My brother has some money..and these girls come from terrible backgrounds.
This how he's selecting them. People from abusive households become potential targets for pedophiles and groomers.
…(a 22 year old that honestly looked 13) that he needed help.
How dangerous this is. I doubt how a 22 year old look would like a 13 year. Did she have some authentic ID on her. Real talk I'd have reported him to the police. Do you really want a pedophile in her house and around your family? I guess not.
Yeah marriages in the USA rarely survive this. She's probably gonna see him as less attractive and from there it's a snowball effect. I sincerely hope I'm wrong and op lands a super baddass job and his wife works through whatever issue she has causing her to act in this way
In that case you'd have to figure out at least 3 months worth of income to on-line on while there, and make sure you have somewhere to go back to whether that's your parents, or an apartment that you are paying for in your home country even though its not being used. Switching countries isn't some light decision, it's a life-altering experience that must be well planned out.
Either she's too busy or mentally/emotionally drained to entertain a relationship rn or she simply isnt feeling it anymore. Time to back away and spend your resources elsewhere.
Making your body go through an abortion so that he doesn't have to wear a condom is absurd. You have the right to have one (depending on location, etc.), but it's more of a “if all else fails” not “don't try anything else” type of thing. He is not a safe or healthy partner. He is not a kind or respectful partner.
You know that many of the most heavily trafficked sites in the world are porn sites, right? There are two of them in the top 10 most visited sites in the entire world. Therefore, it's normal! Now, you find some porn images on his phone after you grievously broke his privacy to do it and somehow you think HE is in the one in the wrong?
See how easy it was for her to live with this lie for so long? People like that, that will lie about being RAPED are fucked up… this is not a little lie, this is MASSIVE. She cheats on you and lies for YEARS and expects you to be ok with that?
Do you really think she’s stopped lying? Or will you have these trust issues in the back of your head now?
Exactly. People have no idea where OP is even taking a “solo trip” to, it’s like they’re assuming she’s in the slums of Tijuana.
They also have no idea how she pitched this trip to her boyfriend. A resort trip traveling the safest “tourist centered” towns? He’s most likely not going to assume the worst.
You should walk away. You are both very bad for each other. You bring out the worse in each other and she isn’t in any position to have unnecessary triggering. This is my advice.
It's super scary thinking about going to the police, I totally get that. It takes a lot of courage. The good thing is that you have courage because you used that to get away.
Even though chances are that they can't do anything in your case unless you have some sort of proof like pictures it will still help to show who he is.
If he has a file with several cases of being accused of attempted murder or “just” domestic violence then it starts to get really hot to pretend like his a nice person or that it was a one time thing when he at some point ends up in front of a judge.
i could be wrong but she sounds severely insecure but also very comfortable with that. or perhaps her reluctance to want to change is her bathing in the comfort of what she knows. she could just be really lazy and entitled and you cleaning up after her aint gonna help with anything. is she..happy with who/what she is?
Fun story, when my grandparents got married in the 40s, my grandpa's ex (who was my grandma's sorority sister who had the same first name as her) showed up at the church and glared down at them from the balcony. So messy!
I can’t even fathom that she wiped down herself with clorox wipes as well? Like, dude, vaginas sting if you get regular washing soap too “in there.” What the hell?
I’m guessing she must be somewhat of a germophobe. Or at the very least she’s very sensitive to smells and resorts to really strange things to mitigate that. Regardless it’s really weird behavior
She didn’t dodge a bullet. She dodged a tactical fucking nuke.
You must be a teenager or something. You can't make people do something they don't want to do. Stop try, you will just drive them further away.
It looks like it just isn't meant to be so move on.
Yeah it really sounds like some shitty test. OP going with his male friend is the best possible way to handle this situation
Tell her how you feel and see if you guys can make anything of it….and if not..have some respect for yourself and move on
Point still stands
Hahaha I appreciate this !
Don't leave the house. Call a lawyer who specializes in representing men in divorce.
My brother has some money..and these girls come from terrible backgrounds.
This how he's selecting them. People from abusive households become potential targets for pedophiles and groomers.
…(a 22 year old that honestly looked 13) that he needed help.
How dangerous this is. I doubt how a 22 year old look would like a 13 year. Did she have some authentic ID on her. Real talk I'd have reported him to the police. Do you really want a pedophile in her house and around your family? I guess not.
Yeah marriages in the USA rarely survive this. She's probably gonna see him as less attractive and from there it's a snowball effect. I sincerely hope I'm wrong and op lands a super baddass job and his wife works through whatever issue she has causing her to act in this way
In that case you'd have to figure out at least 3 months worth of income to on-line on while there, and make sure you have somewhere to go back to whether that's your parents, or an apartment that you are paying for in your home country even though its not being used. Switching countries isn't some light decision, it's a life-altering experience that must be well planned out.
Either she's too busy or mentally/emotionally drained to entertain a relationship rn or she simply isnt feeling it anymore. Time to back away and spend your resources elsewhere.
It's over dude. Your wife wants kids and you don't want anymore.
Why would you want to date a college going person? It's not creepy, but it is a little odd. Surely you would prefer someone in the same stage of life?
Making your body go through an abortion so that he doesn't have to wear a condom is absurd. You have the right to have one (depending on location, etc.), but it's more of a “if all else fails” not “don't try anything else” type of thing. He is not a safe or healthy partner. He is not a kind or respectful partner.
Wow……. I’m sorry for you 🙁
You know that many of the most heavily trafficked sites in the world are porn sites, right? There are two of them in the top 10 most visited sites in the entire world. Therefore, it's normal! Now, you find some porn images on his phone after you grievously broke his privacy to do it and somehow you think HE is in the one in the wrong?
That's why DNA tests were invented.
I can’t believe she would do this to me no matter how drunk she was.
She did, and he did. Divorce your husband and go NC with your sister.
To show that from the date the lie began I don't trust anything she has done since.
See how easy it was for her to live with this lie for so long? People like that, that will lie about being RAPED are fucked up… this is not a little lie, this is MASSIVE. She cheats on you and lies for YEARS and expects you to be ok with that?
Do you really think she’s stopped lying? Or will you have these trust issues in the back of your head now?
Exactly. People have no idea where OP is even taking a “solo trip” to, it’s like they’re assuming she’s in the slums of Tijuana.
They also have no idea how she pitched this trip to her boyfriend. A resort trip traveling the safest “tourist centered” towns? He’s most likely not going to assume the worst.
He can also add you to the chat can't he?
Like I said five months ago, speak to a therapist and an exorcist, and do it in that order.
You're describing something that has a lot in common with a psychological problem and nothing recognizable from any demonology I'm familiar with.
You should walk away. You are both very bad for each other. You bring out the worse in each other and she isn’t in any position to have unnecessary triggering. This is my advice.
It's super scary thinking about going to the police, I totally get that. It takes a lot of courage. The good thing is that you have courage because you used that to get away.
Even though chances are that they can't do anything in your case unless you have some sort of proof like pictures it will still help to show who he is.
If he has a file with several cases of being accused of attempted murder or “just” domestic violence then it starts to get really hot to pretend like his a nice person or that it was a one time thing when he at some point ends up in front of a judge.
Best of luck! I believe in you.
i could be wrong but she sounds severely insecure but also very comfortable with that. or perhaps her reluctance to want to change is her bathing in the comfort of what she knows. she could just be really lazy and entitled and you cleaning up after her aint gonna help with anything. is she..happy with who/what she is?
Are you in a position to invite him to your place?
Fun story, when my grandparents got married in the 40s, my grandpa's ex (who was my grandma's sorority sister who had the same first name as her) showed up at the church and glared down at them from the balcony. So messy!
Either stay with her and be miserable and keep your money,
or take your divorce papers to court, lose some money, and on-line your life.
I can’t even fathom that she wiped down herself with clorox wipes as well? Like, dude, vaginas sting if you get regular washing soap too “in there.” What the hell?
I’m guessing she must be somewhat of a germophobe. Or at the very least she’s very sensitive to smells and resorts to really strange things to mitigate that. Regardless it’s really weird behavior
I feel like this post is fake.