So she says your bad at sex and doesn't want to teach you how to please here right because you should already know? When people show you who they are you need to believe them my dude. I wouldn't be with someone who puts me down. I would have broken up with her on the spot when she spit out that line man. You need to grow a pair and have some self respect, she doesn't respect you. Don't waste your time trying to please and awful person. They can't ever be happy. She just seems mean man.
I'm guessing most of the people responding to you haven't lived this. I have. Exactly this and we've now been happily married for years with well adjusted kids.
It's about intention. If you feel that you need to have your own space then go for it. You're not married. You have every right to move out if you want to.
BUT
You have responsibilities as well and this situation is all about intentions. If you truly intend to carry your fair share of the load then go for it. Because you're right, this is probably your last real chance to experience living alone and there's value in that. Experience makes us better equipped as parents.
But again, you have to have a plan and commit to that plan. And you also have to have thick skin. The world is often unkind to young fathers. Especially ones who have the audacity to realize that taking care of themselves (mentally, emotionally, physically, etc) is one of the main components to being a good parent.
But I'll tell ya this, I have received quite a few apologies for some of the crap I got back then. They didn't see the vision. But my wife and I often talk about how if we had listened to everyone elses' opinions back then, then we probably wouldn't be together today. And we're like the only couple in friend group who are still together, let alone happy.
You don't have to fit into a mold. You have to do whatever makes you a better parent and partner.
I suspect the extreme reaction isn't about what you've done, it's about what it represents and what memories it's unearthed. I think the idea of having any association with these family members is unbearable to her, even if she's not involved directly, which suggests there is a lot of pain associated with them. She may have used disowning you as a threat because she felt desperate. I'm sure she didn't mean it and it was a wild reaction to some buried trauma.
If you had the safety net of a functional family/friends he wouldn’t be criticizing your personality. He’s aware of your position. Your paranoia sounds like eggshells.
So she says your bad at sex and doesn't want to teach you how to please here right because you should already know? When people show you who they are you need to believe them my dude. I wouldn't be with someone who puts me down. I would have broken up with her on the spot when she spit out that line man. You need to grow a pair and have some self respect, she doesn't respect you. Don't waste your time trying to please and awful person. They can't ever be happy. She just seems mean man.
I'm guessing most of the people responding to you haven't lived this. I have. Exactly this and we've now been happily married for years with well adjusted kids.
It's about intention. If you feel that you need to have your own space then go for it. You're not married. You have every right to move out if you want to.
BUT
You have responsibilities as well and this situation is all about intentions. If you truly intend to carry your fair share of the load then go for it. Because you're right, this is probably your last real chance to experience living alone and there's value in that. Experience makes us better equipped as parents.
But again, you have to have a plan and commit to that plan. And you also have to have thick skin. The world is often unkind to young fathers. Especially ones who have the audacity to realize that taking care of themselves (mentally, emotionally, physically, etc) is one of the main components to being a good parent.
But I'll tell ya this, I have received quite a few apologies for some of the crap I got back then. They didn't see the vision. But my wife and I often talk about how if we had listened to everyone elses' opinions back then, then we probably wouldn't be together today. And we're like the only couple in friend group who are still together, let alone happy.
You don't have to fit into a mold. You have to do whatever makes you a better parent and partner.
Now excuse me, while I get downvoted to hell ?
Good luck
I suspect the extreme reaction isn't about what you've done, it's about what it represents and what memories it's unearthed. I think the idea of having any association with these family members is unbearable to her, even if she's not involved directly, which suggests there is a lot of pain associated with them. She may have used disowning you as a threat because she felt desperate. I'm sure she didn't mean it and it was a wild reaction to some buried trauma.
If you had the safety net of a functional family/friends he wouldn’t be criticizing your personality. He’s aware of your position. Your paranoia sounds like eggshells.
Break up with him, and if you really think he'll do it, call the police or an emergency mental health service for a welfare check.
If it’s the case why did they never told me, i really losing my mind who tf i am