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Date: October 23, 2022
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What is your stance on cheating? Unforgiveable because trust has been broken? Or mistakes happen and at least she owned up to it?
In my personal view, if everything else goes well and she really made a one time mistake, give her a second chance. But make sure to really talk through why it happened.
End it. She’s been lying for a year. Not only that but it wasn’t just one time it was several times. She’s not loyal and can’t be trusted.
Well if you're really looking I think they make a shot that you can take to get rid of most allergies. At least I've been told because my ex had the same situation, the animals drove my allergies nuts and shed always spout on about this shot that would fix it. I never looked into it but if you're interested take a look. I'm ok with just my one dog I have now. She had 4 German shephards. The amount of hair was insane and the dander was just too much. Eyes all puffy, nose running. All that. So I'd say look into that or just talk to him about it too, being allergic isn't something you can help, maybe he'd be willing to work with you on what you need. Idk, I'm some guy on the internet lol
I’ll never understand why guys go for girls who are comfortable in their body and dress for THEMSELVES, and try to change them as soon as things are official. Her outfits clearly couldn’t have bothered you at first, why get into a relationship with someone just to change them?
You’re likely right I’m not very assertive even when I think I am. I’ll probably wait and see if she jokes about it again and tell her its a no go if that happens.
Compartmentalize your feelings and fuck her brains out for awhile without “dating” her. Don't move back in. Just keep sleeping with her then when she asks why you aren't giving her what she wants you say thanks for the orgasms peace out ✌️
You're a terrible person then
this has to be fake
Yeah. Given that… He's either telling the truth, or a next-level lier.
Girl, leave Lord Larys to his feet. I’m not going to kink shame Meister Toe Jam but he is trying to explore a kink with people other than his gf. And it’s not even random people on some site or kinky porn you stumbled upon, it’s people he hangs with. And if they oblige they are either equally into it, him, or in general the attention. So they either don’t know he’s seeing someone or they don’t care enough. Them boots was made for walking, not taking off. Run forest, run.
lol
I wont get back with him. And I'm tempted to do the same, but I dont want to ruin his peace.
Is it her stepsister?
No I had a stroke during Covid in a big city and this did not happen.
User Name Sure Doesn't Add Up
He broke up with you and you keep reaching out to him. He is being kind. Don’t contact him if you don’t want him to reply.
You may find a lot of love and support over at r/raisedbynarcissists …and if not or you don't feel comfortable, stop in at r/momforaminute if you need to borrow internet moms for love, advice or encouragement. Hugs.
I feel like I could have written this. Don’t wait for it to get worse.
this is messy as hell and really knocking up your e while you're still married, separated sure, but still married is scummy.
My advice is to block his access to your money immediately. Make him settle up with you. Then break up. Move on.
A person who will continually use your money and put you in positions where you are forced to cover them (when it may not be your turn) do NOT respect you. He does not respect you or your money or the time it takes you to make that money. You cannot have a healthy relationship with a mama’s boy who will not use the incredibly reasonable solution you already provided.
Leave
You honestly seem very smart, compassionate, and responsible. I'm sorry that the person who was supposed to be your partner isn't meeting you on the same level.
agreed. when it comes to finances and assets, that's what more marriages sound like today. otherwise we wouldn't have prenups
Sexual attraction is when you can't get the smell of them, the presence of them, the thought of them out of your mind and you really want to get very hot with them asap. Your whole soul is aching for them. Hope that helps.
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So they need to spend a full 24 hours celebrating their anniversary? Netflix is ok but not the World Cup?
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Intent matters for property law but this is a question for an attorney. That said, if you bought it as a gift, told her it was a gift, and she already received the gift, if you're in the US it's probably her pony.
This got deleted as I was reading it
So one of you is a cheater.
And one of you is a cheater AND a liar. A long term one too.
Guess which is which.
“Don’t look at minors” is what my ex would always say…
Now I see why.
Right?! I use opportunities. My roommate is thankfully quite extroverted so he is out with his friends and partner frequently.
These stories never turn out well, don’t open your relationship. You married into a monogamous relationship, if he wants more then file for divorce. Don’t wait until the kids are 18 and graduated to get the papers from him, it’s obvious he doesn’t see this relationship past that point.
When I was in my mid-twenties I lost both my parents in a plane crash right before the holiday season began. In the 2 months following the accident me and my then-fiance only had sex once. I was working full time at a new job and trying to organize my parents' estates and it was hell. Plus I was very depressed, obviously.
So my then-fiance started pulling the same kind of crap that your guy is doing, trying to coerce me to have sex and threatening to cheat. I finally got up courage to break up with him and it's one of the best decisions I've ever made.
Even if your guy unblocks you and wants to continue your relationship you have to leave this abusive jerk. Do you want to be stuck with him if you should get pregnant and need 6 or more weeks to recover from childbirth? Because this guy would absolutely use that situation as an excuse to cheat. You are young and have plenty of time to find a decent, caring man who will be sensitive to your needs during stressful times such as this. There are good men out there. Please put yourself first and concentrate on being with your mother in her final days. You sound like a very strong, very loving young woman and you deserve the best. Good luck to you.
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Her moving on quickly in no way “pretty much suggests she had this other guy lined up”. As another commenter said, many women are emotionally done with a relationship a couple months before they end it. Just because someone is emotionally checked out of a relationship, it doesn’t guarantee they are emotionally or physically checked into another one.
My ex was a controlling abusive AH. I was checked out of the relationship for months before it ended. It took me so long to end it because 1. he Threatened to kill himself if I left 2. He got physically violent every time I tried to break it off. Despite being abused, and despite being emotionally checked out of the relationship, I never once tried to cheat physically or emotionally.
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I think this relationship is at its end. Part amicably so your BF can happily explore this aspect of himself and you can find the relationship that makes you happy. Neither of you are wrong BUT if he coerces you into sexual activities that make you uncomfortable/unhappy/ you don't want to do he will be VERY wrong.
Why don’t you invite her to the banquet ?
I will never let him come between me and mum. I am meeting her in a couple of days to talk with the best friend and even if he never wants me there I will always come home and visit my mum because I don’t want her to be isolated by anyone never mind a weak minded man. Thanks for saying this though because it makes me think of other aspects and I really appreciate your input.
No fault divorce is irrelevant. If you leave you are abandoning your kids and she can get full custody.
This is biological warfare. What in the actual fuck
I mean, NGL, that would gross me TF out, too. Might be a deal breaker for me too. ?♂️
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Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuin, OP, ruuuun!!
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No. This family is obviously BAD WITH MONEY and monetary decisions.
Quits.
You should order a fire ladder from Amazon at least! This situation makes me very concerned for you. Is there a neighbor or anything that you know who could also have a key? I mean, what if something happens to your dad and he's hospitalized and can't come?
Do you see yourself being with her long term but don’t want to be married? Marriage aside, if you don’t see your future with her it’s probably best to break up. It’s possible for two people to be good, but not a long term match and that’s ok. In my opinion, you marry the person you absolutely cannot live without and if she’s not it, it’s time to split. I’ve been married 17 years and my husband is very different to me, but he’s my best friend and I couldn’t on-line without him. Sounds like this is coming to a natural end and that’s ok too. Good luck.
Lice don't like dyed hair.
She totally has the right to be angry at a cheating AH of a man that was clearly more than having an emotional affair. You don’t get to a point of moving in together within a month of a divorce. That relationship had been going on for a long time. What i said in my message was to channel that energy or anger in to moving forward. You can’t change the past now.
Why not seek a relationship that makes you happy? A relationship that makes you feel good? Where you know your partner loves, values, and respects you?
Why do you think it's your job to be quiet and not complain, not ask for anything, not annoy him? Do you think that's what all women deserve in their relationships: “Shut the fuck up and stay out of the way”?
“she didn't want to have sex” C'mon man. Grow a backbone and leave.
He knew her boundaries. He chose to ignore them. She chose to keep them.
I have a very hot time being assertive, but sometimes I had no choice
“says she doesn’t want to lose me.”
There's something she doesn't want to lose all right….. that something is your money. If she really loved you then she never would've lied to you or cheated and the fact she has repeatedly done both is proof she doesn't love you in the slightest.
Ignore the crocodile tears and dump her, you'll be much happier in the long run without someone like her ruining things for you.
It's not nessisarily going against what I believe, my girlfriend doesn't believe in it, it's moreso just putting on a show for the inlaws…
Although deep down I know it's gonna be a bigger commitment than that hmmm, thanks for your input
I would like to clarify to those of you who are saying I just should have communicated. I completely agree that I should have communicated more, and I even said in my post that I should have ended the scene much earlier. However, I want to make it clear that the reason I didn't stop when I was feeling miserable is because it seemed like that's how I was supposed to feel? Like the whole point of my husband's fetishes is that I should be “enduring” some sort of pain that gives him direct pleasure, and that's what I was doing. I figured I was doing what any masochist sub was doing, but since I have a low pain tolerance, it was just harder for me than the average person.
He did ,I was cheated on in my previous relationship too 6 times and now he did too , it was a conversation about sex with a gurl from his junior class
A man being interested in pegging does not in any way make him gay. It's simply because for many people, men and women and everyone in between, anal penetration feels good. But I too would in no way be comfortable pegging a partner. It's not my thing and never will be but there are so many toys available that he can use on himself and that will just have to be enough for him.
Infertile does not equal baby-snatcher. Wtf is wrong with you?
I think if he isn't any closer to committing to you in any way after four years, it's a massive risk holding on for another 5 years to see if he's going to change his mind.
It isn't like he's being deliberately vague or misleading – it sounds like he's being very open and honest about where he is, and you're holding on to the idea of what he might be able to give you eventually, only there's no evidence of what this might be.
I don't think he loves you. It sounds like a relationship of convenience and he's drip feeding you just enough to be able to get what he needs from this arrangement. Either that, or you're so eager to make it something that it isn't, that you're misinterpreting his actions for love when actually he's just tolerating the situation to get what he wants.
He seems to be asking you to end the relationship for your own good, as you're pushing for something he doesn't want to, or can't provide. From what I can see, this isn't a functional relationship and there is nothing to save. I'm sorry.
Wtf is with this sub and relationships with big age gaps
this is more common than i’d like to admit. my ex used to say shit like this. so glad i’m child free
Didn’t get to see the post before it was removed, but it looks like it was toxic as fuck. My fiancé likes horror films but I refuse to watch them. I like to be able to sleep at night and they make me hella paranoid. Luckily for me, my fiancé is not a total jerk and respects my decision. He can go watch those movies with friends and family.
Maybe start with her getting a job? That could be the easiest step
She’s going to be bringing rebound bandmate/affair partner into her kids’ home and lives when she barely knows him. That’s why she’s getting hate.
That is so true. Thank you for this reminder. Reading stuff like this is helping me come to peace with the decision I have to make.
For someone who is supposedly wracked with guilt, you sure seem 100% confident that all your decisions are sound and all your actions are justified.
Maybe people have been vicious because you asked for opinions/advice and then proceeded to be condescending (calling people silly, really?) and dismissive of the overwhelming consensus. You evaded/refused to openly discuss legitimate concerns regarding your children and new relationship and shifted all blame for your affair to your husband (who does sound like a dick, for the record.) Every acknowledgement of the wrong you did was immediately followed by long descriptions of your bad history and mistreatment, aka excuses. Never once did you respond in a way that didn’t paint yourself as the victim.
You would have gotten much kinder responses had you been able to convey a hint that you were actually taking the information in rather than seeking validation for your actions.
I hope it was a lesson you learned from and that you will be more open to the advice/criticisms you ask for in the future.
Omg same I noped out
“Or do you imagine she'll have a couple of fake relationships and come back to you? Im confused by the motivation.”
I do consider myself a good man, andI think I strive to be perfect ( even if I cannot be). I am more of people do not know what they really want, until they experience what they don't. I feel if she has more experiences with what she doesn't want, maybe she will truly want me. I do not want to wake up in 5,6 years , with her telling me I wasted her time, or herseeking for an open relationship.
It’s easier to pee in a bottle, wipe things down, wrap the bottle, hide it under the bed thank to walk to the bathroom? Where is your bathroom? Do you have an outhouse or something?
I’m so sorry this happened to you. This is abuse. He’s taken away your autonomy. You are not an object he gets to use and play with. Please see your doctor and get some therapy.
BS
Aside from morning wood conditions its impossible to urinate while sexually excited and erect, much less empty your whole bladder over the bed.
OP is just making up saucy stories.
Doubtful. It was probably one of those weird unregulated supplements.
Thank you for reminding me off this post. I hope i learn too ??♀️. Trauma bonding is very real 🙁
Bro, you need to get out of your own way in this situation. Do not blow up 20 years over this. You may have thought you were pretty much together, but evidently she made it fairly clear she wasn't quite ready. The key here is the date was arbitrary.
Look, I'm all for guys protecting their agency in relationships and hate seeing dudes get walked all over. We see a lot of it. This ain't the case. You self sabotage your whole life over what you explained to us in the post and you will deeply regret it. Unless there is more, let this go and be happy.
It's beyond time to bin the whole man. Seriously. Stop fucking ignorant men.
The stripper falling in love with the patron is definitely a new one.
There is a ton at play here.
One, he may think you’re a stripper who chats him up to get more money, so he decided to stop talking to you.
Two, I kinda get the feeling his money is what you’re most attracted to.
You met him twice, talked on social media a little, and that’s it. You literally have no idea who he is and he is definitely not being himself around you. The strip club is a fantasy and he’s playing into it. Whether he actually has feelings or not, I don’t know, but every guy going there knows none of it is real and just plays a part.
Don't tell him you want one thing and then expect another. Consider this is lesson to learn from. Next time tell him, “It would be really nice if you'd take me out to dinner for my birthday.” or “I really love jewelry” or “Could you get me flowers?”
Grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Sometimes it needs nurturing on your side. Be glad your husband took you back
by reading the post.
You won't know how she feels until you ask. It's understandable to feel nervous and uncertain in social situations, especially when it comes to expressing interest in someone you like. However, it sounds like you have observed some signs that the woman you're interested in may also be interested in you. To confirm your suspicions and make sure you're not experiencing confirmation bias, you could try talking to her more and see how she responds. For example, you could ask her to grab a coffee or lunch with you, or invite her to a club event. If she agrees and seems excited to spend time with you, it's a good indication that she may be interested. It's also important to remember that rejection is a normal part of life and that it's not the end of the world. Even if she's not interested, you can still continue to enjoy the club and make new friends.
It's a matter of perspective I guess 🙂
I’d definitely ask her about it first. Could be a lot of things – first thing that comes to my mind is hanging out with my best friend and somehow this topic came up and we checked it out together to gross ourselves out while laughing hysterically with each other. If she doesn’t watch regular porn at all, that would explain why this was the only thing that came up in the history when you typed in “porn”.
Leaving would be a pretty good sign of no means no. It’s only been 8 months. Do you really want to deal with his disregarding your feelings and boundaries for the rest of your life?
I think he is and shes hooked he is reeling her in.. She needs to blick him
Reddit includes quite the cesspool alongside some decent people.
I'd also add I think OP may be sending mixed signals. In one hand he is shifting into gear in his career and trying to get his shit together, financially. If I were her, I can see how I'd read that as “well, he said he wasn't financially ready and now he's trying harder … Is he doing that because he is committing to this kid?”
You DO NOT share the emotional aspect of this. She already feels an attachment to the little bundle or cells that her body is carrying.
It isn't an idea to her, her body is already changing and she sees the baby as something unique and special that can not be recreated at a more convenient time.
You see the pregnancy as an option that can be easily and painlessly replicationed at a later time… altogether from the looks of it, not with her. If you ever did want a kid with her, now is your chance.
Awwh was that meant to hurt my feelings? Cute. If you apologise and ask nicely I won’t sleep with your partner.
Tell him exactly that.
You didn't but you really really need to understand that consent should be given happily and not reluctantly if you don't want to cause harm to your relationship long term. You could go to couple therapy too, maybe there is something your wife needs to untangle. But pressuring her to have sex will not do that.
I'd say that too if I were dating someone like you.
It’s good that you are taking care of yourself because you value your relationship with her so much. Does she know all of this or have you kept it from her? I am sure she will be proud of how much you’ve helped yourself because you see hope in the relationship.
I was still providing through all my savings and our housing was covered. I think that is being missed throughout all of this. Our finances were separate, I handled most expenses throughout.
I think it's very likely she was also sexually assaulted by her father, but hasn't admitted that yet.
First off, never date someone who makes you feel like you're the exception to a general hate and disrespect for your gender. It's not a compliment, it doesn't make you special. It makes them a misogynistic piece of shit who manipulates you for sex. Pay attention to how a person treats everyone in their life or daily interaction, not just how they treat you. And if you have found it funny that he trashes other women as a whole, then that doesn't say much about you either.
Secondly, this isn't a “She did X thing that annoyed me bro” or “I am super frustrated she doesn't understand Y” which are specific gripes which could exist within a healthy relationship. This is him saying he doesn't care about anything you have to say because it's worth it, he does not want you to feel joy because it annoys him, and you exactly the same as every bad thing you ever heard him say about women, and just lies to your face so he can keep getting sex. Yes, this is a huge deal.
General reminder: If you encourage men who build you up by tearing other women down, you absolutely deserve it when they do it to you.
First off, never date someone who makes you feel like you're the exception to a general hate and disrespect for your gender. It's not a compliment, it doesn't make you special. It makes them a misogynistic piece of shit who manipulates you for sex. Pay attention to how a person treats everyone in their life or daily interaction, not just how they treat you. And if you have found it funny that he trashes other women as a whole, then that doesn't say much about you either.
Secondly, this isn't a “She did X thing that annoyed me bro” or “I am super frustrated she doesn't understand Y” which are specific gripes which could exist within a healthy relationship. This is him saying he doesn't care about anything you have to say because it's worth it, he does not want you to feel joy because it annoys him, and you exactly the same as every bad thing you ever heard him say about women, and just lies to your face so he can keep getting sex. Yes, this is a huge deal.
General reminder: If you encourage men who build you up by tearing other women down, you absolutely deserve it when they do it to you.
sorry, you sound kind of crazy. most people don’t go out looking for their dream partner. They find somebody that they could be happy with.
he thinks that you could be his perfect partner as far as attractiveness goes, and you seem to agree that you’re not perfect.
I don’t understand why you care so much that he wanted you to feel good about yourself.
this is definitely a you problem not a him problem
Dependent, sure but it's not really comolicated to get out of… just get a job, right? And besides, it's not even permanent as he gave you 6 months timeline. Don't get why your friends are negative about it.
Of course, they always are; but there are helplines. Look some up, or if you want me to – I can if you wanna privately share your very general location with me (I'm not in the US btw so ur safe lol).
If you've tried these things I don't really know what else to say. Has she been to a doctor? Discussed medication?
That's sad that they're bringing another baby into that. I'm sorry if I'm overstepping and please tell me to f**k off if so, but is the relationship OK between them domestically? You say unstable living condition – does this mean moving a lot, having no fixed abode or living with mum?
Most warehouses I know about are freestanding structures, thus my confusion.
Yes confront her
As you stated, your dad was ill for quite sometime. I’m sure your mother progressed through the grieving process as she cared for him, knowing what the outcome would be. Honestly, your mom has likely been lacking a true companion for quite sometime, and can’t be blamed for wanting a relationship.
Having said that, I believe your concern is more focused on the what of their budding relationship. What if the break up? What if they get married? What will happen if it doesn’t work out?
Let’s say they had a nice little courtship, and were together for a couple of years. But then there’s a terrible break up. Could they be in the same room at events for your child? Would you and your husband be forced to take sides? What about your son?
While an adult relationship is really no one’s business other than the two people in it, I can see why you and your husband would be concerned. I think you need to have a heartfelt conversation with your mom and calmly tell her you support her seeking out a relationship, but that you’d be lying if you said you weren’t concerned about her possibly being with your FIL. (And make sure you and your husband are on the same page.)
You should break up. There is zero stability with your relationship.
Let him get his therapy. You take your own time. He could take months or years to get where he wants.
Your life is on hold. How long are you going to wait based on hope? You are eating away your time and avoiding other dating options.
this sounds like love bombing. he might have his shit together. he might not. I would recommend not having a kid with him at the very least.
I’m not letting this one problem overcome the whole relationship. If he does want to leave he would’ve mentioned it. We said The only way would break up is if there was cheating or physical abuse.
This is a gambling addictions. He will not get better unless he really wants to get better. It has nothing to do with you. Get out.