What really got me is that they chose not to invite OP to group get-togethers, so that OP's friend could bring her boyfriend. I can sort-of understand staying silent and not wanting to get in the middle of drama, but they're actively choosing to support this secret.
You are looking for a solution where there is none, other than leaving the abusive man. Your husband is toxic and abusive. He won’t change. The longer you take to realize that, the more of your life you will have wasted on him.
Explain this to your therapist and ask for a referral to a support group for the partners of those going through trauma counseling. Clearly the whole point of therapy is to discuss things you don't feel comfortable talking to your regulars about. Your wife is undermining your chances of a successful recovery with her incessant prying. But she may need to hear that from someone other than you. Good luck
If you want to get married talk about marriage before buying a house. Someone can say yes I want to get married & string you along for the ride. Just make sure you aren't wasting your time if your long term goal is different.
You can love someone and they can love you and still be Incompatible. It is sucky but reality.
‘Sexuality – your sex drive, who you are attracted to, monogamy/polygamy is one of those dealbreaker components in a relationship.
You deserve to be happy in a relationship. She deserves to be happy in a relationship. But neither of you will be happy with that big of a deal breaking gap.
Like children/child free or lifestyle – agreeing on this is a make or break.
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What really got me is that they chose not to invite OP to group get-togethers, so that OP's friend could bring her boyfriend. I can sort-of understand staying silent and not wanting to get in the middle of drama, but they're actively choosing to support this secret.
You are looking for a solution where there is none, other than leaving the abusive man. Your husband is toxic and abusive. He won’t change. The longer you take to realize that, the more of your life you will have wasted on him.
Explain this to your therapist and ask for a referral to a support group for the partners of those going through trauma counseling. Clearly the whole point of therapy is to discuss things you don't feel comfortable talking to your regulars about. Your wife is undermining your chances of a successful recovery with her incessant prying. But she may need to hear that from someone other than you. Good luck
If you want to get married talk about marriage before buying a house. Someone can say yes I want to get married & string you along for the ride. Just make sure you aren't wasting your time if your long term goal is different.
He sounds like a shitty lover. I would not live the rest of my life with that.
Your father is in danger from your wife’s family. He needs to separate for his own good before your wife decides to bring in reinforcements.
This guy is totally insecure about your past. Just move on, ask him to bring your stuff to work. Just remain civil when meeting each other in work.
You can love someone and they can love you and still be Incompatible. It is sucky but reality.
‘Sexuality – your sex drive, who you are attracted to, monogamy/polygamy is one of those dealbreaker components in a relationship.
You deserve to be happy in a relationship. She deserves to be happy in a relationship. But neither of you will be happy with that big of a deal breaking gap.
Like children/child free or lifestyle – agreeing on this is a make or break.