Hey OP. Let me focus you on the below excerpt from one of your recent comnents:
“I did not, nor ever was just, as you say, “hanging around her just to get my shot”. I was trying to be a genuine friend. Yes, I did have a hope that it may lead to more, but I never pushed for it.”
It appears to me you have been much less of a “genuine friend,” than you think you've been. Your romantic feelings are a “conflict of interest.” And while it's technically possible to govern yourself as a friend, you have not been doing that. Your hurt feelings have been governing you.
You aren't being at all helpful to this girl. You're just making everything worse for everyone. You seem fixated on this girl as if she is your limerent object.
I think your best bet is to withdraw from this relationship for a little while, and get a better grip on your emotional makeup as a person.
It's difficult to say for sure whether the man was sober or not, as there is no information provided on that front. However, regardless of his level of intoxication, it is important to remember that the responsibility for any sexual encounter lies with both parties to obtain clear and enthusiastic consent. If either party is unable to give consent, whether due to intoxication or any other reason, then any sexual activity that occurs is considered non-consensual and can be considered sexual assault.
Stick with your plan.
Ask her to be exclusive in 2 weeks and if she still says no, decide if you want to wait around for her or walk away.
Yeah, appreciate it. It’s just not something that crossed my mind. More like I’m in shock.
Ughhhh fuck.
Hey OP. Let me focus you on the below excerpt from one of your recent comnents:
“I did not, nor ever was just, as you say, “hanging around her just to get my shot”. I was trying to be a genuine friend. Yes, I did have a hope that it may lead to more, but I never pushed for it.”
It appears to me you have been much less of a “genuine friend,” than you think you've been. Your romantic feelings are a “conflict of interest.” And while it's technically possible to govern yourself as a friend, you have not been doing that. Your hurt feelings have been governing you.
You aren't being at all helpful to this girl. You're just making everything worse for everyone. You seem fixated on this girl as if she is your limerent object.
I think your best bet is to withdraw from this relationship for a little while, and get a better grip on your emotional makeup as a person.
It's difficult to say for sure whether the man was sober or not, as there is no information provided on that front. However, regardless of his level of intoxication, it is important to remember that the responsibility for any sexual encounter lies with both parties to obtain clear and enthusiastic consent. If either party is unable to give consent, whether due to intoxication or any other reason, then any sexual activity that occurs is considered non-consensual and can be considered sexual assault.