0 views
Brooklyn , ♥, 37 y.o.
Location:
Room subject:
To Start on-line video press there
Live! Live Sex Chat rooms Brooklyn , ♥
Date: October 29, 2022
AmateurPub
You had no problem with him visiting strip clubs and throwing money to the dancers? Ew! So what did you expect? Of course he's only going to graduate to lap dance next.
Personally I think your relationship sounds fine. Take stock of your post. You said many lovely things about your partner and relationship. The only negative was calling it mundane or a little stale. I'll say as well, maybe you'd enjoy going out more together. My partner and I are home bodies, and our area doesn't offer a lot beyond shopping/spending money/crowds of people. So we go for hikes/nature walks a lot when we have off days together.
This may not be the solution to this issue. But for myself I have found indulging more in my own hobbies myself helped some of this issue.
I think it would be a good idea to tell her you are hurt by her action. I hope she makes up for it and you can have a fresh start. I would make it very clear that you want to be exclusive from now on, and that something like this can not happen again. From me own experience it is hard to build trust when you start of a relationship this way, but i hope you can figure it out together.
Ah, ok, so it sounds like you know yourself well. And this last relationship just threw you a curve ball. Here’s the thing, without knowing more, it sounds like your last gf had poor conflict resolution skills and disorganized attachment (both avoidant and anxious attachment). So she bounded fine or even quickly like you, but then something happened which triggered her avoidant side, that rather than discuss what ever bothered her she assumed you knew and did it on purpose or was trying to manipulate her intentionally. So you got along with who she was when things were good, but when things got stressful she had very dysfunctional ways of addressing it. That’s not someone who’s able to sustain a relationship.
I hope you can patch things up with your GF. Wishing you the best.
Thank you for your help.
My actions look like stonewalling or having argument s often. They are mostly really pretty, but in the moment it feels drastic. For example, if my partner says he doesn’t want to visit the farmers market that occurred once a week. I understand it is his choice not to go. But I have problems with managing my expectations. In my head I was thinking how that day would be the only day to visit the market together as he will be gone during the next market (we are in a ldr). I just wanted to spend some time together during hushing work day, even if it was a 1/2 hour during lunch. I had not problem with the “no” but sometimes communicating why would help me.
I can also cry a lot when I feel overwhelmed. The main problem I see is that my partner feel like he is walking on eggshells with me. That he is never doing anything right (which is not true, he is perfect to me). I am the problem and I am lost.
The thing with my triggers is that, they compound. It’s not only the market rejection, but feeling like I am not doing enough to make him happy. Being insecure about myself which in turn negatively impacts the relationship. Feeling overwhelmed with school which is related into him. I end up treating the person I love most so poorly, unintentionally.
He is supportive and very loving. I just wish I knew his stance on it, what did he want me to do? In this case, I would like for his opinion to influence my decision, despite him thinking it was best if it didn't. I thought so too, but that was before.
I had this conversation recently. We had a major life changing event happening so a lot things got kind of pushed in the back burner, including some self care.
It took me 2 weeks to work up the courage. I started stating how much I loved them and how I would never intentionally try to hurt them with words. I also wanted them to find out from me rather than someone else, I feel it's only right. I asked them questions like if they are in pain and if they've noticed any changes in their mouth.
They took it in stride and said they appreciate the honesty. And would look into it.
I think the fact that you already tried to approach her and she had a negative reaction it may be a bit harder. She may need to here it from someone else? Idk. Maybe help her find a dentist that's good with people. Show her reviews of said dentist that gentle.
Hopefully she can see you come from a place of love.
I'm not perfect either. I've had my moments of anger and saying things I don't mean. I guess I just look over a lot of it because the history. But the more I get my mind sorted out and the more work I do for me, the more I feel this relationship is one sided.
You get what you put up with OP. And now that she knows you know, the relationship is over.
“What do you mean?”
If you keep her… that act of weakness will cause her to lose respect for you as a husband, and with that loss of respect she will begin to lose passion, and then love for you.
So end it with dignity now, or let it fall apart later and throw away your dignity.
OP, your bf wants some distance and is too chicken to just admit it outright.
Tf
It do always be the churchgoing “sanctity of marriage” people, lol.
This is also why you don't stay with someone that cheated. You just don't. If they cared about you, they wouldn't have done it. If they loved you, they couldn't have done it. I know, because I once did it.
You're still young. You have 40+ more years left on this earth. Don't spend them super sleuthing trying to nail your husband to a cross. Get out and live life, honey. You deserve so much more than what this awful person has done to you.
You don’t need to wonder if she looks down on you, she IS looking down on you by telling you if she stays with you she’s just settling. Sadly, she puts all value into how much you make for a living than she does in you as a person.
I also am not just going to “go find someone else” because I’m not just looking to be in a relationship to be in one, I want to be in a relationship with him and I can’t just go transfer my feelings to some random new dude lol.
well, looks like you are going to go the stalker ex route then. Guy tried to break it of gently with you. Looks like it isn't going so well..Guess what you are going to do when reality hits? you are going to go find someone else.lol..you just can't see it yet, since you dont want to currently face reality.
We (M30 and F27) have been dating for 1.5 years and initially my boyfriend told me he is jewish culturally and is an atheist.
I'm not buying this, at all.
This is no different from Hinduism. Judaism is arguably the world's oldest religion, but it's not just a religion. It's a culture, a philosophy, a branch of mysticism, and essentially a complete way of life. In fact it's hot to explain to someone what Judaism is if you haven't been raised Jewish or come from a Jewish background.
This is an 'all or nothing' type of deal.
But see this is where I have the issue with this.
If you want your kids to be raised Jewish, as a man, then surely you will seek out and find a woman who is as committed to Judaism as you are from the start of the relationship. You would not develop a relationship with a gentile woman and then expect her to convert.
You see please keep in mind what lies behind this request. You have your own worldview, your own beliefs, your own perspective, your own values. Any child you have with him will be just as much your child as his.
But when he expects you to convert as a demand in the relationship, without any willingness on your part to convert, and no desire to convert what is he actually saying about your perspective, beliefs and worldview? That it doesn't matter? That it's not important?
Furthermore what is your role going to be in his ideal family? As pro-creator and provider of domestic and sexual servitude? Is your role in the family reduced to giving birth to his kids and raising them according to his ideal of the Jewish mother?
I see this as a kind of a flat rejection of your values and belief system. If this is something which is such a big deal to him, then why not bring it up at the start when you two began dating? Why the need to string you along for so long?
Consider this your first lesson that when someone say 'I am totally fine', they often aren't and you have to dig a little deeper to figure out what is going on.