You long distance bf will slip back into his old habits and you’ll be back at square one. While age differences don’t have to be an issue, you are both at very different points in your lives. He has had those moments you are now living, this is your time to explore what makes you happy and fulfilled.
Since are already emotionally and geographically separated from him, I’d suggest calling time on the relationship.
Good luck with the new guy, I hope it works out for you, sugar!
Put your life on hold and dedicate all your time, energy and existance into him. /s
It's not really up to you to fix it, it's on him.
I will say this though, apologies and promises are only good if actual change occurs otherwise he's giving you lip service to continue an unhealthy relationship.
You sound like my mother at times. She's told me I hit the lottery marrying this guy but why do women have to always be the ones giving up on what they want or need. Its not like we never had sex. I did my part in my 20s and 30s. That should count for something. He had over a decade of sex and I should be able to have at least a similar amount of time.
And I'm not threatening anything with the kids. We'll share custody and co-parent but they're going to pay the emotional toll of living in two homes.
Over what? Sex? Love? Historically people married for all kinds of reasons and raising a family and leaving a legacy was one of them.
That's what I'm trying to get advice on here. He needs to see the bigger picture and disconnect from his emotional and biological urges.
Honestly I expected he would be more spiritual about this and realize based on our religious teachings him indulging in his physical desires and connections he is limiting his growth.
While I disagree with a lot of what's being said here I'm looking for people in more spiritual relationships
I can't follow your unnecessarily difficult algebraic story. Just replace names with other names.
But if this is the first guy in your life that you've ever liked, it means your standards are way too high. Probably much higher than you're capable of getting commitment from. You'll either need to fix that problem on your own, or you'll die alone surrounded by your cats.
Who needs enemies with a mother like you. It seems like you feel no remorse which makes this even worse. You chose an 18 year old shithead over your own son. I fear for your daughter because you obviously aren’t qualified to be a mother. Whatever your son is gonna say you just need to let him get it out and respect any decision he makes. Do NOT bring your shithead husband or your daughter anywhere close to that meeting. Don’t hurt him anymore then you already have.
I am begging you, go get a job. Go back to school. You absolutely NEED the ability to support yourself. Do not get pregnant. Find a way to earn steady income.
But it is all a part of your body’s natural reaction to the sun.
You long distance bf will slip back into his old habits and you’ll be back at square one. While age differences don’t have to be an issue, you are both at very different points in your lives. He has had those moments you are now living, this is your time to explore what makes you happy and fulfilled.
Since are already emotionally and geographically separated from him, I’d suggest calling time on the relationship.
Good luck with the new guy, I hope it works out for you, sugar!
Put your life on hold and dedicate all your time, energy and existance into him. /s
It's not really up to you to fix it, it's on him.
I will say this though, apologies and promises are only good if actual change occurs otherwise he's giving you lip service to continue an unhealthy relationship.
You sound like my mother at times. She's told me I hit the lottery marrying this guy but why do women have to always be the ones giving up on what they want or need. Its not like we never had sex. I did my part in my 20s and 30s. That should count for something. He had over a decade of sex and I should be able to have at least a similar amount of time.
And I'm not threatening anything with the kids. We'll share custody and co-parent but they're going to pay the emotional toll of living in two homes.
Over what? Sex? Love? Historically people married for all kinds of reasons and raising a family and leaving a legacy was one of them.
That's what I'm trying to get advice on here. He needs to see the bigger picture and disconnect from his emotional and biological urges.
Honestly I expected he would be more spiritual about this and realize based on our religious teachings him indulging in his physical desires and connections he is limiting his growth.
While I disagree with a lot of what's being said here I'm looking for people in more spiritual relationships
I hate to say you need to give him an ultimatum, but youre nearing that point.
If you can’t get a job these days it’s on you, everywhere is hiring. Dumb bs jobs you’ll struggle with but real work is all there baby.
I can't follow your unnecessarily difficult algebraic story. Just replace names with other names.
But if this is the first guy in your life that you've ever liked, it means your standards are way too high. Probably much higher than you're capable of getting commitment from. You'll either need to fix that problem on your own, or you'll die alone surrounded by your cats.
Who needs enemies with a mother like you. It seems like you feel no remorse which makes this even worse. You chose an 18 year old shithead over your own son. I fear for your daughter because you obviously aren’t qualified to be a mother. Whatever your son is gonna say you just need to let him get it out and respect any decision he makes. Do NOT bring your shithead husband or your daughter anywhere close to that meeting. Don’t hurt him anymore then you already have.
I am begging you, go get a job. Go back to school. You absolutely NEED the ability to support yourself. Do not get pregnant. Find a way to earn steady income.