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destroy my ass with my love and you will exploit a lot , ♥♥ welcome to all guys ♥♥
Date: October 22, 2022
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destroy my ass with my love and you will exploit a lot , ♥♥ welcome to all guys ♥♥
If your mistakes involve breaking trust, then forgiving and forgetting is a very tall order. It's even tougher if the trust breaker doesn't want to take any actual ownership or accountability for their bad choices and simply just wants the hurt party to get over it, forgive and forget.
A bunch of 29 year olds make a bet to have sex with and humiliate an 18 year old in order to put her in her place. That is extremely disgusting. They are a bunch of predators. Your step brother included for being friends with these kinds of people.
My therapist actually was the one to suggest it, and said it’s something many people do, especially when said workplaces holds strong moral values. I really appreciate your time in answering my question, but it’s clear you don’t have empathy for my situation. Thank you anyway!
Y’all need to stop ?
As pointed out, it's her insecurities. I would maybe explain how you want to share it with her BECAUSE she's the most important person that you care about in terms of support. That you love her regardless and your there for her.
Worthy to note, therapy might not be a bad idea for her
And it's still just as much a betrayal of trust. So you should breakup
Don't do anything just because you feel you should. One day it will just feel right x
It's not normal for parents to drive their adult daughter to college. It wasn't normal for kids K-12 to be driven to school when I attended, those who got driven were the exception.
It’s just that why would he have told me that he liked me??? and made plans with me and complimented me??
What’s the point. If you speak so low of her. (Understandably) why go through the process of getting a place, deposit, furniture. To be mad all the time and stressed. Then eventually breaking up and splitting everything, or possibly getting her pregnant and then deciding what to do when she’s going 50 in a school zone with a baby in the back seat. Like having fun is one thing but at 20 doing ding dong ditch and shit. Like that’s just stupid. If she’s not on the same maturity level as you there’s nothing wrong with moving on. Your both so young.
I'm sorry to hear that. You deserve an explanation at least. I'll try to help, but I want to explain that I can relate in this way: I stopped speaking to my mother 12 years ago. Every year on her birthday I felt guilty for not calling her. Eventually that downgraded into only feeling awkward. Now, I'm surprised if I remember it at all.
Our situations differ, though, so my advice might seem “generic.” Go out with friends or focus on something you want to do. Understand, however, that in those quiet moments your mind will wander and you're going to think about it. And that's okay. Feel those feelings. Process them. Acknowledge that it's okay to feel that way. Validate your emotions. Then pick yourself back up and get back to doing something else that occupies your mind.
Good luck.
“As an abuse survivor, I've perfected the art of using all the right words to convince myself that I'm not still a victim”.
There… I've corrected it for you.
Yeah, I'm sure this is why she doesn't want to do anything about it. If they report it to the DMV, he's probably going to get fired. So now instead of just a creep, she has a creep with a vendetta who knows her addresses.
If they report to the police as well, the police will maybe take a report, but they won't do anything about it. I do wonder, though, what if the DMV pursued legal action for the guy stealing information like that? They probably won't because they won't want to bring attention to it.
I do think the right thing to do is to report to the DMV and make a police report so that there's at least a paper trail. But at the same time, I don't blame OP's gf for wanting to just wait it out and hope it blows over.
Thank you 🙂
If he was sorry, he wouldnt even last a minute and tell you even during the trip or the moment he came home. If you hadn’t found the picture he wouldn’t even tell you and continue his happy life. Those tears don’t mean guilt, its bc of trouble he got in with you so it’s hard but don’t lie to yourself and move on. this cheater and liars doesn’t deserve you
Ahh, I probably should have mentioned that he has said multiple times that he still cares about me and wants to be in my life. It’s also hard for him to come and see me because of how far away he is with university 🙁 the only reason I’m seeing him in a few days is because he’s coming back home for the holidays! Thank you for your reply ❤️
The fact that he’s judging you based on something from 11 years ago, let alone from highschool is really telling.
He sounds dope lol
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If I were living somewhere rent free, I’d be saving about $1800-$2000 a month, since that’s the cost of a studio apt + utilities in my city. I’d then feel inclined to do $1800-$2000 worth of dishes and laundry per month. I don’t think anybody has $2K worth of dishes or laundry per month, so I’d feel the need to pitch in at least some money, but that’s just me.
You’re proof that weight doesn’t tell you the whole story. I’m 6’ tall also and have a very large frame. I have a muscular build, barrel chest, and really broad shoulders. When I was in my 20s and really fit, I weighed 220. At one point I got down to 200 and I was skinny
He doesn’t get the fact that many (most?) cultures in the world equate feeding people as an expression of love, comfort, or hospitality. Sounds like it didn’t work that way in his household growing up. How often do you walk into someone’s house and the first thing they do is offer you something to drink or something to eat? You keep doing you. Make him aware that he’s the odd man out here. It’s not about compliments, it’s about comfort and love.
what the fuck is wrong with you to compare being sexually assaulted to drink driving???? is your head empty?? does it rattle when you move?? fucking hell. YOU CANNOT CONSENT WHILST DRUNK.
People get murdered for shit like that
Just sounds like you need to meet different people closer to your age range. Saying everyone in their 20s but you is “super shallow and too naive” just comea across as judgemental and egotistical
Dating someone from work can get pretty messy and adding a 17 year age gap on top of that? Yikes.
You're both in VERY different stages of life right now.
Do I get involved if he accuses her of cheating on him with me? (Which is not the case) because he has done that (that to on my birthday!), He called her up and told her “Is this the guy you cheated on me with”
That's terrible of him!. No bf should take vacation with another girl, regardless whether she is a lesbian or not!!!. He didnt even tell you??.
OP. it seems like you are only sharing a piece of red flags by your bf here. Im sure there are more. Please re-think.
Do not be a better person to get back with her. Be a better person for yourself
maybe it’s not relevant but it’s worth pointing out that smelling another woman’s perfume is like the most cliche way that people find out their SO is cheating, so it makes sense that a cheating accusation would immediately come to mind regardless
It's even more weird that you can't accept the simple fact that two human beings can be in love with a 5 year age gap.
How Naive!
I appreciate the callout.
Yes, I could spare a few hours a week, provided it's on a free day, which would require waiting a couple months for an open slot on one of those days. But I could do it. And I could ask for privacy. I think it would be selfish to, but I could. I am aware that I could do these things, but having weighed the options, I don't think either is worth it.
I'm not blaming (most of) my mental health on my father. That's on me. I've failed to handle it and that's my fault. But I still don't want to be around him, and I don't see the possibility of a happy future and I don't value my life all that much, so I'd still view that high risk as a preferable option. Perhaps because I'm an arrogant kid and I've never experienced poverty or genuine hardship. But there's nothing I want, so I have nothing to lose but the basic comfort that I don't deserve and haven't earned.
Nah three dates is not enough for everyone to join a family dinner.
If you were head over heels for her you would have gone to dinner but you’re not, you’re just figuring her out.
If she broke things off because you wanted more time before that type of thing, and assuming you communicated it correctly, then she is just moving much faster than you are.
You could message her and just ask, like “hey, I have a weird feeling about how this all went down, did me skipping family dinner play a part in you ending things romantically with me?”
At least then you can get some closure on the situation. Even if she lies and says it didn’t. Hah
But yeah she is taking it way faster than you, and way too serious way too quick if she is willing to end it like that.
Tell him to grow the fuck up! No one is owed sex and he needs to not get pissy with you for saying no
It sounds like you behaving like a jerk is an everyday thing, though.
It’s almost always true that the cover up is worse than the crime. What you did in the first place is not a huge deal. It sounds like you had your actual age in the bio, so maybe you didn’t even do anything wrong initially. But to continue this lie for so long? And to consider keeping it up? Come on. That shows very poor character. I hope you’ve learned your lesson, regardless of the outcome here.
So many problems with this that I’m not sure where to begin but I’ll try.
1) Don’t minimize the fact that this is all his doing. You said it wasn’t his fault. It is. He was irresponsible and tried to live beyond his means. He could not afford to outright buy any of these things and took out a loan for SEVERAL luxuries. Bad financial move.
2) Do not unduly accept this responsibility. This is HIS loan. Unless your name is on it, you have no obligation to pay it. It seems like you had planned and have upheld paying for the singular object you said you’d split and that’s great, but the rest is on him. If your name is on it, that was kinda dumb of you but he should still morally be the one paying it. You definitely should not be paying it, and again, if it’s not in your name you definitely don’t HAVE to.
3) Ask yourself why you’re the one making these sacrifices. Even if he doesn’t have the income, he could have sold them or possibly even returned them to pay off or cancel the loan. THESE ARE LUXURIES. HE DOES NOT HAVE TO OWN THEM. Let HIM downgrade his lifestyle. These are the consequences of poor financial decisions. For the love of god don’t let YOUR teeth fall out because he thought he needed to own a PC, Apple Watch, etc.
4) Establish a strict repayment plan. You absolutely need to convey that you expect him to pay you back for all of this regardless of whether you continue to pay for this or not. Every cent. Get it in writing. You already kinda fucked your self over if these loans weren’t in your name but you need to be clear that this is NOT a gift and you want your money back eventually whether you’re in a relationship with him or not. It’s not fair for you to be making all these sacrifices when none of this was your own doing.
5)You are being a pushover and enabler. If these had been longer term loans for a high end car, what would you have done then? Are you always going to bail him out with no consequences? You work nude for your money and physically suffering in the meantime so this boy can have cool electronics. Stand up for yourself and have some self respect.
Not wanting to go somewhere without safe drinking water and an unreliable health care system with a 7 month baby is NOT irrational anxiety.
As much as I LOVE your pettiness this isn’t healthy for you. I hope that you break up and find a partner who values your relationship more than your current bf does.
The first two were pale excuses. The last one is the real reason. She is not using soap and a washcloth when bathing, and she is not bathing often enough. If she has a hormone problem, then bathing daily and using soap and a washcloth will make a huge difference. She is not washing her hair with shampoo on a several-times a week basis.
Her lack of sanitary practices is also responsible for the yeast infection, which can also be easily treated with medication.
Getting wet in a shower isn't getting one's self clean.
This is sub-conscious, intentional & self-destructive behavior.
Stay in your own lane. You’re just jealous of her creativity.
I would never date a man who doesn't think men and women can be friends. I would never trust him. Why be honest, respectful, or loyal to someone you wouldnt be friends with? Your attitude is the reason I've turned down dates in the past, stopped after a date or two with others and definitely the reason I avoid bros and frat boys on sight. High quality people don't fixate on genitals and mature people can handle being friends with someone they have some attraction for without reducing that person to a sex act. And the ones that pretend aren't fooling anybody, they are merely advertising how shallow they are and revealing their lack of self control and integrity. My 3+ decades of friendship with my best man friends is pretty solid evidence, along with opportunities ignored because we are FRIENDS and the friendship means more than one night of bad decisions.
Children think like you do. And shitty partners. Your opinion on this reveals more about you than about anyone else.
This is also a good question, sexual assault aside. If you decide to continue on with the relationship. My fiancé and I got pregnant after we stopped using actual protection and the pull out method only. We had decided that if it happened, we were okay with it, so the risk was okay for us, but it only took two times and it happened. The pull out method is not birth control. You and your GF need to have a couple conversations. That she can not revoke your consent. Possibly just stop having sex with her when intoxicated. And also using two forms of birth control. Even if she’s using something, you’re responsible too.
Hm…I guess I’ve not thought of it that way. I get she’s frustrated with how much she messes up and I don’t try to get onto her or scold her, but still wind up saying I’m sorry for snapping and that it’s okay. Something to think about I suppose…
Can I ask what culture you're from before I offer advice?
this is our first meeting alone after new years eve.. we never slept together and I'm not sure if this is going to be friends or dating I'm open for both, I find her interesting enough not only for sex if you know what I mean..
thanks tho I don't agree with ghosting I always address my feelings no matter what, unless there's so much harm and the person is dealing with lots of shit.. which she's not
Send her a dick pic of your giant throbber and say “thinking of you, babe”
That's a good idea, I'll talk to my partner about that possibility. She hasn't got a licence but hopefully a family member doesn't pick her up on the way or she gets her support worker to drive her
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how the kids shouldn't be around people that do bad things
so why is she letting them be around cops
I'm so angry on your behalf, OP. I had a boyfriend like this and it never got better.
This reads like a joke post. If he got mad at you because you are too loose (whether you are or aren’t and your probably are not) then why do you want to continue the relationship? He entered your ass when you told him not too and it hurt you. What part of that aren’t you getting, he’s an asshole.
And what if she was too drunk too? Did he simultaneously sexually assault her? Should they both be jailed for it?
You’re a terrible person.
Dude get out of this relationship. No matter how far you go to try to prove you're trustworthy, it will never be enough. That person had trust issues, it's not your fault, and there's nothing you can do unless that person really wants to change and that's unlikely in this case as it's gettig progressively worse.
Best of luck, don't stick around too long before they start yelling and acting crazy please.
As long as they're both mature enough to handle it, I think it would be a lovely compromise 🙂
I know everyone likes to shit on bmi. But if you are 5’6 and you weigh 180lbs that is fat and unhealthy. You are considered overweight and close to obese.
Idk if you are in the US where most people are fat so it distorts your view. It you are overweight and you need to acknowledge it.
I didn't say the joke necessarily has truth to it or that she needs to seek police intervention for it. Police wouldn't care whatsoever about a rape joke. I'm saying that “jokes” like this contribute to how normalized and accepted violence against women is in our society. So there's a reason why there are other people on this thread who are concerned.
Just because he might not actually rape her doesn't mean these “jokes” or okay or that he, or YOU, should ever be making them.
I think you've got a good plan going on. I wish you luck!
That’s literally what men did back before women had rights. Heck, they’re still doing it now! Think about how many stories you see every day on this sub about men not pulling their weight! Look at your friends and family, I can almost promise that a true equal partnership is rare as hell even now. Women have always complained about not having “help” around the home and men have always complained about not enough sex. it seems that even today, and haven’t fully realized that the way to get more sex out of your wife is to take some shit off her plate.