My problem with your argument here is that you completely omitted her boyfriend and his choice. He's also allowed to change his mind, which is exactly what has happened. He was never given the full facts of the situation and so he could never make a fully informed choice. He may have been more on the fence about it all along and may not have pursued a long term relationship with OP had he known that having children was off the table completely.
In this case my sympathy for the guy evaporates because of his attempts at reproductive coercion, but the principle still stands that she wasn't honest and didn't give him all the facts.
Not the case at all…i’m sure the friend would love me there. My gf is the one who wants the super intentional time. It’s her preference for socializing – she even likes to hang out with her parents one on one like that. Not my thing – but it’s her.
You words are so true. I can just imagine the disgust on his face if I ever revealed this to my team lead as I can acknowledge this all lives in my head.
My SO has been the absolute best to me – never laid a hand on me and always been there for me no matter what – which is why I am so ashamed of how I feel
You are right. I respect her choice, and if she might change her mind we should really talk about communication and how to avoid that discussions on text..
tone indicators if texting is the only option, either the autist ones or just emojis to add expression to the messages. otherwise…idk, facetime?
My problem with your argument here is that you completely omitted her boyfriend and his choice. He's also allowed to change his mind, which is exactly what has happened. He was never given the full facts of the situation and so he could never make a fully informed choice. He may have been more on the fence about it all along and may not have pursued a long term relationship with OP had he known that having children was off the table completely.
In this case my sympathy for the guy evaporates because of his attempts at reproductive coercion, but the principle still stands that she wasn't honest and didn't give him all the facts.
Exactly. OP said in a comment that he never did this in her presence until after they were married.
Not the case at all…i’m sure the friend would love me there. My gf is the one who wants the super intentional time. It’s her preference for socializing – she even likes to hang out with her parents one on one like that. Not my thing – but it’s her.
Thank you for the advice.
You words are so true. I can just imagine the disgust on his face if I ever revealed this to my team lead as I can acknowledge this all lives in my head.
My SO has been the absolute best to me – never laid a hand on me and always been there for me no matter what – which is why I am so ashamed of how I feel
Next time, bc there will be a next time, Tell her move to a top floor apartment and to not speak to you anymore, then shut the door.
Thanks for your answer, gives me some hope.
You are right. I respect her choice, and if she might change her mind we should really talk about communication and how to avoid that discussions on text..
And you still don't get it and argue with everyone. Why are you here then?