I don’t think I could stay with this person. If she can stretch the truth this much and not be at all sorry for what she did to her sisters and what they went through, she just doesn’t sound like a good person. Maybe if she had therapy, but she could certainly turn on OP as well at some point and make stuff up then as well. I certainly would put off a wedding until she’s done some work.
Do you know there are such things as incestuous relationships, right? You had another adult man in your bed and slept with you and you find your husband is sick? I’m sorry at your age and his age even if he is your brother, you don’t sleep in the same bed with him
You're complicating a simple situation. She wants to try a sex thing that you don't want to try. So, say you don't want to try it and the discussion is over. If she wants a spit roast badly enough, she'll break up with you and go find one.
You don’t have it “that bad” but also, you’re not really important in the relationship if you weren’t consulted on something this life changing. Personally I would leave them to their plan and find someone who considers you in their life plan. You are very young and being treated disrespectfully. Leave before you get stuck.
I love being in a room with the door locked. It means no one can barge in and interrupt my thoughts/flow. I have a hot time with emotional boundaries and somehow it helps. You're not coming in until I let you. It feels amazing.
You should ask your GF more about herself and her upbringing before you go straight to paranoia. Communicate!
if he ends up having kids with him and you deep down dont want kids you’ll. probably not take care of them as well and they’ll grow depressed and sad “like us”.
I had great parenting but my parents did some things that fucked me up. they however love and and care for me and apologized. they treat me well.
she doesnt talk with her family…. she has no connections to them other then her mother who she talks to once a month.
We realized this yesterday for the reasons why I do want kids and she doesnt not.
I had a fun childhood and she did not.
theyve been together for 2 years.
Im sure she will come up with a solution with her therapist.
But you may consider that she will stop doing everything you want.
Is he using too much toilet paper?
I don’t think I could stay with this person. If she can stretch the truth this much and not be at all sorry for what she did to her sisters and what they went through, she just doesn’t sound like a good person. Maybe if she had therapy, but she could certainly turn on OP as well at some point and make stuff up then as well. I certainly would put off a wedding until she’s done some work.
Do you know there are such things as incestuous relationships, right? You had another adult man in your bed and slept with you and you find your husband is sick? I’m sorry at your age and his age even if he is your brother, you don’t sleep in the same bed with him
You're complicating a simple situation. She wants to try a sex thing that you don't want to try. So, say you don't want to try it and the discussion is over. If she wants a spit roast badly enough, she'll break up with you and go find one.
You don’t have it “that bad” but also, you’re not really important in the relationship if you weren’t consulted on something this life changing. Personally I would leave them to their plan and find someone who considers you in their life plan. You are very young and being treated disrespectfully. Leave before you get stuck.
I love being in a room with the door locked. It means no one can barge in and interrupt my thoughts/flow. I have a hot time with emotional boundaries and somehow it helps. You're not coming in until I let you. It feels amazing.
You should ask your GF more about herself and her upbringing before you go straight to paranoia. Communicate!
Wha?
100%
yeah i told her this about the kids.
if he ends up having kids with him and you deep down dont want kids you’ll. probably not take care of them as well and they’ll grow depressed and sad “like us”.
I had great parenting but my parents did some things that fucked me up. they however love and and care for me and apologized. they treat me well.
she doesnt talk with her family…. she has no connections to them other then her mother who she talks to once a month.
We realized this yesterday for the reasons why I do want kids and she doesnt not.
I had a fun childhood and she did not.
theyve been together for 2 years.
Im sure she will come up with a solution with her therapist.
I have a gut feeling they will break up…dunno.
He is very very very good to her.