I was going to say this exact thing. It’s okay to sleep with her, you know, as long as there’s a chance she’ll dump her current partner. But as soon as OP has no chance of that, now he wants to snitch like he wasn’t fucking her KNOWING she had a partner.
Hopefully you do tell her partner, OP. They deserve better, and you two deserve each other.
You don't help people resolve their issues, you help them help themselves.
You can't change other people, but you can help your partner come to terms with their issues.
Who let this be a lesson to you and to your own ego, that you need to support your partner. If they don't want to and they vehemently tell you they don't want to, maybe you should take that as a sign not to push.
We’re going to rent a place together hopefully we’re trying to rent a townhouse.
I don’t rent/stay with him at his roommates house cause there’s no space there to bring my stuff and his roommate that owns the house I don’t think he’d be willing to move stuff around to let me move in with them… plus I don’t think we want to be married and have a roommate living with us type of situation.
But definitely I’ll be moving out once we’re married like immediately moving out. We’re trying to find places to rent right now so we have it ready.
I mean the best friend knows….who knows who he is telling. Btw, did she send the best friend nudes? If so, I would cut and run bc that makes their hook up premeditated and not just 'got drunk' and messed up.
Loving how you’ve made your lack of care and attention towards him his doing! And then, after he asked for a break and you made it a break up, you’re ruminating over him joining tinder and asking if YOU’RE naive?!?
Yeah focus on yourself and healing. Sometimes when we hurt we get a little we forget that they have to live themselves before they can love anyone else
Your relationship has reached it’s natural end. It is not now, nor has it ever been something you have or haven’t done. Believe the things he’s said to you, because his behavior makes it seem like he’s been ready to end it for awhile but it is too much of a coward to say the words. So instead he’s just quietly stopped being your partner. This is admittedly a strange time to do so with you being the sole financial provider in a living situation that you and he share, but you’ve done your best to address his needs. Do not let him mistreat you because he is suffering. It is very hot to leave relationships, especially when you live together. But he has already left the relationship, he just hasn’t left the living space. So you take this time to gather yourself and prepare to do what must come next. Come up with a plan to live! separately and end this relationship. Good luck!
You have made her miserable, I don't know why you think she has damaged your relationship more than you have.
She chose to go with you, yes. Perhaps she thought she can manage without her support since she would still have you. Unfortunately you failed at that.
I didn’t realize he was deceitful until during our relationship and after realizing it, we broke up. Unfortunately I gave him the benefit of doubt like every other woman who’s in love. I’m definitely not proud of it but I can’t go back in time.
You can back out whenever you want. It has consequenses but you can always do that.
Big if
100% or nothing. Move on
I was going to say this exact thing. It’s okay to sleep with her, you know, as long as there’s a chance she’ll dump her current partner. But as soon as OP has no chance of that, now he wants to snitch like he wasn’t fucking her KNOWING she had a partner.
Hopefully you do tell her partner, OP. They deserve better, and you two deserve each other.
Have only known each other for two weeks. Unaware of my issues except from looking at my physical body. Thanks! 🙂
Stop being so insufferable.
And you're very kind! Thank you. I'm aware things probably will not work out.
Appreciate the empathy in my trying time though.
I'm worried gf doesn't have the best hygiene herself if it's that traumatic
dump him. he doesn't “understand” and he's not “doing better,” he's just saying that so you won't leave
You don't help people resolve their issues, you help them help themselves.
You can't change other people, but you can help your partner come to terms with their issues.
Who let this be a lesson to you and to your own ego, that you need to support your partner. If they don't want to and they vehemently tell you they don't want to, maybe you should take that as a sign not to push.
We’re going to rent a place together hopefully we’re trying to rent a townhouse.
I don’t rent/stay with him at his roommates house cause there’s no space there to bring my stuff and his roommate that owns the house I don’t think he’d be willing to move stuff around to let me move in with them… plus I don’t think we want to be married and have a roommate living with us type of situation.
But definitely I’ll be moving out once we’re married like immediately moving out. We’re trying to find places to rent right now so we have it ready.
I mean the best friend knows….who knows who he is telling. Btw, did she send the best friend nudes? If so, I would cut and run bc that makes their hook up premeditated and not just 'got drunk' and messed up.
Loving how you’ve made your lack of care and attention towards him his doing! And then, after he asked for a break and you made it a break up, you’re ruminating over him joining tinder and asking if YOU’RE naive?!?
Don’t take him back, leave the poor guy alone!
Why can’t she meet her friends at their places if they are bigger?
You shouldn’t have to leave your own place.
Yeah focus on yourself and healing. Sometimes when we hurt we get a little we forget that they have to live themselves before they can love anyone else
She’s right, she is a cunt.
Your relationship has reached it’s natural end. It is not now, nor has it ever been something you have or haven’t done. Believe the things he’s said to you, because his behavior makes it seem like he’s been ready to end it for awhile but it is too much of a coward to say the words. So instead he’s just quietly stopped being your partner. This is admittedly a strange time to do so with you being the sole financial provider in a living situation that you and he share, but you’ve done your best to address his needs. Do not let him mistreat you because he is suffering. It is very hot to leave relationships, especially when you live together. But he has already left the relationship, he just hasn’t left the living space. So you take this time to gather yourself and prepare to do what must come next. Come up with a plan to live! separately and end this relationship. Good luck!
You have made her miserable, I don't know why you think she has damaged your relationship more than you have.
She chose to go with you, yes. Perhaps she thought she can manage without her support since she would still have you. Unfortunately you failed at that.
I didn’t realize he was deceitful until during our relationship and after realizing it, we broke up. Unfortunately I gave him the benefit of doubt like every other woman who’s in love. I’m definitely not proud of it but I can’t go back in time.
it's the fork in the road,.seems she's found someone she connects with. I don't think anyone is wrong here just a life path moment.