art industry.
Also. The relationship is barely 2 months old and we don't online in the same country. I'm not expecting him to support me and I'm not asking for any of his money. He was completely aware of my situation when we met and I'm not financially dependent on him.
There is nothing to be ashamed of. You were curious, you tried it, you know now you don’t want it. At the same time, hookups aren’t making you happy. Get off the hookup apps if not apps all together. Find the more serious dating apps and don’t hook up right away. Get to know your dates.
Oh yeah, I forgot to add, she has an 11yo lol
I suggest growing up. She’s moved on and you should too.
Well I wouldn’t say she double booked. Has she met any of your family before? Maybe she’s just anxious about meeting everyone all at once? I’d try and figure out if there’s anything else. Because the ADHD sounds like a cop out, your plans were first so she could have rescheduled with her dad. Definitely talk to her and let her know your feelings and see if there’s anyway to help.
Well, you’ve been clear about where you stand. I think given everything that’s happened, the onus is on her now to reassure you that her affections lie with you.
Your job here is to keep good boundaries and observe her. Her actions will prove her intent more than her words. She can decide to keep flirting with this guy is she chooses, but you also have the right to decide that she is not being a loyal enough partner for your preferences.
You have been very clear. I wouldn’t say too much more than that as more words will just create more drama and dilute your message.
I’d pull all the way back if I were you. She needs to bridge the distance to make it right. But given her behaviour, I wouldn’t be holding my breath. She’s already shown a high degree of shadiness, and it’s ok if you don’t want to keep her in your trust circle at this stage.
you don't seem sure of a lot tbh.
just break up properly and stop playing games like a bitter child.
You both wanted a baby after a few weeks? You are 34 years old what were you thinking?
It's not because of one person, it's because of your family. If you weren't scared of your reaction, it wouldn't matter if this person shared your content
You were wrong. Period.
You blamed her because you (wrongly) thought you were right.
See the top comment
Maybe you need to grow up and realize you don't know everything and aren't always right?
Why not observe Lily and model yourself on her? Tell her you admire her! If you think something nice about people, tell them! However, she isn’t awkward socially and you can observe how and which words she uses. You are a young woman and just starting out. What you are feeling is envy. Just accept it, but work around it. Your mom has room for more than 2 people in her heart. She no doubt makes a special effort to make Lily feel at home and comfortable. You are needing extra love, so go and hug your mum- you will get it twice back in return. You are not a bad person just work on yourself to overcome your fears. Everyone is much the same as you but has either learnt to cope or been given the tools to cope.
If I'm okay with this for now, is this sustainable?
Probably not. Number one because unequally open relationships are almost never sustainable, and number two because even though you go out of your way to say you're “okay” with this arrangement you almost always qualify it with something like “for now,” or “I'd rather have her in my life in this capacity than not at all.” Whether you realize it or not that is your dissatisfaction with this arrangement seeping out. You do not actually seem okay with this, you're just willing to tolerate it. That is very different.
For a situation like this to work you'd need to love the fact that she has an open relationship and you don't, and you'd need to enjoy seeing these update posts from her with her ex doing couple activities. You'd need to not be sitting there wishing you were doing them with her, or that you had her all to yourself. I don't think any of that is the case with you, is it?
The impression I get is that you're tolerating this because you want her around in some capacity, but if you had your preference you would be a monogamous couple. If that's the case then no, this will not be sustainable at all. Your resentments will build and build until you end up hating her, or her ex, or yourself for going along with this arrangement. This does not seem like something you enthusiastically want, and asymmetrical relationships like this rarely work out even when both partners ARE 100% on board. They're especially doomed when one partner is living it up and the other is quietly trying to endure it.
What do you think an ultimatum is? I’ll stay with you only if you change your mind and have sex with me. It’s coercion. If you want sex that’s fine but she deserves someone who will wait until she’s ready. She obviously isn’t ready.
I apologize I took your “ it’s ok, I’m not impatient “ as you being willing to wait. Apparently not. Which is fine as it’s your sex life. She waited her whole life and you want to rush her when she’s not ready.
Does it really matter whose fault it is? This marriage has been dead for years & you’re both just holding onto the corpse. Why not try to find a healthy way forward as coparents & see if both of you don’t find your mental health improved?
All the other types, for example: Individual racism. Hate crimes, racial slurs, etc.
Tell her you know she's cheated on you and now she needs to find a new living arrangement..You'll do 50/50 custody.
i agree with the therapy the girlfriend needs but i think you need to do a reread
As long as you don’t do anything different, it isn’t different and he should trust you.
But I think clubs are a lot different in the kind of stuff people do there. More drugs than a college party in my experience, more dancing and grinding than a bar.
Dang. That sorry excuse for a husband has big double standards. Being separated doesn’t automatically mean that you sleep around. The state of the relationship during is a separation should be discussed and rules determined before any action to go outside the marriage is taken. He’s the one who decided the relationship was no longer exclusive and you just wanted some comfort and kindness from a man that your spouse wasn’t showing you. Please make the best decision for yourself without any regard to that husband.
Thanks for this!
Did you read my comment? I have adressed it both, apology is useless asvthese are only words. Words are cheap and can mean nothing. She should quit her job asap if she wants to stay with you. No compromises or half measures.
Thanks for this!
So your sister was blackout drunk and didn't know where she was, but your husband barely drank anything – yet she's the problem?
Bruh.
It takes two to tango. Even if she did come on to him, he should've said no. This sounds more like a rape.
She’s absolutely insane and you dodged a nuclear bomb
Use laundry sanitizer and see if that helps. Find someone who has one, or see if you can rent an ozone machine. It will get rid of any smells in your car. There's a detailer I watch on YouTube and he has one and has used it many times.
Use laundry sanitizer and see if that helps. Find someone who has one, or see if you can rent an ozone machine. It will get rid of any smells in your car. There's a detailer I watch on YouTube and he has one and has used it many times.
Ofc there’s way more to this relationship and the things he’s done for me, but I just don’t know how to cater this problem. I feel like going to a club on my own now just to show him that there are no double standards with me.
He’s controlling. Not okay. He’s got you completely isolated to the point that none of his friends even know about you. This isn’t about clubbing. You are in a dangerous situation. Please leave.
He doesn't want an equal partner.
I’m well aware of that honestly I was worried that my latex allergy would prevent us from using condoms and I had stopped birth control because I couldn’t deal with the side effects anymore which was stupid but I love my daughter and I’m glad it happened but I’ll definitely be more careful now
I understand how you can come to that conclusion and I don’t blame you to be fair. But I mostly made this post to hear if others have experienced the same or know of someone who went through something similar and just to hear advice.
I’m not about to drop a 5 year relationship that has seen massive improvement since it’s begun just because of an obstacle that needs a certain approach to be resolved. I’ve gotten through to him in the past and I am optimistic that I can reach him in a way where he can finally click and realise what he’s doing. Like I said. He’s an amazing person, he has a lot of very kind friends and I know he doesn’t do any of this to do intentionally malicious. He’s just not very communicative ??
You clearly have a lot of ambition and goals that you want to prioritize over your boyfriend’s lack of the aforementioned and his mental health. You don’t love him enough to make the relationship a priority, so it wouldn’t be fair to yourself to continue with it. You’d be much better off with someone who constantly strives for success
Get rid of what doesn't bring you joy. If the friendship is done it is done. No big event is needed to make it official. You can just have plans any time she asks to do something. You are busy, no other explanation needed.
Relationships change and that includes friendships. If it doesn't add to your life it is ok to let it go.
An affair isn't a mistake. Putting too many sugars in one's coffee absent-mindedly is a mistake.
Cheating is a series of decisions. Decisions to disrespect one's partner.
Respect yourself, hon, cuz he isn't going to.
The good behavior is a reward for putting up with his shitty behavior. Hardly balances out, does it?
Well, I have tons of other addictions to shopping to read it even to going to school for so long. So I have found other things. But yeah, I had a whole life because of it and that I would’ve never had. I would’ve been dead long ago. Good luck to you.
This one here And he may use the videos to blackmail the grubs that were screwing you. I would start diarising your engagements because you may end up in court the media possibly both. You will need to have some info to keep your memories alive. Just a thought
She was wearing it the first few weeks, shes never been shy about wearing it.
Yup, bi erasure fucking sucks. I assume you mean societal seen as “normal” as there is nothing actually abnormal or wrong with being lbgtqianything. I associate dating straight men with cheating though, icl ??
“We've known each other for 7 years and I'm not particularly visually impaired so I saw what she wears on a daily basis. Not that we're two years in, I want her to be more like %insert someone from a pretty picture%”.
And who did she think she was impressing? Sounds like the kinda FB post I’d screenshot and laugh about with mates.
Her mom thinks I'm a narcissist. When my girlfriend asked why, it's because I got her a gaming chair for Valentine's day and am using it for myself until she moves back in.
Her mom thinks I'm a narcissist. When my girlfriend asked why, it's because I got her a gaming chair for Valentine's day and am using it for myself until she moves back in.
I’m so sorry this is happening to you and your son. Please start documenting everything and consult with a family lawyer. There’s not going back from this and your priority needs to be protecting your son- eventually he’ll end up the target of her abuse if this goes on
I was okay with all the difficulties I was foreseeing and didn’t matter to me if I had to work two jobs if I had to. I stood up for us in front of everyone and held my point until the very end. I absolutely agree that both people should contribute to the well being of the family. It’s just very hot to accept that someone you love might be able to give you that kind of an ultimatum when you have trusted them with all your being and all you wanted to hear was that yes, there might be hardships but love beats them all.
Translation, she liked fucking him, but at some point, she liked fucking you more.
She didn't yell you because she didn't want to lose you, so she kept it hidden all this time. She didn't give you the option to choose for yourself, she gave it now.
So, choose for yourself, a relationship built on a lie? Or freedom, accompanied with some sadness for some time until you move on?
Talk about it sober.
Okay thank you cause I thought I was NUTS reading all of these comments agreeing with the boyfriend.
What's stopping you from asking him?
Something Borrowed is the one that always gets me.
the best thing to do is to not reach out she made her decision she wanted to leave just focus on you and your priorities there will there most likely be a time where she comes back to talk to you because she’ll realize what she lost but in the meantime better yourself and don’t wait for her to reach out one of these days because it’ll stress you out
How is he sweet and sensitive yet he's homophobic and sexist and also disrespectful to you beliefs?
Might be best to post this in a neurodivergent sub so people like her can advise you on how best to approach this.
Sounds to me he has already grieved the relationship and is moving on. Only seeing your partner once every so often you really get to think about the future and what will happen. The man is just trying to live his life and now has his ex all up in his business
It’s a double standard. Double standards exist all around you.
Aka I want to shag this other fella ans see how that goes and if it don’t work out I’ll come back to you. Move on and be happy. It seems like the end of the world now but it’s not
She felt there was a problem and she addressed it with you. That wasn't an easier thing for her to say than it was for you to hear. She was telling you how much she wanted to feel close to you, attracted to you, and like you were the person she married, who took care of himself physically. Was she blunt, was there maybe a better way for her to phrase it. Yes! But what she said was true, and it was necessary. Now you've solved the problem together.
Judging from his reaction I'd guess its something like a gambling addiction so if you are inclined to help him get treatment I'd say there's hope. But I'd let him know where the line is.
if I even try to hunt at it she won’t talk to me for days. And if I try to talk about it she gets even angrier.
I just want to see what other people think.
I think it sounds like you're sexually incompatible and that you have a very unhealthy dynamic.
I think if I were in your shoes with the perspective that I have now (in my mid 30s), I would break up with her and find somebody that I'm sexually compatible with.
Means he is just checking to see if anything changed. Say you were feeling bored or extra horny you might consider giving him your number that night. He just asks in passing to see if you have changed your mind. But I see no examples of him ‘begging you’ beyond the passive ‘can I get your number today?’
Sounds to me like he would be willing to fuck you but that seems about all he is interested in.
What murders?
Chinese people often seem to have a thing about skin color.
Whitening skin is a subject there.
She sounds venomously envious and gatekeeping at the same time.
And boy… she sure IS racistic herself.
Now… it seems to be a situation where you have to chose with what level of bs you are willing to put up in a relationship.
Having to discuss the cast of a film you just happened to watch (NOT make, NOT cast, mind you?!) under such irrational arguments just to verbally have the door slammed into your face just sounds like it is very exhausting to be around that hedgehog lady.
She assumes that people think the exact same thing about her that SHE is thinking about others.
A “mirror mirror” situation.
As the problem isn't YOU but HER… she will likely explode right in your face if you confront her.