Traveling home is fine, but four times a year is an overkill. Especially when you have a small kid. Once a year for two weeks is already a lot. A lot of people in my extended family emigrated and they usually come back once a year at most. Your husband is being reasonable.
You have been together 9 months and living together for 9 months? That doesn’t make sense.
Anyway, I do understand where you are coming from. When my girlfriend and I were living in an apartment together we split the rent and bills 50/50 which seemed totally fair. I bought a house. I don’t feel right making her pay half of my mortgage because I get all of the equity and if we break up she gets nothing. We agreed that she pays me some rent, but definitely less than half of the mortgage. In general I wouldn’t move with someone that expected me to pay half of their mortgage nor would expect someone to pay half of mine. Of course there are other factors involved such as relative incomes, the amount of the mortgage ect.
3 big red flags in 1 short post buddy… you're young. Please leave. You're afraid to talk to her? Because she will get mad? That's not a good start for a relationship. She won't delete the videos even after you ask? Horrible. She lied about it and made you think she did? Boy…
Hun you just need to learn leave. Really. Don't put up with that.
Dump her she’s wants to sleep her way through the fraternity.
Traveling home is fine, but four times a year is an overkill. Especially when you have a small kid. Once a year for two weeks is already a lot. A lot of people in my extended family emigrated and they usually come back once a year at most. Your husband is being reasonable.
Thank you. I do have to take this one day at a time and not spiral down due to overthinking
Thank you. So you think he wasn’t blacked out?
You have been together 9 months and living together for 9 months? That doesn’t make sense.
Anyway, I do understand where you are coming from. When my girlfriend and I were living in an apartment together we split the rent and bills 50/50 which seemed totally fair. I bought a house. I don’t feel right making her pay half of my mortgage because I get all of the equity and if we break up she gets nothing. We agreed that she pays me some rent, but definitely less than half of the mortgage. In general I wouldn’t move with someone that expected me to pay half of their mortgage nor would expect someone to pay half of mine. Of course there are other factors involved such as relative incomes, the amount of the mortgage ect.
3 big red flags in 1 short post buddy… you're young. Please leave. You're afraid to talk to her? Because she will get mad? That's not a good start for a relationship. She won't delete the videos even after you ask? Horrible. She lied about it and made you think she did? Boy…
Hun you just need to learn leave. Really. Don't put up with that.
Oh, fuck off.
Both! At the same time or one after the other. It’s really up to you, it’s your wedding!
Yeah kids are the most influenced or fragile 0-5. At 8, he'll be fine as long as there is love in each household