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My husband and I don't have any joint bank accounts so we had to go to the bank together with our income tax refund check every year. Just signing it and trying to deposit 1/2 in each of our accounts did not satisfy the bank, we had to both physically be there. They said it was a federal law. Interestingly, I now have the entire refund direct deposited into my account and it's not an issue.
Break up with him and when he asks why say because you already put me down. That’s it, then walk away. If he is smart he won’t do it in the future, but it’s not up to you to reach him anything
I’m not understanding your question? You told her you wanted kids and she said she didn’t? So leave or don’t have kids buddy. That’s your only options.
You need to have a discussion with her when she’s calmed down. Point out that you have told her several times that you don’t really like it in public and explain why. If she has respect for you she will apologise and stop. If she thinks she’s in the right and has done nothing wrong then she is disregarding your feelings and that is a red flag.
I'd like to point out that you're in your mid 20s, legal adults,bhave been together for over half a decade and don't need their blessing. Only blindside them if you think it's safer to do so
Loose skin absolutely counts for plenty of weight. I can't get the last few off because they're literally just hanging there and I don't have fat stored in the dermis layers. Plus, my bones developed denser because they supported my weight, and I had a bone scan to check I wasn't getting osteoporosis because I'd had anorexia so long (but I only ever got to a US 10, I'm 5'10 too) and they were like “DAMN YOU THICC” about my BONES it's so cool. I got a photo of the scan.
I don’t blame you one bit. I don’t know if she has a mental illness or a personality disorder, but even if she did, it’s completely valid for you to be done if she is doing nothing to try and manage it and how she manages how she treats you. You don’t deserve that at all. There’s no reason why you should be hypervigilant in your own home, a place you should be able to relax and be comfortable.
I have bipolar 2. On bad days I can be snappy and short and bitchy. But I try my best to be aware of it or listen to my husband when he points out I may be having a bad bipolar day, and I try to control myself. I also apologize when I snap or get bitchy, even to our son, because even though I’m having a bad brain day that I can’t control, it doesn’t mean they should be treated badly. My husband made a deal with me back when I was first diagnosed that as long as I take my meds and try to manage my symptoms, he’ll work with me. If I don’t, he’ll leave with our son. And I fully support this.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. Maybe separate with her for a bit and see how life is without the constant fighting and bickering from her.
The disgusting part is, I actually do not believe that this is who she is or was all along. She is infatuated and I believe that has allowed her to genuinely believe that she is in the right and that I am cruel and awful. She feels like she escaped me. I know these types of “instant love” affairs usually end and then she will be left with nothing but regret. I feel like she has temporarily lost her mind, not that her mind was shitty to being with or even naturally would be now.
Come on don't fall for this nonsense. All cheaters have the same blabla excuse to remove blame or responsibility.
It usually involves being drunk or being unhappy in the relationship(aka lack of attention). As always the only that needed to be done to not be a cheat is simply to break up as soon as you have thoughts of doing so. But they don't because they are cowards
If your “friend” was willing to betray her chosen life partner in one of the worst ways, when the problems you highlighted were resolvable through communication or marriage counseling, among other things, or left and got a divorce_—this “friend” would highly likely be perfectly fine betraying you as well. She’s proven she’s wholly self-centered. Commitment and time mean nothing to her, so why are you willing to throw away _your marriage for someone who won’t care that you’ve been “friends” for 20 years if you’re suddenly no longer good enough for them or she gets bored?
This also has nothing to do with me
Yes it does. If you knew about the affair ahead of time, then you’re complicit. Knowing about it after and excusing her actions is gross. There is no excuse. And you’re not a good friend to her if you’re going to excuse her actions and not hold her accountable. Good friends let others know when they’re doing something wrong or screwed up, they don’t enable or validate the bad behavior.
it shows the lack of trust my wife has for me.
No it doesn’t. It shows she has common sense.
It will also pose a problem for my future friendships.
Are all your future friends also going to be lying, manipulative, and two-faced??
Following the big j Oakerson philosophy the hotter the girl the worse the sex is. If I explain more I’d get banned but if you think she’s a 9 or 10 look it up on YouTube and it’ll explain a lot.
Last time my girl and I travelled we stayed at a Airbnb and it turned out their “two extra beds” was a double pullout couch so her brother and sister had to share the bed for the night
…it never even crossed my mind that this could possibly be seen as an issue let alone something serious because why would it?
I'm forgetful in the same way. Cracks my husband up when I say the wrong age. Appointments, reminders to take pills, etc all get put in my phone or they don't exist. They just don't fully register in my brain as something important enough to remember.
This needs to be said to him, not us. You’ve changed a lot and he sounds like he’s insecure about his place with all the changes.
It’s not appropriate that he’s taking his insecurity out on you. If you want to sort this out it might be time to get a therapist involved. Good luck, OP.
My husband and I don't have any joint bank accounts so we had to go to the bank together with our income tax refund check every year. Just signing it and trying to deposit 1/2 in each of our accounts did not satisfy the bank, we had to both physically be there. They said it was a federal law. Interestingly, I now have the entire refund direct deposited into my account and it's not an issue.
Break up with him and when he asks why say because you already put me down. That’s it, then walk away. If he is smart he won’t do it in the future, but it’s not up to you to reach him anything
I’m not understanding your question? You told her you wanted kids and she said she didn’t? So leave or don’t have kids buddy. That’s your only options.
Thank you so much ?
OP had already told the boyfriend about meeting the other guy at the gym and exchanging numbers in a friendly manner.
It can, but if the other person isn't trying to get there with you waiting for it is likely a waste of your time.
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This is terrifying from your perspective but your boyfriend doesn't get it, he is having a great time pranking you.
So what do you think is the best course of action i know i should have texted her but i really still want to stay together
You need to have a discussion with her when she’s calmed down. Point out that you have told her several times that you don’t really like it in public and explain why. If she has respect for you she will apologise and stop. If she thinks she’s in the right and has done nothing wrong then she is disregarding your feelings and that is a red flag.
I'd like to point out that you're in your mid 20s, legal adults,bhave been together for over half a decade and don't need their blessing. Only blindside them if you think it's safer to do so
Loose skin absolutely counts for plenty of weight. I can't get the last few off because they're literally just hanging there and I don't have fat stored in the dermis layers. Plus, my bones developed denser because they supported my weight, and I had a bone scan to check I wasn't getting osteoporosis because I'd had anorexia so long (but I only ever got to a US 10, I'm 5'10 too) and they were like “DAMN YOU THICC” about my BONES it's so cool. I got a photo of the scan.
Well I guess you can do it too instead of simply breaking up.
Thank you
I don’t blame you one bit. I don’t know if she has a mental illness or a personality disorder, but even if she did, it’s completely valid for you to be done if she is doing nothing to try and manage it and how she manages how she treats you. You don’t deserve that at all. There’s no reason why you should be hypervigilant in your own home, a place you should be able to relax and be comfortable.
I have bipolar 2. On bad days I can be snappy and short and bitchy. But I try my best to be aware of it or listen to my husband when he points out I may be having a bad bipolar day, and I try to control myself. I also apologize when I snap or get bitchy, even to our son, because even though I’m having a bad brain day that I can’t control, it doesn’t mean they should be treated badly. My husband made a deal with me back when I was first diagnosed that as long as I take my meds and try to manage my symptoms, he’ll work with me. If I don’t, he’ll leave with our son. And I fully support this.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. Maybe separate with her for a bit and see how life is without the constant fighting and bickering from her.
The disgusting part is, I actually do not believe that this is who she is or was all along. She is infatuated and I believe that has allowed her to genuinely believe that she is in the right and that I am cruel and awful. She feels like she escaped me. I know these types of “instant love” affairs usually end and then she will be left with nothing but regret. I feel like she has temporarily lost her mind, not that her mind was shitty to being with or even naturally would be now.
That post was a message OP
No woman who actually gave two ounces of shit for their guy would have posted that , let alone all the private discussions
This is your turning moment , either give her what she wants and break up in a controlled distruction or let the cheating games commence.
Come on don't fall for this nonsense. All cheaters have the same blabla excuse to remove blame or responsibility.
It usually involves being drunk or being unhappy in the relationship(aka lack of attention). As always the only that needed to be done to not be a cheat is simply to break up as soon as you have thoughts of doing so. But they don't because they are cowards
If your “friend” was willing to betray her chosen life partner in one of the worst ways, when the problems you highlighted were resolvable through communication or marriage counseling, among other things, or left and got a divorce_—this “friend” would highly likely be perfectly fine betraying you as well. She’s proven she’s wholly self-centered. Commitment and time mean nothing to her, so why are you willing to throw away _your marriage for someone who won’t care that you’ve been “friends” for 20 years if you’re suddenly no longer good enough for them or she gets bored?
This also has nothing to do with me
Yes it does. If you knew about the affair ahead of time, then you’re complicit. Knowing about it after and excusing her actions is gross. There is no excuse. And you’re not a good friend to her if you’re going to excuse her actions and not hold her accountable. Good friends let others know when they’re doing something wrong or screwed up, they don’t enable or validate the bad behavior.
it shows the lack of trust my wife has for me.
No it doesn’t. It shows she has common sense.
It will also pose a problem for my future friendships.
Are all your future friends also going to be lying, manipulative, and two-faced??
I don’t think that anything positive comes out of these discussions, for anyone, ever!
You’ve already alluded to how it could cause issues, so unless your intention is to cause an issue, I’d avoid it.
Crème freeshe.
Following the big j Oakerson philosophy the hotter the girl the worse the sex is. If I explain more I’d get banned but if you think she’s a 9 or 10 look it up on YouTube and it’ll explain a lot.
Last time my girl and I travelled we stayed at a Airbnb and it turned out their “two extra beds” was a double pullout couch so her brother and sister had to share the bed for the night
…it never even crossed my mind that this could possibly be seen as an issue let alone something serious because why would it?
That’s a bizarre response?
Lol what a joke, hell this marriage was doomed from the start.
Not if she breaks up with him and sends him back to Mommy, who apparently hasn’t finished her job
What time did he go to bed?
Plenty of people accept jobs then resign
I'm forgetful in the same way. Cracks my husband up when I say the wrong age. Appointments, reminders to take pills, etc all get put in my phone or they don't exist. They just don't fully register in my brain as something important enough to remember.
This needs to be said to him, not us. You’ve changed a lot and he sounds like he’s insecure about his place with all the changes.
It’s not appropriate that he’s taking his insecurity out on you. If you want to sort this out it might be time to get a therapist involved. Good luck, OP.