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I guess my fear is that I've tried to set boundaries around my time before and they've all been pushed slowly back to what she prefers. For instance, she is supposed to only be here from Friday to Sunday morning but she always stays until like 4 now or insists I come over her house after we're at my parents house Fri-Sun morning. I have too much personal stuff to do on the weekend to spend the whole thing with her doing nothing but watching TV. I've told her we need to go out with friends for me to be satisfied by the relationship as well and then she just makes excuses for why she can't this time every time. I just think I'm missing out on life a bit and if I say something, things might change for a little, but they go back to her way. Maybe what I'm really asking is – I'm finally at a point in my life where I'm financially stable and could afford to move out on my own. We are saving for a house, but I'm questioning whether to move forward with this based on whether or not I will be able to set and keep my boundaries around my time. She can be pretty demanding and do I really want to have to argue for my needs all the time rather than having them respected on the value that I deserve to make my own decisions.
You havnt even entered the honeymoon period yet
It's good that you're trying to look for opportunities to bring her back into things financially even though your trust was broken.
First, does she want to be an authorized user again on the card? If the temptation or habit to spend is still too much for her, maybe it's good. So ask her perspective where she is in her growth and go from there.
Often we are ashamed that seemingly small steps that feel like we are punishing ourselves like a child are really effective in changing behavior. Maybe just not having a card is the best way for her to keep her spending under control, and that's okay.
Second, are there other ways to get her more integrated into the finances and give her more of that control that makes sense? Maybe she's an authorized user for paying bills, live purchases whatever, but just doesn't carry the physical card with her?
It sounds like you both have a sober view of the work that needs to be done, so troubleshoot with her.
He might change eventually, or this might continue for the rest of his mom’s life. Do you really want to stick around and bankroll him for all the years it will take to find out which will happen first?
You need to find your own interests. It is good to enjoy spending time together but it is healthy to do things apart.
Thank you, kind soul. Reddit gives me hope for myself
Bruh, OP dumb as hell. SMH my head
The cheater leaves the house. If she wants to “figure it out,” then she moves out.
4 month relationship?! Leave her! You're already putting too much effort into this new relationship.
Okei, easy peasy. Leave him. Show his mom the texts and tell her your relationship with his son is over. There is nothing for you to stay on his deathbed for. Seriously, he is dying you are THE LAST PERSON HE WSNTS TO SEE, THE GIRL HE CHEATED ON.
Bro what your ex really meant about that “she needs time to heal” is she really wants to get her back blown out by other guys and have fun and mess around and possibly find someone who she thinks is better while now the meantime she has you on the sideline as a backup just in case she doesn't find anybody or gets tired of getting pumped and dumped
Thank you. I see all these ppl saying leave her she’s disgusting. Would love to hear the wife’s side if this is real.
I just read a post where a man found out later in life that he likes to wear skirts. He's married, and his wife fully supported him. She even bought him a cute skirt for Christmas and he posted himself wearing it on Reddit.
This is the type of support you need. If your girlfriend cannot provide it look for someone who can.
There's nothing charming about the way he asked at all. It comes across as arrogant and presumptuous, and I'm not surprised she was confused and unsure exactly what to say.
i will be careful. thank you.
What….spiritual comment would help here? That's so confusing.
You’re being gaslighted. This is not normal. Or acceptable.
Stop asking these questions. First you ask your rank among his exes and then, after being upset by his response, you then ask what you are on a 1-10 scale and his exes.
Girl, just stop.
I empathize with people who have mental health issues. I have major depression, actually diagnosed by a doctor. But you can't use your depression as an excuse, especially if you are refusing treatment. I wonder if she's avoiding a psychiatrist because she made it up, tbh. I don’t think ultimatums are always useful, but I would absolutely drop an ultimatum in this circumstance. Either she gets a mental health evaluation and treatment and moves toward going back to work, or you leave. It's not fair for her to malinger, if she is even ill, just to avoid working.
I’ve found some of those women to be performatively bi. They maybe like the idea because it’s naked, but aren’t actually into the sex. And if it’s in a threesome situation they’re over the top acting and looking to their male partner for approval. It’s gross.
Jesus. That didn't even cross my mind!! That poor child.
Ragebait or not, either way you’re a creep.
HE RAPED YOU. You need to stick to your guns and end this, and also call the police.
She definitely needs to protect the financials. He could wipe out what little they have left with another episode. I hope she takes this advice
Pressuring you not to wear a condom is a major red flag. If she's 29 and doesn't want to bother with effective contraception methods, that's a major red flag.
The rhythm method is hugely ineffective. If you don't want to have a baby with her, stop having unprotected sex with her. You have the right to say no to unprotected sex.
Have you discussed what you will do if she gets pregnant? Do you really want to have a baby with someone who isn't responsible enough to engage in basic contraception?
Ecaf, your GF's strong abandonment fear — as well as her abusive and controlling behaviors — may be due to her having very weak control over her own emotions (i.e., a lack of emotional skills she had no opportunity to acquire in childhood). My exW has this problem. If that is an issue for your GF, you likely have been seeing 3 other warning signs.
First, you would be seeing her rely heavily on black-white thinking, wherein she tends to categorize some people as “all good” (“with me”) or “all bad” (“against me”) and will recategorize them — in just a few seconds — from one polar extreme to the other based on a minor infraction.
Because she also uses B-W thinking in judging HERSELF, she would rarely acknowledge making a mistake or having a flaw. Doing so would imply, in her mind, she is “all bad.” She thus would blame nearly all misfortunes and mistakes on you and view herself as “The Victim.”
Further, to validate her “victim” status, she would keep a detailed mental list of every infraction/mistake you ever did (real or imagined) and would not hesitate to pull out the entire list to defend herself in the smallest, most insignificant disagreement with you. Moreover, this B-W thinking also would be evident in her frequent use of all-or-nothing expressions like “you ALWAYS…” and “you NEVER….”
Second, you would not see her expressing her anger to casual friends, classmates, or total strangers. She usually gets along fine with them. Rather, her temper tantrums almost exclusively would be expressed against a close loved one (e.g., against you or her parents).
Third, you are convinced she truly loves you. But you often see her flipping, on a dime, between Jekyll (loving you) and Hyde (devaluing or hating you), often making you feel like you're walking on eggshells. Such flips would occur in a few seconds in response to some minor thing you say or do.
Ecaf, have you been seeing strong occurrences of these 3 red flags?