There is nothing wrong with turning something down. There is something wrong with stringing people along well you build up the courage to turn them down.
You can’t fix him. Only he can do that and right now he doesn’t seem interested. He’s spent months trying to break you down. When that didn’t work he doubled down and tried a whole different tactic where you are somehow the asshole for not breaking down.
This would take a lot of self work and therapy. That won’t work unless he truly wants to change for himself.
I get that, but a lot of people in this thread are hung up on that, and I don't think 7 is a lot.
I was a “late bloomer” in my school, and only had 3 by the age of 17. The popular and handsome/beautiful kids had waaaay more before we all graduated. And this was pre-smartphone era.
Honestly, before 20, relationships do feel disposable since both sides are growing and learning what they want, what is reasonable, what is not normal, etc. On another comment, OP is literally looking to jump into another relationship to get over this one. I think he still needs to grow up, and the only way for him to do it is through first-hand experience.
To quote the amazing Jennifer Coolidge from White Lotus – “Don’t spend your life chasing emotionally unavailable men” – he is playing hot to get and maybe wants to see how much longer you’ll keep stroking his ego and staying around but let you tell you – you’re worth so much more babygirl. You deserve to be with a guy that KNOWS your worth and will move mountains for you. If he keeps you waiting, doesn’t respond and acts “unavailable” take that as a hint and leave him. What helped me personally is listening to some podcasts, reaching out to friends and just keeping your mind occupied with other things besides thinking if today will be the day he will decide to text you back. Life is too short for that and you’re so young, and that initial attention you got was addicting, believe me – I KNOW. How to change your mindset ? Look in the mirror, see how gorgeous you are, smile, and know there will be guys lining up to talk to you, because you’re an absolute gem !
Well, I think the boundaries between all if you guys are a little bit all over the place. If they’re broken up and you want to talk to her and be kind to her OK. I don’t know how loyal you are to your friend or what kind of friend he is too at all, but I think I would be upset if my friend were butting in my relationship.
I think you’re in dangerous waters with boundaries here. If they’re broken up and you want to be kind OK but if I was your friend, I would be mad and I can’t gauge from what little you told us how to handle this need more information.
It's a big important decision. There should be thought and care put into the asking and the answer. Ideally you've thought about it and talked about it a lot already, but idk I think the proposal should be special
Actually no you don’t. Very few women actually get any pain medication. They just tell you to take ibuprofen. If you’d actually done any fucking research and spoken to women who have had the 80% of abortion you’d know this
He has literally said that she did not have permission to spend his money. At all. Not on herself, and certainly not on other people. Why are you making up “may haves” when he has given clear details?
The whole reason he's here is that she spent money that wasn't hers. She broke into his phone using his passcode and did the equivalent of taking his credit card out of his wallet and using it without his consent. That's stealing, by every legal and ethical measure.
I don't know why you think we don't have “the full details”. They're all there if you read.
There is nothing wrong with turning something down. There is something wrong with stringing people along well you build up the courage to turn them down.
You can’t fix him. Only he can do that and right now he doesn’t seem interested. He’s spent months trying to break you down. When that didn’t work he doubled down and tried a whole different tactic where you are somehow the asshole for not breaking down.
This would take a lot of self work and therapy. That won’t work unless he truly wants to change for himself.
I get that, but a lot of people in this thread are hung up on that, and I don't think 7 is a lot.
I was a “late bloomer” in my school, and only had 3 by the age of 17. The popular and handsome/beautiful kids had waaaay more before we all graduated. And this was pre-smartphone era.
Honestly, before 20, relationships do feel disposable since both sides are growing and learning what they want, what is reasonable, what is not normal, etc. On another comment, OP is literally looking to jump into another relationship to get over this one. I think he still needs to grow up, and the only way for him to do it is through first-hand experience.
This is the git who has been clicking on all the incest porn guarenteed.
She's jealous that you have a hobby outside of her.
To quote the amazing Jennifer Coolidge from White Lotus – “Don’t spend your life chasing emotionally unavailable men” – he is playing hot to get and maybe wants to see how much longer you’ll keep stroking his ego and staying around but let you tell you – you’re worth so much more babygirl. You deserve to be with a guy that KNOWS your worth and will move mountains for you. If he keeps you waiting, doesn’t respond and acts “unavailable” take that as a hint and leave him. What helped me personally is listening to some podcasts, reaching out to friends and just keeping your mind occupied with other things besides thinking if today will be the day he will decide to text you back. Life is too short for that and you’re so young, and that initial attention you got was addicting, believe me – I KNOW. How to change your mindset ? Look in the mirror, see how gorgeous you are, smile, and know there will be guys lining up to talk to you, because you’re an absolute gem !
Well, I think the boundaries between all if you guys are a little bit all over the place. If they’re broken up and you want to talk to her and be kind to her OK. I don’t know how loyal you are to your friend or what kind of friend he is too at all, but I think I would be upset if my friend were butting in my relationship.
I think you’re in dangerous waters with boundaries here. If they’re broken up and you want to be kind OK but if I was your friend, I would be mad and I can’t gauge from what little you told us how to handle this need more information.
It's a big important decision. There should be thought and care put into the asking and the answer. Ideally you've thought about it and talked about it a lot already, but idk I think the proposal should be special
Actually no you don’t. Very few women actually get any pain medication. They just tell you to take ibuprofen. If you’d actually done any fucking research and spoken to women who have had the 80% of abortion you’d know this
He has literally said that she did not have permission to spend his money. At all. Not on herself, and certainly not on other people. Why are you making up “may haves” when he has given clear details?
The whole reason he's here is that she spent money that wasn't hers. She broke into his phone using his passcode and did the equivalent of taking his credit card out of his wallet and using it without his consent. That's stealing, by every legal and ethical measure.
I don't know why you think we don't have “the full details”. They're all there if you read.
Yes, completely.