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Date: October 23, 2022
Oh for fucks sake, she was wearing shorts, they showed some of her buttocks, if she’s feeling sexy and wants to express herself let her. People are gonna look at and find your girlfriend attractive all the time, especially if she’s a genuinely pretty girl. You should trust your partner, it’s all about first in these situations, do you feel like she will ever cheat on you or give other guys attention? If not than what’s the problem.
It’s not like she posted a photo of her hard or in some exposing lingerie.
And I’m sorry if this sounds mean but I hear about something like this everyday because my best friend has a possessive boyfriend and does nothing but stress her out but she won’t come to her senses and realize she’s better off without him and it’s getting annoying hearing about him everyday.
Just sort by controversial and look at it again
GET OUT NOW!!!
I'd stay out of it. It sounds like the husband will have the evidence soon and they can deal with the fallout themselves. Telling the wife about being recorded would basically make you complicit in her cheating by covering it up.
So should we hold say, joe Biden, accountable for his sons actions?
Wait, so the “sex is amazing” but he isn’t worthy of “sexy?” How does that even work?
The only downside of calling him sexy back will be that it sounds like you aren’t putting any effort into it. Don’t parrot his praise back at him. Go to thesaurus.com and spend five minutes finding some synonyms.
And don’t overthink the whole “well that doesn’t apply all that well to him angle.” It’s happy talk, not a technical specification. Chances are he’s being generous to you too.
I am seeking advice on relationships, and if it’s possible for partners to be faithful. I’m sorry you don’t see it that way.
Yes levothyroxine but honestly I'm not sure if he is compliant. I used to help remind him when I took my prenatals. Even then he still forgot. He doesnt take it as prescribed and forgets a lot. Do you think that might be the cause?
She might like him no matter if he is trustworthy or not. The point is maybe your „friend“ is not to be trusted.
Go get the p champ
so I tell this guy to stop talking shit about his girlfriend because she’s a hardworking and sweet, he kicks me in the back of the legs, I let it go cause he’s drunk, then he cussed me out on the ride home? I tried to drop the situation after being physically hit and you say it’s my fault?
One person (you) can't save a relationship. You are putting in all the work and focusing on your future.
He's not even doing the bare minimum. All he's given you is empty promises and disappointment.
I know. It's just me trying to make myself the bad guy as usual
Risk what? You don't like her past or you think she's going to cheat? Maybe try talking to her instead of listening to strangers
I don't think you're in the wrong at all. Slow dancing is pretty intimate and you wouldn't do that with someone you're not very comfortable with. It's not cheating YET (that you know of), but they're dangerously close to overstepping that boundary.
Confront your boyfriend with the “evidence” and explain that you don't appreciate him being all touchy feely with other women. If he's not understanding and acts like you're a jealous maniac, it might be best to walk away. I certainly wouldn't be able to trust a guy like that.
i could, but i don't want him to think it's okay to do this to another person
There really is no way to say that without making someone feel shitty or horrible. And like I said, the only way people change is if they want to. And that goes for literally everything. I’ve been struggling to make changes for years including things like getting more exercise, quitting smoking. It takes time to develop those habits, and when shit gets in the way, it’s really hard to stick with them. And honestly, that kind of disordered eating can be considered a mental health issue. The pandemic has not helped this either, and lockdown has affected a lot of people’s mental and physical health.
I think the only action right now that I can suggest for you is to have a serious conversation with her, because the situation is not healthy for either of you. I’m not saying an ultimatum, but showing her that you care and are worried about her health. I would make sure you go over what you are going to say beforehand, because while I do understand where your coming from, some of your word choices are very harsh. Part of it does sound like you are disgusted by her even though you say you’re not. The way you speak and the language you use is super important.
He’s going to sleep with people until he finds someone he finds the full package with and connects with more than you. Sex is an important part of a relationship. You have to heal yourself.
Please remember to breathe. Try to think in terms of “the next 10 minutes”. It’s going to take you awhile to make long term plans again. Your world is rocked right now. “In the next 10mins, I will eat something healthy/drink water/breathe”.
What you’re going through absolutely, 100% sucks. There are so many guys on here that have gone through similar heartbreak and it’s the worst feeling in the world. Just know you’ll get better but it’s a process. You don’t need to “grow balls”… you’re human and you had a relationship where the trust is now destroyed. Breathe, know you will be okay, your kids love you. Get that lawyer, find that therapist (asap), remember to eat healthy and drink plenty of water, and go for walks.
Soon you’ll go from 10mins at a time to 30mins to a full day and then weekly. This shit is traumatic. We support you.
We all know where her husband falls on the spectrum.
Tell her that you know exactly what she tried to get you to sign and why she wanted you to sign it. Then you tell her “I do not want to hear from you or your husband ever again” and block her on everything.
Totally agree here. Sex with my husband SUCKED but I would never have cheated on him. He was the one cheating on me, I assume with women who were ok with the fact that he liked to hurt his partners during sex.
I've never done anything other than split the bill on a first date. One time I paid the whole bill for a meal but on the understanding she would buy drinks that same evening. I've never had it be an issue, even with people who were otherwise aggressively weird about gender roles (which I would consider this sort of thing a huge red flag for).
This feels like a specific cultural thing tbh. Same for the people replying that inviting someone out means implicitly agreeing to foot the entire bill for whatever you do. It's already hard enough to organise group outings without having to navigate around some weird rule that means you get massively taxed for making a direct suggestion.
It was none of your business you violated her privacy so you deserve to be lied to
Take it as a fetish
she admitted that she was diagnosed with depression and an eating disorder
You rightfully called out that she is blame shifting here. It doesn't matter. She should go to you with this.
“emotionally dump” on random strangers through “role play”(?) and then ditch said strangers when she feels better about her mental state.
Maybe, but still the main issue is her communication. If she does rp for distressing then you should be in the known for it. Think of it like spicy novels women like to read. Only this is her way of doing it. If she is honest then this behavior needs work. But many times it is straight sexting. Possible solution for the future, is a shared discord account you can see what else she is talking about.
She has stated that this is extremely shitty as a person (as well as to me overall) and that being caught was the best thing for her, was a wake up so to speak
Actions will speak louder than words if you decide to stay with her.
But what doesn’t track is the heavy flirting and sometimes sexual nature of the conversations. You don’t need to talk about your “kinks” if you are venting, that’s bullshit.
As I said before, it is used as a substitute for spicy novels and sexting. I think one of the subreddits for this is r/roleplaybuddy something like that. Take a look and know what she was doing.
This is different for me emotionally, maybe as it very mild on the ‘cheating spectrum’. I am more disappointed, not angry. For everyone saying I should break up with her, I am reluctant too
Emotional can be worse in some ways. I think you should factor in what she was doing though. Was she being honest once caught? Not deleting anything, letting you read it all. Is it sexual rp with strangers? Is she talking about you in any negative fashion? Did she send pictures of herself and receive any in kind?
I dont know if you should or shouldn't break up over this. It is to what level of betrayal and disrespect did she show you. Was it sexting in the form of rp? Did she do as she said and only dropped Emotional baggage on some strangers? If she ever got to the real personal level and disparaged you in a deeming way. (Outside of typical argument in the moment or don't know how to tell you thing)
You also have to factor in that it was 7 years, did she get bored and does rp because of that? My suggestion is not to break up yet. But split your living arrangement. Have her sleep in a guest room. Space for one. Then you need to work on your communication skills with her. She is so severely lacking that this all started because she didn't know how to talk with you. She needs to get over that insecurity. Talk real with her, tell her that you were thinking of proposing, and this killed your ability to trust her now. I would say that you need to somehow get the trust back and unfortunately once shattered, it is extremely hard to rebuild
I'm not shocked that a guy who was 25 dating an 18 year old is an asshole, especially not that she's in her 30s.
I don’t want to argue. I’ll allow I’m not perfect in the relationship and never claimed to be.
I didn’t “force” anything. I told my new boss I’d have to see what I could figure out and then I called my boyfriend and we came to a mutual agreement. He had plans that morning anyway, so he assured me this worked better. I am aware he made an attempt at a date. But nothing was planned. There was no attention to detail. We decided what we were doing once we met up, we decided what food to get once we were on the way home, we split everything.
As for the “evening I ended early” that was also discussed beforehand. He knew what time I wanted to go home. And yes I left at 9:30. I would have to be up at 3:00am the next morning so that I could get ready and factor in the 40 minute drive not including the extra fifteen minutes I leave early because of fog. I knew full well that I would only be getting 5 hours of sleep. I was prioritizing him.
I’m not upset that he wanted to speak with his coworker. He could have done so at any other time. They work together most of the week. We already hadn’t seen each other in a while.
I know I didn’t go into a whole lot of detail, and I’m sure some context is missing. I hope this helps. I’ve been with him for six years. I’ve loved him for six years. I am devastated at the moment. I came here for advice, not for accusations.
And frankly, from what I’ve gathered from the other advice I’ve gotten, if he doesn’t continue further attempts there’s no relationship to save anyways.
I just wanted to feel I've done the right thing but people have made it clear i shouldn't send it so I won't
Tell him how you feel and it’s affecting you. Come up with a long term plan. Do you absolutely need the $ to reach your goals? He’s probably doing this partly for you and the life you want and possibly why he works so much. Could you work a little more and him a little less so you could have a good balance? What do you prioritize? Get a hobby of your own to fill the time so it’s less lonely?
Yeah, that's my ex. It was always fun and laughs with her coworkers but when we were alone she always used to complain about how horrible they were and how they all secretly hated her. Same with her family, her friends, etc. and eventually me of course.
Literally send him a text saying it's over, the way he's treated you doesn't merit anything more than that. This gross horny dude you've known less than a year is not the love of your life, I promise.
Are you mostly asking about romantic relationships or platonic relationships?
What sticks out to me the most in your post is that you and your friend met at what was probably the worst time in both of your lives. You likely bonded over the shared experience of being in a mental hospital, and while that kind of bond can of course be very strong, you were both still in a poor mental state at the time and therefore weren't able to maintain a healthy friendship.
A healthy friendship is a “give and take” type of thing, so if two people are consistently feeling poorly and in need, then it is generally hard to have a balanced friendship.
I’m just a poor communicator, especially if my mood is not good given for me autism has isolated me from connecting and enjoying my peers/friends.
In my experience, people with certain weaknesses often need other people who don't have those same weaknesses. If you're bad at communication, for example, you then you need to make friends with someone who is good at communication and who can therefore more easily be patient with you and perhaps even teach you how to communicate better.
I agree absolutely.
No one and I mean NO ONE would say “imma fuck someone then come back and you gonna be cool with it” if they’re in love. You telling her to block a meth head is valid he is not a good influence and must have STDs I bet. I wouldn’t hit that even if fwb bc she’s going to put your health otl to be a hoe.
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Getting back with him would give him the signal that how he treated you was fine and that you'll take him back and forgive him no matter what. Listen to your gut and look for someone who deserves your love and trust
Where can you rent weekdays but not weekends? What happens to your stuff at the weekend?
Get an Xbox and come play elder scrolls on-line with myself and other nerds.
Thank you!
What are those triads call? Where it’s three people who only date each other?
Remember: You're not throwing anything away. She did when she cheated on you.
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Info: where has your mom been in all this if you're able to send her there now? I don't want to sound cruel but your sister should not have been your responsibility at any point – and especially not your finances. You also co-signed on a car for her? It sounds like you took on a significant amount of responsibility without including your fiance and she's fed up and burnt out. Please forgive any assumptions or information I'm overlooking.
In any case, your sister needs help and is vulnerable. I would make sure she was being cared for over my partner if I were in your shoes.
Have you asked her why she never posted about him? Maybe he didn’t want to appear on her social media.
It is over, you are young, and she is not worth it. She not only cheated, but with your friend….Let her go…Also let your friend go too, he is not your friend.
Can you quote that…. by my own admission I said we should delay until its more affordable, where she keeps asking monthly. I arent expecting her to pay more bills and utilities, I am expecting her to pay towards going to see her family on christmas, instead of me paying for the whole trip. And Ive not once said she should get a second job. Again incase you cant read it a second time… I want to cut back on all non essential expenses like our honey moon, but wife keeps pressuring.
Can you try reading before making things up.
I used to do this and it would frustrate my boyfriend too. The best was I can put it is, there is some sort of pride with fighting through sickness. I don’t know how to explain it well, but like I guess the best example would be.. ever meet an old grandpa who’s too prideful to admit he needs to go to the doctor? It’s like that. I don’t want to lay in bed because it feels like it’s just a waste of time. The grind is just too important feeling, more than your own health I guess. You already said you talked to her, so it’s kind of mostly on her to realize that working through the sickness usually just makes things worse and prolongs recovery.
The woman wants kids. Marriage. You break it off. But first! No protection birthday sex present!
You said you're not religious, so stop using your culture and family as an excuse.
Just say it aloud…. I'm an irresponsible coward. Then, get a paternity test. Then, never speak to anyone about it and on-line with your guilty conscience if it turns out to be yours.
My argument had less to do with abortion itself and more to do with the fact that women can opt out of parenthood when the fetus is concieved but men cant. It's blatant hypocrisy to say that it's cruel to women to tell them “they should have kept their legs closed” when they dont want to be a mom. But it's fine to tell a man ” you should have kept it in your pants” when he doesn't want to be a dad. If whether or not the kid gets aborted is “her body her choice” then it should also be her responsibility.
Yeah this dude is gross.
Take your time. There isn't a rush to get back into dating until you're ready for it. Your loss is still fresh and you are still healing. That's okay. Once you feel ready to date, it'll likely be easier to do so. For now, maybe focus on dating yourself for a while? It sounds silly, but taking yourself out to dinner, trying new hobbies, etc. Maybe it will be easier for you to focus on getting out there solo for the time being.
You’re saying this as if I don’t know that. I’m well aware.
When she gives him a birthday present of no condom, the fact he just went “aw boy yippee!” Makes me think he’s just a total idiot when it comes to this stuff (he said he’s from an Arab country, so probably not much sex education there).
Very stupid move, he regrets it, but if I can tell he’s kinda not all there when it comes to baby making, this woman could too. She saw an opportunity and went for it. That’s all I’m saying.
I know this sucks now, but believe me that you dodged a bullet by not having a kid with her, or being married long enough to have joint assets.
No way
No way
tell his wife and then remove yourself from the situation, block him everywhere. if it’s not with you he’ll just go find someone else to cheat with.
I don't have a plan. My original plan (ignore it and hope it goes away) didn't work. As I said, when I got married, they were muted enough that I didn't think they'd be a problem. We got married 2 years after ex and I ended things.
When I said “we casually hang out sometimes”, I mean when he drops her off or picks her up, sometimes he'll stay and chat for a bit. We go on family outings with all of us sometimes
I think I failed to mention this, but I also have a child with my husband. It wasn't so much a “lack of self esteem” that had him marrying me, it was ” we're in love and have a family, past feeling aren't that relevant” it was also 2 years after ex and I ended things, so neither of us thought there would be an issue and I definitely didn't think they'd have the audacity to come back in full force the second I stopped being hurt by how our relationship ended. I guess I also should have mentioned that I made an attempt on my life as a result of things ending the way they did. To tell the full story would be a massive undertaking abd I really didn't feel like getting into everything.
You need to leave. She’s making it clear where her priority is.
What do you consider 'working'? He has to agree with everything? That's not how break ups work. He doesn't have to agree or be happy with it.
It takes TWO to be in a relationship, and ONE to end it.
END IT. Stop letting him suck on you emotionally.
“Person, this is no longer working for me. I need to make a clean break so this is over. Take care.” THE END. BLOCK.
You are 26, not 16. Take a stand and start taking care of YOU.
God you sound like a fucking idiot.
It is not someone's burden to carry on with the depression of an other one.
Ya, it’s over.
Let her go on her trip. Text her when she’s on her way, telling her to have fun with whoever she wants, because you’re done.
Then block her on everything so you avoid drama.
And schedule an STD because it may not have been her first time she’s wanted to cheat and given herself permission to do so.
Lost cause and you should leave.
I'm like him. I don't drink so bars aren't my thing.
Why is your plan to immediately move your kids in w this strange man? You are naive or you are dumb but it's the worst thing you can do. Gross too.
I know right? Me thinks wife already picked up on some vibe from OP and his friend with the speed he suggested and his friend agreed.
Open relationship are ok but this feels iffy
I've been with her a year, and normally she finds it difficult to apologise but after a few hours she manages to. This time it's been over a day and still nothing. She's a sweet person but she just had a bad side to her
The answer is very simple, leave him. You will be having a child with him but that doesn't mean you have to stay with him. Break up with him and prepare for being a single parent. Make sure you put him of the birth certificate and sue him for child support. Being petty won't help you or your child. He's not trustworthy but that doesn't mean he can't be a good father to your child. You have to co-parent with this person for the next 18 years. Regardless of how you feel about him it should be about what's best for the child now.
Ok well you gotta be honest with yourself and him here. He only wants you for sex and you want something more. You said in your post you told him you did NOT want a relationship. That you both just want casual. Well this is what casual is. There is no obligation to be that persons friend, hang out after sex, communicate about anything other than sex etc etc. So while your feelings are valid so is his behavior and actions towards you.
You sound a tad naive so I am going to tell you that if you want anymore more with this guy or any other you have to be upfront with that and you cannot mislead them into thinking you’re cool with just being a hookup. You also have to stand up for yourself regarding protection if thats something that’s important to you. Doesn’t matter what he says he does when he is away from you. It only matters what you say you’re comfortable with.
Yes and he expects to use his financial position to fuck a 26 year old. It’s hard to find a partner with similar earning potential when you’ve had 20 years to work on it? I suspect this middle aged dude isn’t interested living in the kinds of places a 26 year old can afford.
You shouldn't have agreed to the open relationship if you didn't actually want to do it. You should've told him from the beginning you didn't like it and wouldn't do i
He literally did express this and the bf threatened to end the relationship so he could do whatever he wanted
I get it. Everyone other than me believes he should walk away from his marriage. That’s really clear.
I love how you ask for advice, then when given you just refute it. Ignorance is bliss.
I mean you can ask or demand an apology but you either won’t get it or it won’t be sincere. If you don’t see how it’s your boyfriend that’s the issue then I don’t know what to tell you.
She’s not healthy enough to be in a relationship.
Orbital bones and teeth can break with one punch though, and fingers get broken from struggles easily- their has hands on the wheel or wrapped in a seat belt/grab handle? Broken.
The description sounds psycho but in reality a couple punches and dragging someone out from the car could easily result in the injuries listed. Crazy, yes? Disproportionate/hyper violent? Eh. I dunno.
Orbital bones and teeth can break with one punch though, and fingers get broken from struggles easily- their has hands on the wheel or wrapped in a seat belt/grab handle? Broken.
The description sounds psycho but in reality a couple punches and dragging someone out from the car could easily result in the injuries listed. Crazy, yes? Disproportionate/hyper violent? Eh. I dunno.
Dump him. You deserve better.
I think you missed an important mark from the comment you responded. I'd be smart of you to talk to a professional/therapist, and try to understand why would they consider be the best way to engage this.
You should get off of reddit and hug some trees or something.
I will try to speak with her about ending things
Even if he didn't have any, he could've just asked for some. There was no need to sneak around behind her back and resort to the one thing he agreed to never do as a first resort.
Yeah do not contact him. Just let your people know you are fine and thank them for letting you know but you now prefer to not hear about ex and definitely don’t let them pass on your info to ex. Honestly if you’re friends believed him then they may not be that close of friends to you anyway.
Yes, this is weird… I'd be wondering if your wife and friend are having an inappropriate relationship… I'd wonder if they were cheating. Yeah…
Yes, this is weird… I'd be wondering if your wife and friend are having an inappropriate relationship… I'd wonder if they were cheating. Yeah…
I hope she signed those papers , and I hope you didn't just didn't just download something off the internet because it sounds like you're in trouble. Sit her down and kindly but firmly tell her that it's time to go
I did. He seems upset.
It is rare of him. He doesn’t go out and club, it just so happens he did because our friends invited him out and he decided to go this time because “he felt bad that he always says no”.
UpdateMe!
I feel like people are wrongly focusing on playing rock paper scissors.
I think it’s about him bringing up this coworker in a conversation that had nothing to do with work.
This feels like issues for 20 something’s. Most 20 something’s would feel fine with this dynamic with coworker and call OP insecure, and I have to agree. If this couple is past 30 and this husband makes this comment, I side with OP.
How do you split your household costs? (rent/mortgage, utilities, food, etc…)
That hurts. I have had issues like this with my spouse. It can be hard to get past. I sometimes feel like I’m not important enough for him to know these very basic things about me. But I try to focus on how he reacts when I point it out. If he acts like it’s no big deal, I get upset. But a lot of times I can see the surprise on his face. I know that he didn’t intend to hurt me. That’s when I have to make a conscious decision to give him grace. It can be very hard, especially when these types of things happen over and over. I try to think about all of the little things he does know and remember about me that no one else would. For example, he knows I like to use a certain fork when I eat, so he puts it in a different drawer so the kids don’t make off with it. That’s love. Still stings, but not as bad. I hope you feel better.
There has seemed to be a lot of posts like this.. I don't know why anyone would even want to keep a list of that, seems gross
This OP. Still dealing with PPD which can be life altering without help.
Are you calling him a man-child or calling me a child lol
Wow. Hating a child. I can see you are both real winners.
A different style in the Beatles, like you have will destroy the relationship anyway. You need to end it. There’s no compromise here on her part and your needs are as important as hers are. And frankly right now yours are not getting mad at all. So I would tell her how you feel and maybe even that and let her go and find some you can have sex with.
So, if it were me I would sit down with her and ask her if she’s happy, tell her how you’re feeling, and see if you can spice things up together. If she continued with the out every other night I would show up a couple hours and posts into her night and not tell her that I’m coming and see what’s going on. That’s probably gonna get some downvotes, but it is what I would do. At the very least she’s pulling away from the marriage, at the very worst she is already gone.
I dunno, maybe… the whole thing just reeks of clueless selfishness, but maybe it's just how I read it. 🙂
I know, it’s just that she’s my best friend and I know her well, she’s a very sensitive person with not a very stable mental health
Based on your comment and post history I’m getting an inconsistent image on your story.
You said you were 16 less than a year ago. I might not be a rocket surgeon, but my very basic math skills suggest that would not make you 18.
Additionally, you were making posts talking about liking a 16yo while an alleged 18yo.
If you can perhaps clarify your math here, that would be appreciated.
Based on your comment and post history I’m getting an inconsistent image on your story.
You said you were 16 less than a year ago. I might not be a rocket surgeon, but my very basic math skills suggest that would not make you 18.
Additionally, you were making posts talking about liking a 16yo while an alleged 18yo.
If you can perhaps clarify your math here, that would be appreciated.
I feel like it's often because I'm tired. I don't feel like I have the time I need for myself. Or maybe I'm just not ready for a relationship. Idk.
I feel like it's often because I'm tired. I don't feel like I have the time I need for myself. Or maybe I'm just not ready for a relationship. Idk.
Yea it’s totally just him it’s not like you keep the dude contact information when he has clearly already broken your boundaries once then did it again in v-day but hey it’s just his issues not like his wife didn’t block the guy that already tried once hooking up with her when y’all were already together. No doubt your husband need therapy so he can work on his issues but if you think he was the only one wrong here then you have some things you need to take a step back and reevaluate
Any ideas on how I can find out if he's telling the truth?
Any ideas on how I can find out if he's telling the truth?
Oil is 120 per tbsp usually, and if it helps, i thought the “gf” should also cook her own meals, before i saw that it wasnt a real post.
It wasnt a problem when they slept together and he didnt on-line there, if I read that correctly
For real I can’t be honest now, I thought for sure I was gonna get a bunch of replies saying to call and tell her. Like what would I even say? I might just wait to see how things shake out
For real I can’t be honest now, I thought for sure I was gonna get a bunch of replies saying to call and tell her. Like what would I even say? I might just wait to see how things shake out
Thx for the help just don’t want to jeopardize anything but you’re right
I'm sorry but that sketch has me dying dude. Man that's so perfect. I've never seen that before.
Low tier school talent show band or girlfriend…. low tier school talent show band or girlfriend. It's up in the air honestly
Thanks for the keywords to search for. On giving people benefit of the doubt, my GF is more of a hyper vigilant type and I can see how siding with others when she feels something would make her feel invalidated. Does anyone here have closed friend/loved one who is hyper vigilant? How would you deal with hyper vigilance?
And also never really talked about feelings like this before you know
It took a lot of asking to get where we are now—asking for him to text me, to meet with me once a week, etc., to do the simple things that couples do. It was so draining, and I still stayed. For me to put all the effort into teaching someone how to love me and then find out that they weren't even trying for most of the relationship hurts.
Don’t do hard drugs. Don’t be in relationships with people that do hard drugs.
I have… he’s dead set on Atlanta bc it’s cheap and he has his friend there…
I’m not crazy for not trusting the situation? Partner keeps telling me how wrong I am about the whole thing…
This sounds like a good plan. Assertive, but not too selfish sounding. Thank you for your input
So is she….
Yeah he agreed by nodding to her comment – (that her boobs were low and bad compared to what they used to be)
He didn’t nod and agree to her interpretation of his nod/expression because she didn’t say those out loud.
Read through it again, it’s all there in the original post. the way she wrote it though makes it really easy to misinterpret what was said so it’s no wonder people are misunderstanding.
I never thought about my own happiness or prioritized it. I do believe having my mom or cousins or friends to go to when I'm feeling low or lonely would be the best medicine right now. I have no one here, not even a neighbor. It's a shitty existence.
Hey hun so my husband and I were in a somewhat similar situation. He wanted to try it, I was indifferent but wanted to try for him. We have tried for years, different things, to see if it will work. He got it in one time and it hurt me so bad, and he said it honestly hurt his dick a little because it was so tight. He felt so awful afterwards he wouldn't even hardly play with my ass for a week (it took me reassuring him and telling him it was totally okay for him to feel comfortable enough again) and he told me he never wants to try again and not just because it hurt me. But he realized he has more fun playing with it and us both enjoying it. So sweetie, if it isn't for you then it isn't for you! And y'all can still have all kinds of fun with your ass without anal! Just have an open conversation with him about it and make a compromise! No anal but plenty of ass play! And if it's about the tightness of the asshole then hit him with some kegels while you're doing it or if you're okay with giving blow jobs grip him real tight with one hand while you give him a blow job. Both of those are nice for guys. But don't do anal if you don't want to. It will only be painful and you'll hate it.
It sounds like you're incompatible. You like a lot of alone time and she likes a lot of attention. She wasn't getting what she needs off you and now she's being love bombed. That'll go pear shaped fast. Just go learn who you are so next time you'll pick someone more compatible with your personality.
Why do u think he took advantage of me
Why do you keep having children with this woman who you have a toxic relationship with? You two don't even have a healthy relationship with each other, yet you want to bring kids into this situation? What kind of life are those children going to have with parents who cheat on each other and have grandparents who don't approve? That's not nice to them. Why is there a third on the way when you guys don't even on-line together?
You can’t be with someone that you don’t trust. Just bc you're married doesn't mean you're locked in and have to forgive everything. Do what your heart tells you to do.
She was probably absolutely terrified saying that to you. Knowing the impact it could have on your relationship. And that was your response. She will be feeling all kinds of devastated right now. Give her space. Maybe write a letter to her. I don’t know. If I were her I wouldn’t come back after that.
He’s not the only asshole here. Keeping quiet about not wanting kids hoping that you can trap your partner before they realise is more shitty.
Run. Take today, March 8, to stand your ground and you take this as a serious offense because he seems to be telling you you’re with him only for his money.
You need to really think about this. Ultimately it is your decision one staying or ending the relationship. Based on your reaction I would think kids are something you definitely want and neither of you should compromise. They aren’t something you can decide you don’t want after the fact, if she truly doesn’t. Also, they are not something you can just let go of for the sake of someone else. You’ll both harbor resentment.
On some level you meant it, even if you believe it was just a reaction. It’s based on over the years she never said she didn’t want them, and you built an idea of what your life would be which included kids. You definitely need to own up to what you said and apologize, but you also need to have a full conversation on the topic.
They don't like each other because of a misunderstanding on my girlfriends part that completely derailed any possible relationship of theirs. I do not think she's doing the right thing. If I were to tell her that she's not allowed to take our kids to her parents house anymore despite the fact that they actively still don't like me, would that go over well? No way. I just ignore them, doesn't mean that I'm going to force my kids out of their lives.
I'm not the kind of person that sides with my mom each time regardless, I have stood up for my girlfriend several times when they used to actually have full blown arguments. That hasn't happened in the longest time and right now they're pretty cordial when they see each other.
Dude is nearly 30. His ex's being abusive at best is an explanation, not an excuse. If he wanted to work on it and say sorry to you he would. He just doesn't really want to.
The second example you listed sounds like he was sorry he got caught. Not that he was sorry. Which is also another completely different issue that sounds bad.
Can't imagine he's that good of a partner if he can't simply apologize at times. That's a very basic thing to ask/want in a partner.
I think you’re assuming she’s been lying, actively lying to him for years. What if she changed her mind? Perhaps before turning the blame on her for causing the situation you should want to clarify if it was a change of heart or a lie. Otherwise, just assuming intent and then blaming the person who was on the receiving end of his reaction because they “caused” it is incredibly toxic and potentially abusive. Not in this scenario, per se, but that mindset can get you in a world of trouble. Don’t assume. Ask.
Sit their ungrateful little asses down and tell them how you feel. Show them your post. You did a great job of expressing your pain. Sit your wife down and do the same. If their reactions and answers don't satisfy you, do what you need to do. Good luck and I'm sorry.
Normally I’d agree with you but she’s tried calling and he doesn’t pick up. And I can’t imagine he would if his fiancée is around and he has recommitted to that relationship.
Sit their ungrateful little asses down and tell them how you feel. Show them your post. You did a great job of expressing your pain. Sit your wife down and do the same. If their reactions and answers don't satisfy you, do what you need to do. Good luck and I'm sorry.
I see what you mean, but it was a real break-up, I didn't plan on getting back together two months later
The wife apparently agreed until she was pregnant. Now she doesn't and he's hoping it's just hormones – hormones lead people to do much more absurd things than talk to their racist parents.
It doesn't say anything about OP since she was on the same page until just recently, but it seems like a non-negotiable. I know if I were in the same situation, I'd do anything to protect my kids.
I appreciate your reply and not attacking me for my feelings.
I’m really sorry, that’s a terrible feeling. Did she give a reason? You may not find comfort in this just yet but I promise you deserve a better fit in your relationship and it is out there for you! This woman clearly wasn’t compatible if she is going to dip after one emotional incident without even attempting to discuss things with you.
I hope you take some time to think about everyone’s advice since you did come to this sub for it. You owe it to yourself to find an outlet for those negative emotions so that this situation doesn’t repeat itself the next time your trauma is triggered.
You ignored her as a test and then acted like a douche about it
Tell him clearly youvdo not like it and not to do so. Next time he does it, don't go. He surprises you with his friends there, leave.
You are absolutely right
I knew I wanted to marry my husband after a couple days. But I waited 4 years. And that was for sure the right thing to do. Here’s the thing: if you’re married, you’re trapped. If you discover he’s terrible with money, or his mother is awful or whatever (there’s a million things that could pop up and derail a relationship) if you’re already married you can’t do much about it. It takes AT LEAST 2 years to completely know someone. And if bad things pop up, you can assess if they are deal-breakers for you while you still have an out. Also, you and he will change A LOT over the next 10 years. You just will. Everyone does. You need to make sure that you know how he changes and how you change. I’m not saying wait 10 years, I’m just saying wait long enough that you can see the trajectory for both of you and that it matches. Not doing your due diligence now will lead to divorce later.
Is your boyfriend trustworthy? Does he conduct himself with integrity in general? If you asked him about the sexts, do you think he would be honest with you?
I think you need to come clean about the snooping. The snooping isn't healthy at all, so be honest and apologize for that. But it's not a “fruit of the poisoned tree” situation – the violation of his privacy doesn't negate what you found or give him a pass. Give him the opportunity to be honest with you. If he lies and gaslights, then I think you have cause to try and get the truth from Lisa instead.
Why are you even putting yourself in this at all? Clearly he just moved on and your friend is into him. You shouldn't tell her anything, let her be happy.
No one changes in only two months. You also had health issues being with her that cleared up after you broke up. Sounds like being with her was causing you major stress. The minute you are with her again, your issues came right back. Don't get back together with her.
Why are you even putting yourself in this at all? Clearly he just moved on and your friend is into him. You shouldn't tell her anything, let her be happy.