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Date: October 31, 2022
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Okay every family has mental illness, alcoholism/addiction issues. If the husband has never faced any of these he’s a sheltered boy and needs to grow up. If my family had no where to go they would be coming to my home with GROUND rules of course, like no drugs or drinking IF that’s the issue. I would be allowing help, not allowing addiction.
In my opinion, I would be the one threatening divorce and hoping he never has to face those issues in his life, poor delicate little flower.
Verbal or written an “I love you” means the same thing. This sounds like a teenager wrote it and your comments. I don't think you're ready for an adult relationship. You're second guessing his “I love you” just because they were written the first time you. You're holding his prior “cheating” against him but he was 14 max. Unless it's a legitimate crime that seriously harmed another I don't hold things people did as a stupid 14 year old against them.
An open relationship is meant to be physical intimacy, not emotional. And an open marriage will go much more her way than yours. She will be able to sleep with near enough any man she wants and if you decide to, you will struggle to sleep with any woman. That's just how it works. She could have a man every night if she desired, whereas the average men will struggle to get one a month if they're incredibly lucky.
What's happening here is she wants to cheat with permission. She wants to have a boyfriend she was never able to get with because of a teenage crush she had on him years ago, while having a partner. This way if it doesn't work out with him she still has you. If it does work out with him then she can divorce you and be with him.
There might be resentment from her if you say no, but if you say yes then there will be resentment from you. If there is resentment then your marriage is basically over unless if the one resenting gets over it. And by no means should you get over your wife getting with a guy because she now resents marrying you young.
For some people an open marriage works if they are both okay with it and both are getting what they want. You are not okay with this, as you stated, and this will be very one sided guaranteed.
The only thing I would tell your wife is either no, she has a husband and you have no desire for your wife to have a boyfriend. You're not going to give her the okay to cheat. And if she carries on I'd tell her I hope she enjoys her life with her new boyfriend because her husband is going to become her ex husband.
I would consider cuddling with a dude that is staying over with you to be cheating.
thank you so, so much. i nearly deleted the part where i stated i survived abuse when i don't even know his behaviour is emotionally abusive. i'm ashamed of it, but you have taught me that i shouldn't feel this way. your words made me sob a little, it's touching. there will be drama when i break up with him, i know, but it doesn't matter. i want to be as strong as you are! i hope you're in a better place now.
I WOULD NEVER FORGIVE HIM!
Hopefully I can provide insight as a female programmer. This is a nuanced tale so please read the whole thing.
Although it comes off as him not valuing your work I think you need to be honest with yourself that the world doesn’t value your work. I also would personally not be able to make a judgement based on your description. Is this low paying work now going to turn into something later? (Equivalent to supporting your partner through college) Are you working 80hrs a week just to make 20k a year?
In my opinion if it is close to the latter, I can understand not seeing that as working. It takes effort and time and talent but it seems more like volunteering (ie not mandatory). So if the work you are doing is only taking time away from the relationship and not contributing to the relationship it’s a pretty pragmatic response not to count that towards your half.
All that being said, from your perspective it’s very dangerous to just give up your whole earning potential. If anything ever happens to him that puts you in a vulnerable position so it’s important to keep that in mind.
Additionally it sounds like he is doing 0 housework. That isn’t fair and is honestly weird to even be able to achieve when you live in a house. I would expect that he ends up near dirty laundry sometime and just happens to do a load, just bc that’s what it is to be an adult human.
But all the wishing for him to be better about chores is probably pointless. I have never seen a husband change in the chore department.
I think the practical solution here is to ask him to pay for a laundry service/house keeper. The 40hr work week was designed around having a stay at home wife and it’s brutal to keep up with a house without one. (I know most modern gamusino this but it is grueling) My husband and I’s biggest fight has always been chores. Then I realized I could just outsource the fight and idk if it’s fair but I’m not as tired and that all I ever cared about
TLDR: your work doesn’t count toward the family goals but it is unreasonable for you to be completely dependent on him and for him to help 0% with chores. You guys sound well off enough to hire a house keeper/laundry service and that will treat the symptoms because ultimately people do not change.
That's not a memorable proposal. Just go out to some cool natural place, set up a hidden tripod camera and just propose to her on one knee and skip the whole stupid proposal letter. Save that for the marriage vows.
You lost me after you said there was shit particles on your toothbrush and you dont care ?
that’s really interesting to hear because my teeth are horrible and i’ve had endless cavities and lost teeth, but my gum health is impeccable apparently lol. maybe an inverse relation between the two?
like just recently i had to have my gums cut away so they could expose more of a tooth to place a crown and when i came back for a check up the dentist said it healed so beautifully he could barely tell there had been any work done at all. it’s the complete opposite for me with the teeth themselves, i had a cleaning less than 2 months ago and at that same appointment the dentist was like, but your teeth really need a cleaning lol. and my fillings are constantly falling out no matter what i do.
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Thanks for letting me know about this, I had never heard about it
Your daughter and your eldest niece will never ever trust you ever again. Holy shit, man. How could you do that to them? Because you're afraid of some disapproval from a person whose presence in your life was entirely optional? How could you.
Your boyfriend needing pregame for sex is a huge red flag. That means he can't have sex without thinking of porn.
People normalized porn and never bother with the negative aftermath.
Looks like it’s obvious why he feels like he can’t tell you this. That “I actually have a X person in my family so I can’t be Y” makes me believe you’re homofobic even more. And it’s porn…. You’ve never watched any form of lesbian/gay porn in your life? If you’re okay with him keeping up his porn addiction and even looking up escort sites, why would you care about the type of porn he’s watching?? The woman doesn’t become you in the straight porn any more than the shemale’s dick becomes yours.
Just imagine another situation : the day of your wedding, the brother has a panic attack. And you fiancé, instead of staying with you, go to the hospital with him and you're left alone during the ceremony. Awful, and it may happen.
My niece’s mother (my sister-in-law) took a turn for the worse not long before my niece’s wedding. SIL had cancer. The family decided that no matter what happened, the wedding would go on. SIL was fully onboard with that. SIL died the week of the wedding. The wedding was on Saturday and my brother had setup a table with photos of his deceased wife at the wedding. The funeral was on Sunday. It was bitter sweet and how her momma wanted it.
This guy needs to get a grip and you should have never agreed to marry him. He has a history of dropping everything (including you) for his brother.
I am sorry OP, lots of people are going to be disappointed tomorrow. If I were you, I would go to the venue and have a breakup party. The money is paid and you can’t get it back. Go on the honeymoon without him and have a good time. Again, it’s already paid for. That’s all I got.
I feel like this is the most fitting answer for our situation. It's like he can't just enjoy himself freely or feels ashamed when I “catch” him.. I'm not trying to embarrass him, just let me help you finish..
Why the hell are you still talking to him? Why haven't you told his wife?
He sounds like he will just find something else to fixate his unhappiness on. He should probably talk to someone.
Maybe so. But we have kids.
Should be a warning sign, you can also enjoy it if you knowingly know that person is probably an abusive idiots with short term plans with you.
I've only skimmed this, but that's not a good situation. Her friends backing her up and telling you she'd kill herself is so majorly screwed up.
If you can, cut this out of your life and block the people who harrass you. Having a partner is not worth this kind of abuse
You mean a DNA test, not a death test.
Yeah it sucks naked. It's hot to keep the thought in my head that I am more than that. I appreciate you reaching out with your advice I truly appreciate it and you
I mean, if you don’t see a future, and he won’t break up with you, then breakup with him
And that’s a flaw in YOU. Not her
You don’t proceed. He’s married. You keep your distance and dignity in tact.
He's pretty much in his thirties (adult) and you're closer to your teen years, than your adult years. That alone is such a creepy red flag.
Good luck to you and your sister. I hope you can find the culprit. Until then, please document what is happening so you can press charges against the offender later. Google docs keeps time stamps on your documents so it will show when something was written. Good for using over a long period of time.
Yeah, I think this is more about him than how we met.
Tbh that changes things. You’re within hours of each other via plane, car, or train. Way different than what I imagined as 10hr plane flight both cost and time wise to see each other
Whoops, I know I typed thanks but somehow it's not in there, so I'll just add another comment saying thanks for responding!
You read the post. You know that he would trade his Xbox in for this item, and that it's not going to cost him any money. So why are you saying that it isn't feasible because of their financial situation?
^ everything this guy said. Plus…wrinkly vag.
Sorry but plan B is exactly that, emergency contraception. It should not be used repeatedly as your main source of birth control. If this guy genuinely is a doctor (do you know this is true?) there’s no way he wouldn’t know this.
He’s taking advantage of your naivety.
Confront him by preparing your coffee the way he takes his, leave it unattended for a minute, renter the room and tell him you made special just for him. When he says he doesn’t want it, use a strainer to poor it out in front of him and leave the nail and put it on the counter/table in front of him and say “I think I know why.”
I'm sorry for you OP. She cheated on you out of curiosity, with someone else in a relationship. That is beyond disgusting and breaks so many moral boundaries. Personally? I'd be done with her. She not only cheated on you, but she also gave you an STD in the process because she didn't use protection doing it, which is just so disgusting. Not to mention she literally only cheated out of curiosity. What happens if she is curious about being men from different races? What happens if she is curious about being in a gangbang?
I don't see how I would ever be able to trust her after she cheated like that. And not only did she cheat, but she knew where it happened with just one other person, and lied right to your face about it. If there is ever a time to come clean about cheating, it is when you just gave your partner a fucking STD.
She endanger your health, and she clearly does not truly love or respect you if she did all this with a straight face.
Next time she says “why is it so naked?” say something like “I was also wondering why it's so hot. Maybe i should check the thermostat in case it's accidentally broken and letting out more heat than we meant it to?” therefore you are validating the mother whilst not insinuating she's done anything wrong (because she hasn't, she's just older and less aware of certain things).
Let's be real. There are a LOT of red flags here. It takes YEARS to get to know someone. Talking about love and marriage within weeks is… absurd. Stand up for yourself. It sounds like she's in this relationship for herself more than you.
Need more context. How’s your sex life? What’s a normal number for you in a week?
If you are this fixated on your partner's sexual past and cannot stop yourself from asking detailed questions about her past, I think you should take a break and work on yourself. This is not healthy.
It is not your girlfriend's responsibility to “help you” stop fixating on her past. I don't think she should have shared all those details with you, yes, but you shouldn't have asked either. Your insecurities are somewhat understandable, but again it is not her responsibility to take care of your anxiety. That's something you have to work on yourself.
People stay in shitty relationships for many reasons. Why are you staying in this particular one?
If you haven’t had a conversation about it why would you think it’s going to happen? Most people talk about marriage before a proposal. I know movies make it sound like it’s always a surprise but that’s usually not the case, perhaps the circumstances of the proposal are a surprise, but most people discuss marriage and engagement before it happens.
If you haven’t had a conversation about it why would you think it’s going to happen? Most people talk about marriage before a proposal. I know movies make it sound like it’s always a surprise but that’s usually not the case, perhaps the circumstances of the proposal are a surprise, but most people discuss marriage and engagement before it happens.
If you haven’t had a conversation about it why would you think it’s going to happen? Most people talk about marriage before a proposal. I know movies make it sound like it’s always a surprise but that’s usually not the case, perhaps the circumstances of the proposal are a surprise, but most people discuss marriage and engagement before it happens.
Dang broski, think she wants a guilt free pass at another man. On realz might be kinda over, if she wants to experience other dudes. But who am I but a lurker on Reddit, so what’s best for you! Not her ! You! Good luck!✌?
To give some extra context I'm currently paying for all of the bills and supporting her mum, have got a good relationship with her son(he's told me he lives me on multiple occasions) and am the only person working. I have been thinking about getting some legal advice as I think this may be a deal breaker for me and may consider burning the bridge. At the same time I know this sounds silly but it is really important to me and I know its going to eat at me little by little evrey time I complete a form, they say their name etc. But apparently I just need to suck it up.
My cousin did this so that his stepson wouldn't feel left out.
Maybe. It depends on how brutal you were, how well you communicated in the past, how well you express your sorrow and regret and other emotional factors unique to you and him. Are you willing to do whatever it takes? Forgiveness and forgetting are two different things and both goals must be achieved over time to succeed at a return to your previous relationship. Best wishes.
Wow, good luck with this mindset. How about he is immature enough to act like that? He was the one messaging me and not the other way around. Also, psst life is not always like the one in the movies and I know what I'm saying as I'm on cinema studies.
BIO Dad gets the privilege to dance with you. Your mom is the one who alienated him from you. Or at least tried to do it. Don’t let her continue to come between you and your dad.
He served me with papers after he found out I changed my number. Now he’s calling my family and telling them “if this gets resolved no one has to go to court” and that he would rather not go. I also never signed a contract but I guess texts can be a contract.
I personally like to eat pancakes, tbh