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Date: October 22, 2022
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Idk why you’re getting downvoted so much. OP asked, and you answered. No one’s trying to be mean, but it seems clear they aren’t in the right place yet. Asking for advice makes no guarantee about it being what you want to hear.
It definitely was abusive at first but we managed to overcome that
Have you discussed having her go back to work after the youngest start preschool? Some people just aren’t built to be stay at home parents. I know I get bored out of my brain if I am between work for more than a month at a time. It sounds like your wife is similar.
Your husband unfortunately is a mommy's boy. This is an incredibly difficult state of mind to break and it needs to be handled delicately because I can almost guarantee you that she is in his ear talking about how awful you are because you don't want her to stay there, and your husband is manipulated by that. I feel like the mother's of such men are narcissists so it's choppy waters.
You have voiced your opinion, the key is to do so logically and with zero emotion. You can argue with emotions but not with logic. You can bring up examples of how she's made you feel bad, and that you feel that it might not be in his mom's best interest to move in with you guys. Make it about his mom, how she'll be better off at a retirement village or something where she not only is around people her own age, but also people who will have the time for her, as you and your husband have your own lives. They can do activities there, all her needs will be taken care of, etc.
He could of said it over text..
People in r/relationship_advice have an actual conversation? GTFO.
Yeah, I would get takeout on the way home, water my plants, have a bath and then go to bed
He can learn to cook in addition to cleaning
How is he with the other chores?
Learn to communicate.
Well that’s a super judgmental way to look at my fantasy sexual preferences and addictions workers. Our trust level to the best of my knowledge is strong, we talk openly about our work, our sexuality and or fantasies (amazed this is something I’m sharing but I did ask for advice). I do not have a history of addiction, or heavy drug, although I’m human and did experiment in my youth, but since we’ve been together I don’t even drink more than a drink or two once a year.
She didn’t know your intention because you didn’t tell her. She was a random woman, you had just met her. It doesn’t matter that it was the first time you’ve done it. You can try to justify it any way you can, but at the end of the day you gave your phone number to a random woman you just met at the bar and didn’t tell her you had a girlfriend.