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make me wild [192 tokens remaining]
Date: November 17, 2022
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make me wild [192 tokens remaining]
My boyfriend is an engineering student. This obviously takes a lot of his time. His exams are hours, his homework assignments are hours, his labs are hours, and this doesn’t include the amount of time he spends studying. His course-load is heavy and school is his full-time job.
He spends his off-days with me, and we’ll do fun stuff like driving a few hours out to visit his childhood friend and spend the weekend with him. We’ll go out to eat, or maybe we’ll stay in and watch a movie. Other times he’s too tired and we’ll play video games all day instead. He still makes time for me because I’m priority, and I make time for him because it’s the same. Even while I was working full time and he was doing school full time, we still made time to do things often.
OP is getting burnt out and shutting down, they want to do nothing but what they have to and chill out when they’re not. That’s fine, and it’s normal, but if you can’t do that and juggle a relationship, it’s time to rethink the relationship. It’s not really fair for OP’s girlfriend.
Yeah, sure, sometimes. But also a lot of time people in a subculture prefer the company of others who are also in that subculture. It's not a matter of younger or older than 30 or “growing up”. The gen x goth couples I know, for instance, didn't grow out of their subculture and scene, even as they partied less and started raising kids, they did however gravitate toward like minded people in friendship and romantic pursuits amongst the crowd of people they chose to spend years socializing with. A “scene”. Nothing to do with labels or maturity.
a few days is too much for you? …days?!
I’m not trying to win him over. I just can’t stand knowing that he misinterpreted things I said, and that because I didn’t elaborate enough in our conversation he apparently thinks I’m some thoughtless vapid idiot. It bothers me.
I am not saying he didn't behave poorly. But there is no way all of that would justify cheating. There isn't even a scale.
Instead of breaking up or talking about the situation she went looking for attention. It's not about empathy, I can understand being alone in an unfamiliar place, but she chose to mess it up.
ETA: not looking for advice on whether or not we should be moving in together because of timing. One person can make you feel things in a month that someone else can’t in a year. Time is a construct.
Then get rid of the animals. The kid is allergic. Moving the animals in would be a cruelty to her.