You can’t fix his issues. His trauma is his responsibility to manage, especially when it affects other people.
That would be the same if he had a mental illness that caused him to randomly and uncontrollably hit people with hammers. Having the mental illness explains his behavior, but it doesn’t excuse him for not learning how to stop hitting people with hammers.
Same with cheating. He might be insecure because someone cheated on him. That explains his behavior, but it does not give him the right to control future partners.
Thank you for your response! I did feel quite upset when he told me this because we were on the phone and afterwards he texted me like nothing happened. It did hurt my feelings a bit but I might have to communicate with him about this in person!
Don’t quote me but yeah I believe I could still be charged with assault under the circumstances
You're delusional. Nobody is perfect. You're setting yourself up for a bad time.
You can’t fix his issues. His trauma is his responsibility to manage, especially when it affects other people.
That would be the same if he had a mental illness that caused him to randomly and uncontrollably hit people with hammers. Having the mental illness explains his behavior, but it doesn’t excuse him for not learning how to stop hitting people with hammers.
Same with cheating. He might be insecure because someone cheated on him. That explains his behavior, but it does not give him the right to control future partners.
Mate you’re going to supporting a kid you had no hand in making. This is not ok. They’ve baby trapped you. Get out while you can
If you can't even explain to yourself why you have an issue with something so mundane, maybe it's time to get a therapist and analyze this with them.
Leave the 23 year old alone. That's too much of an age and maturity gap.
You could be poly! If you plan on committing to both 30F and 39F you need to be honest with both of them.
Thank you for your response! I did feel quite upset when he told me this because we were on the phone and afterwards he texted me like nothing happened. It did hurt my feelings a bit but I might have to communicate with him about this in person!