Why do my feelings matter more? Is that how it seems, that i just care about me? It feels like from my perspective I’ve made sure to make what he feels a priority, by not pushing him or demanding he interact with them despite how it made me feel that he wasn’t interacting with my family or visiting them. If you are asking who’s feelings matter more I feel like it would be more accurate to ask why don’t my feelings take priority for this one time period.
Maybe it’s sad or pathetic, I don’t know, but my parents were basically my only friends growing up, I was a lonely kid. They mean a lot to me. When I visit I’m there to see them and enjoy being in the same home as them. I don’t know how else to explain that it isn’t odd for me to stay at their home when I visit. That is an aside though because we can’t even afford to not stay with them when we visit, we have to.
Thank you for your answer. If it helps, he is Spanish and they tend to be very defensive about their families so I thought that maybe it's just the culture clash for me.
Thank you for your answer. If it helps, he is Spanish and they tend to be very defensive about their families so I thought that maybe it's just the culture clash for me.
His job can pull him at any point for any reason. I’m not comfortable revealing what he does but I have witnessed him receive calls where he’s had to drop everything and race to work. I respect that, but it’s not consistently every day. It’s maybe twice a week & his job is aware he has a family. I don’t understand why he couldn’t just drop them with me on his way in if he gets called in. But I know they are worried about if I’m busy or he doesn’t have time…
What are the good things you share with him?
Why do my feelings matter more? Is that how it seems, that i just care about me? It feels like from my perspective I’ve made sure to make what he feels a priority, by not pushing him or demanding he interact with them despite how it made me feel that he wasn’t interacting with my family or visiting them. If you are asking who’s feelings matter more I feel like it would be more accurate to ask why don’t my feelings take priority for this one time period.
Maybe it’s sad or pathetic, I don’t know, but my parents were basically my only friends growing up, I was a lonely kid. They mean a lot to me. When I visit I’m there to see them and enjoy being in the same home as them. I don’t know how else to explain that it isn’t odd for me to stay at their home when I visit. That is an aside though because we can’t even afford to not stay with them when we visit, we have to.
Thank you for your answer. If it helps, he is Spanish and they tend to be very defensive about their families so I thought that maybe it's just the culture clash for me.
Thank you for your answer. If it helps, he is Spanish and they tend to be very defensive about their families so I thought that maybe it's just the culture clash for me.
His job can pull him at any point for any reason. I’m not comfortable revealing what he does but I have witnessed him receive calls where he’s had to drop everything and race to work. I respect that, but it’s not consistently every day. It’s maybe twice a week & his job is aware he has a family. I don’t understand why he couldn’t just drop them with me on his way in if he gets called in. But I know they are worried about if I’m busy or he doesn’t have time…
Buy what you need next time and let him buy what he needs.