NTA. Your husband ended the marriage. Move on with your life! Enjoy your baby! People will get tired of talking about it at work once everyone knows what there is to know, which will be soon bc it will be evident.
Congratulations, you're going to be a mom! A tired mom, because we're literally all tired, so you'll fit right in. Welcome to the club!
I came up to bed a little while later and he screamed in my face for a few minutes
Shows me that he has issues. And adding
He knows not to do it in workplaces or at other people’s houses.
Suggests to me that it's not about his method, it's about him making you admit he is right and you are wrong in the most absurd things. He could be deeply insecure, or something of a narcisist, or who knows – I'm not a psychologist. But he should probably see one to deal with whatever issues he has. You've been tolerating his behaviour for too long – and while you recognise that your kids learning his unclogging method would make them terrible partners, what about them learning that their spouses should deal with whatever bullshit they throw at them?
I wouldn't say “divorce him over this”, but do sit down with him with a list of all the stupid things he has to be right about, and explain how his inconsiderate behaviour has been going on for too long. Show him it's a pattern that has begun to sour the relationship, and you really don't want to let this screw the marriage you both have built. Tell you want to seek some counseling by yourself too – you probably have your own idiosyncrasies, and learning how not to let him get away with his behaviour would be nice. Make this a us vs. the problem instead of a me vs. you.
If you don’t go you’ll regret it for the rest of your life.
She didn’t forget the plan you had. She just didn’t think it was really going to happen. Now that real life is in her face she’s throwing a tantrum.
If it’s meant to be it will be but I’d tell her that you’re going regardless of her
or she was choked.
no problem and good luck!
NTA. Your husband ended the marriage. Move on with your life! Enjoy your baby! People will get tired of talking about it at work once everyone knows what there is to know, which will be soon bc it will be evident.
Congratulations, you're going to be a mom! A tired mom, because we're literally all tired, so you'll fit right in. Welcome to the club!
He gets this way about other things as well.
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I came up to bed a little while later and he screamed in my face for a few minutes
Shows me that he has issues. And adding
He knows not to do it in workplaces or at other people’s houses.
Suggests to me that it's not about his method, it's about him making you admit he is right and you are wrong in the most absurd things. He could be deeply insecure, or something of a narcisist, or who knows – I'm not a psychologist. But he should probably see one to deal with whatever issues he has. You've been tolerating his behaviour for too long – and while you recognise that your kids learning his unclogging method would make them terrible partners, what about them learning that their spouses should deal with whatever bullshit they throw at them?
I wouldn't say “divorce him over this”, but do sit down with him with a list of all the stupid things he has to be right about, and explain how his inconsiderate behaviour has been going on for too long. Show him it's a pattern that has begun to sour the relationship, and you really don't want to let this screw the marriage you both have built. Tell you want to seek some counseling by yourself too – you probably have your own idiosyncrasies, and learning how not to let him get away with his behaviour would be nice. Make this a us vs. the problem instead of a me vs. you.
Girl. He is a rapist. The hell
Would you be ok with her having a previous fwb as a friend and still meet him 1:1?