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chloe-sulivan chat
Date: November 8, 2022
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chloe-sulivan chat
I was a bit like your parents but I have close make friends. One of those got married quickly, eloped basically, and is happy with one child 10 years later. I asked why so rushed. He said he didn’t want to lose her.
He had several previous relationships through his 20’s and My wife and I are still friends with one of his exes.
My answer is, there comes a time when the guy is ready, and when the right person comes along, wants to commit.
I would also say that if he is a ‘my word is my bond’ kind of guy, it’s not a bad thing. We find meaning by keeping our commitments. Waiting for the right occasion to give our word is only half of it. If he is an impulsive type, greedy or self-centered, ignore that advice however.
Take this advice. And also if you ever meet a 24yr old boy in the wild who says he is getting married soon, tell him to wait. A lot changes between 24-30.
Why would you wait?? You only have invested 3 months up until now, and yes it will still be naked, but it will be much harder if you invest 3 more years. Don’t do this to yourself.
She's not living her best life. She's a parasite. She's using others and honestly shouldn't be worth your time. If she valued you she wouldn't have put her financial needs onto you.
I would move out and explain it was your mom’s rules that forced you. She shouldn’t get to dictate where or when you see your girlfriend. They should not pick on any guest in their home and their behavior is causing this. Your mom threatening there are serious consequences is terrible. She should be worried about the consequences of her own actions.
Well done man. You handled it maturely
My grandparents did what your wife wants to do. Had my oldest aunt when they were barely adults, waited 20 years, and then had more kids when my aunt got pregnant.
They had twins.
And then 2 more after that. I never asked why, but I also found it extremely weird. Called my cousins Auntie and Uncle because they were older than my dad.
I think it's controlling behavior unless you live together and need to know his whereabouts for practical reasons.
“She wants me out of the house for 6 months while she figures out if she still wants to be married to me”
More like she wants you out of the house so she can have the other guy over. And then when you get divorced, she'll tell the judge you abandoned your kids.
This honeymoon phase was already over after 6 months I’m not sure how normal that is? My bf is also not someone who says many lovey dovey things. He also doesn’t like it when I do that.
I kinda worry at this stage, like everything is going well I’m close with his family we even have a vacation planned all of us and many more long term plans. So it really shouldn’t worry me but still I do kinda. Maybe I should let it all be. I think if I would live together it be different then you know your partner will be there at all times.
Think experiencing it is the way to go but it’s also nude. I still feel honeymooney and just wanna be together at all times and stuff.. but he’s declined for sure
I’m sure your friend thinks he did the right thing, and the fact that it turned out ok probably only encouraged him, but when he inevitably reads this one I hope he knows he’s a jackass with no understanding whatsoever of how trauma works and what he did could have done enormous damage to you. If his irresponsible ass wants to be a therapist he should get it to school.
If you grew up with a manipulator or narcissist like this, is more likely to choose what we know for a partner. The way to break a cycle like this is to recognize it so we take the right steps out of that relationship.
When he complimented you and within that compliment insulted you, It was deliberate. It breaks you down and makes you doubt yourself but he can say “hey, I said something nice too”. It is absolutely NOT your fault. We aren’t taught these things when young. We don’t get a psychology class early on, let’s say middle school, to spot the manipulators, narcissists, and/or sociopaths.
But now you have homework and learn all you can about these antisocial behaviors. Take control of your relationships and what boundaries you will set and not allow others to step on. You cannot control how others behave towards you but you can definitely stop them from psychologically hurting you by either cutting them off or if need to “grey rocking” them.
The fact that you recognize now his bad behavior and are asking for help, it means you are ready to learn.
Actions speak louder than words
Haha, sometimes these trite expressions are exactly what one needs to hear. Thank you.
No problem
Yeah. Don’t in through people’s things. I don’t think I’ve ever opened my husband’s glove box and I’m on the title of the car.
Apologize and tell him you weren’t thinking when you opened it and realize it was a violation.
Flowers are overpriced before Valentine’s Day and they die within a week. It’s wasted energy to get really upset over this imo.
You also need to check your honesty with him. You’re obviously pissed about this, yet you said, ””it’s okay. I wasn’t expecting any.” Even though I would love getting my first flowers in two years of being together.” If you want flowers so bad, then tell him that you’re upset about this. Let him know so he doesn’t walk in seeing that you’re upset and doesn’t have a clue as to why. Clear it up now so you can get this weight off your shoulders.
Consider telling the girlfriend. If it were you, wouldn’t you want to know?
It's not good for either of you. And prior to getting into your next relationship, I'd reccomend going to therapy for one year. You accepted an abusive relationship with an unstable person, and then went back for more.
Learn healthy boundaries, learn what you want and need out of a partner, how to identify someone who is good vs bad for you, and you'll be much better off in your next relationship, as well as on your own.
Pick up your self-esteem and your pride, then find a better girlfriend.
As we all know, women with two cats are totally unfuckable hags /s
You either need to forgive and move on or break up. Staying together just to continue making passive aggressive insulting comments doesn’t accomplish anything good for either of you. If you can’t get past it, end the relationship.
Thank you so much!!
just so you know its pretty hot for /you/ to be the toxic one for getting mad at him for cheating on you.
I don’t know why you got down voted. It is weird if someone is going out there way to make guy/girl friends in a relationship. It’s one thing if it happens organically but I wouldn’t prevent my gf from doing that but i would note it .
However he did this situation to himself
I sincerely hope that he ghosts you. This is absolutely appalling behavior from a parent. Jesus.