This is kind of an extreme suggestion. We’ve been married for a decade lol. I’m not going to throw out our marriage instantly because of some Snapchat bs, but if he is lying to me, that is very very concerning and would be cause for counseling.
Personally, I would hate constantly being someone’s teacher. Of course there are different types of intelligence, but You should be able to learn from each other and have stimulating conversations. It would be exhausting having to endlessly explain your every thought to your partner.
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I had a bi bf he was closeted and told him it was ok if he experimented. It just never seemed to be enough he was obsessed with experimenting with men usuallyi f was casual encounters of oral sex like you described.
But his nonstop obsession, he spent hours sexting or collecting d pics. And sharing them with me but I didn't want them. And I was so over it. Idk if he was sex addicted so much as extremely repressed and now that he was experimenting his closeted sexual urges were insatiable.
Anyway he's now married with kids. So either he settled down and was fine after experimenting or he is still doing it behind her back.
Anyway I think if he's closeted and hasn't had a chance to experiment he prob will have a strong urge to do so especially now that he's started. That's just my biased opinion
Definitely save the evidence of this. If she's willing to lie and destroy someone's reputation over a suspected crush, just imagine what she'd be capable of doing to YOU in a divorce.
You say you flirt and play with her all the time and when you compliment her it's about her physical appearance. To me it seems like it's all sexual and you obviously do it with the expectation that it should lead to something because after all you feel like you put in all the effort. You even buy her sexy underwear. The problem is that all it does is to put pressure on her. Do you actually spend quality time with her without being sexual? Do you show that you care about her rather than getting sex from her? A random hug or a kiss on the forehead, a walk while holding hands… all those things are intimacy without pressuring her. Do you do that? I'm not saying this is your fault but I feel like your idea of making things better is actually making it worse.
4 times a week after work isn't that much.You got engaged to her knowing this. Others may have a couple of glasses of wine after work, she does this instead.
Unfortunately you two need to have a serious talk about what you both want from this relationship. Where you both are? What needs to change, and what doesn't? From there you need to make some decisions on where to go next, either together, or apart.
She says I don't care about her or even try with her. Or that I am lazy or this and that. This is my first serious relationship and she does have a fat fetish which I get but she doesn't separate that from like you know, real life. She has a cracked disk and has had options for it to be fixed so she isn't in so much pain but she always tells me they ignore her and so now I have to make her appointments soon I feel. I told her that is she is having so much problems she should lose weight and she gets mad at me. I have let myself go and feel like I am being dragged down with her. She is on so many medications that I don't even know the names of them. I don't know i guess just hearing for similar advice. I am not happy and neither is she yet she blames it all on me and calls me abusive when I get mad at her being unreasonable or her being mean in the first place. She says if I had these problems she would help me but I really doubt she would as before when I had pain she treated it like it was nothing and I should suck it up. Like my emotions or problems don't matter. I ask her how she is doing in her hobbies or games but I have never gotten that from her, I have to pretty much try and get her to look but she blows me off or gets annoyed but gets mad at me when I don't look right away at stuff she wants to show me. It feels like so many double standards.
I'm complaining because I'm going down on her whenever she wants for how ever long it takes and i get the hurting of face and jaws, my face/jaws are still sore the next day but, what I'm not getting is the connection with her that she is getting with me in that area.
If you are willing to sleep with a guy she was dating, what is to stop you from trying to fuck her future husband. Wouldn't put it past you. No one is going to pat you on the back for this. You were plain wrong, and out of line. There is no excusing what you did. Like someone else said. Take the L, and do some reflection.
If you don’t press charges, all this could follow into with google searches and background checks into your future. This could make you lose jobs and credibility for positions.
First girl to cheat on you too.
¡Updateme
This is kind of an extreme suggestion. We’ve been married for a decade lol. I’m not going to throw out our marriage instantly because of some Snapchat bs, but if he is lying to me, that is very very concerning and would be cause for counseling.
I guess it's comparable, i wouldn't know tho
Let the record show that Mary and I are on good terms with each other after the fact, I didn't sabotage anything
I can't think of anything worse to happen to a guy in front of his girl! Relationship Over!
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Personally, I would hate constantly being someone’s teacher. Of course there are different types of intelligence, but You should be able to learn from each other and have stimulating conversations. It would be exhausting having to endlessly explain your every thought to your partner.
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No, I don’t usually my anxiety kicks in when I am afraid for my safety.
You shouldn’t have been dating her in the first place. Cut your losses, date someone more age appropriate next time.
Go speak to a lawyer.
Let her take care of him.
He didn't care about you what should take care of him now?
It is assault. You are not being over the top, and you damn right should feel anger and many more emotions.
Cut him from your life immediately.
Tell your friend ASAP, as chances are he does this to her as well.
I had a bi bf he was closeted and told him it was ok if he experimented. It just never seemed to be enough he was obsessed with experimenting with men usuallyi f was casual encounters of oral sex like you described.
But his nonstop obsession, he spent hours sexting or collecting d pics. And sharing them with me but I didn't want them. And I was so over it. Idk if he was sex addicted so much as extremely repressed and now that he was experimenting his closeted sexual urges were insatiable.
Anyway he's now married with kids. So either he settled down and was fine after experimenting or he is still doing it behind her back.
Anyway I think if he's closeted and hasn't had a chance to experiment he prob will have a strong urge to do so especially now that he's started. That's just my biased opinion
Definitely save the evidence of this. If she's willing to lie and destroy someone's reputation over a suspected crush, just imagine what she'd be capable of doing to YOU in a divorce.
That’s manipulative behaviour. However the person still chooses to walk away. They still make the choice.
You say you flirt and play with her all the time and when you compliment her it's about her physical appearance. To me it seems like it's all sexual and you obviously do it with the expectation that it should lead to something because after all you feel like you put in all the effort. You even buy her sexy underwear. The problem is that all it does is to put pressure on her. Do you actually spend quality time with her without being sexual? Do you show that you care about her rather than getting sex from her? A random hug or a kiss on the forehead, a walk while holding hands… all those things are intimacy without pressuring her. Do you do that? I'm not saying this is your fault but I feel like your idea of making things better is actually making it worse.
I'm so sorry this happened to you.
The answer for you is: time.
4 times a week after work isn't that much.You got engaged to her knowing this. Others may have a couple of glasses of wine after work, she does this instead.
You seem to have an issue with your parents, in specific your mother, having a sex life. Might wanna unpack that.
Unfortunately you two need to have a serious talk about what you both want from this relationship. Where you both are? What needs to change, and what doesn't? From there you need to make some decisions on where to go next, either together, or apart.
She said her bf call him out on that
Even if that’s what happened still not ok.
She says I don't care about her or even try with her. Or that I am lazy or this and that. This is my first serious relationship and she does have a fat fetish which I get but she doesn't separate that from like you know, real life. She has a cracked disk and has had options for it to be fixed so she isn't in so much pain but she always tells me they ignore her and so now I have to make her appointments soon I feel. I told her that is she is having so much problems she should lose weight and she gets mad at me. I have let myself go and feel like I am being dragged down with her. She is on so many medications that I don't even know the names of them. I don't know i guess just hearing for similar advice. I am not happy and neither is she yet she blames it all on me and calls me abusive when I get mad at her being unreasonable or her being mean in the first place. She says if I had these problems she would help me but I really doubt she would as before when I had pain she treated it like it was nothing and I should suck it up. Like my emotions or problems don't matter. I ask her how she is doing in her hobbies or games but I have never gotten that from her, I have to pretty much try and get her to look but she blows me off or gets annoyed but gets mad at me when I don't look right away at stuff she wants to show me. It feels like so many double standards.
Fuck can’t believe I hadn’t thought of it like that. Jesus
I'm complaining because I'm going down on her whenever she wants for how ever long it takes and i get the hurting of face and jaws, my face/jaws are still sore the next day but, what I'm not getting is the connection with her that she is getting with me in that area.
Get serious psychological help to learn healthy relationships and boundaries.
If you are willing to sleep with a guy she was dating, what is to stop you from trying to fuck her future husband. Wouldn't put it past you. No one is going to pat you on the back for this. You were plain wrong, and out of line. There is no excusing what you did. Like someone else said. Take the L, and do some reflection.
If you don’t press charges, all this could follow into with google searches and background checks into your future. This could make you lose jobs and credibility for positions.
You need atleast a police report.
I think you'll be on here in 10 years asking the exact same thing.