Why haven’t you set up boundaries and stopped it from even getting to this point? This is now an emotional entanglement you are a part of that your fiancée is unaware of. If she doesn’t consider it cheating, you’d still be on thin ice for entertaining this random woman who popped back into your life.
Why would you marry such a selfish lover who told you he will never change or even try, and later expect things to be different?
I'm not trying to be cruel, but I am being realistic. Sure, you can try couples/sex therapy, but if he doesn't want to try and change, it will never happen.
You need to start to think about if you want to be in a miserable, selfish, unsatisfying marriage and have your kids view that as what relationships should be, or if you want to show them that standing up for yourself and refusing to settle for less than you deserve is a great, healthy thing to do.
Yeah I don't like buying dinner for my younger siblings either… don't you get it, you're like a mom he has sex with. You have grandma duties with his daughter.
She was a child in a severely dysfunctional abusive situations. The “unabused” or favored child isn’t free from harm. It was perhaps adaptive for her to identify with the princess role to maintain parental attachment. Even though she didn’t know that SA was occurring, there would have been funky happenings and family dynamics, including triangulation, pretense and denial, etc. Learning of the SA was undoubtedly traumatic. She may not have the ego strength to process her childhood experiences and this trauma. She should be in therapy or you both in therapy. Someone does need to report this abuser to his licensing agency.
Dad actually kicked the son to the curb. Mom just took him in. My suspicion is Mom is also tired of the son in her home and is trying to get him back into our basement, which is never going to happen. Sorry that was not super clear.
Why haven’t you set up boundaries and stopped it from even getting to this point? This is now an emotional entanglement you are a part of that your fiancée is unaware of. If she doesn’t consider it cheating, you’d still be on thin ice for entertaining this random woman who popped back into your life.
Why would you marry such a selfish lover who told you he will never change or even try, and later expect things to be different?
I'm not trying to be cruel, but I am being realistic. Sure, you can try couples/sex therapy, but if he doesn't want to try and change, it will never happen.
You need to start to think about if you want to be in a miserable, selfish, unsatisfying marriage and have your kids view that as what relationships should be, or if you want to show them that standing up for yourself and refusing to settle for less than you deserve is a great, healthy thing to do.
Dude just remember, you are the one banging her now. The ex can watch whatever he wants – you got the real thing.
Yeah I don't like buying dinner for my younger siblings either… don't you get it, you're like a mom he has sex with. You have grandma duties with his daughter.
She put you at risk of STD, hopefully the risk of pregnancy is very low, but it is still there.
She totally disrespected you, do you really want to be with someone like that?
You handled it very maturely, take some time to heal and reflect on what you want for your future.
She was a child in a severely dysfunctional abusive situations. The “unabused” or favored child isn’t free from harm. It was perhaps adaptive for her to identify with the princess role to maintain parental attachment. Even though she didn’t know that SA was occurring, there would have been funky happenings and family dynamics, including triangulation, pretense and denial, etc. Learning of the SA was undoubtedly traumatic. She may not have the ego strength to process her childhood experiences and this trauma. She should be in therapy or you both in therapy. Someone does need to report this abuser to his licensing agency.
Block the lot of them (except for the one who showed up) and then find ACTUAL friends.
Stay away from your neighbor. And fyi it's not exceptional, it's just garden variety lust.
Dad actually kicked the son to the curb. Mom just took him in. My suspicion is Mom is also tired of the son in her home and is trying to get him back into our basement, which is never going to happen. Sorry that was not super clear.
Have you not heard of this thing called the Molotov-Ribbentrop pact?