If she had to acknowledge what her real role was, it would flip her whole world. Her whole family of origin story is “I am the perfect daughter who always supported my father through several marriages and never acted out like my siblings. I enjoy the quality of life I deserve for my loyalty and character.”
She learned the reality was that she was enabling her father, a wealthy sexual predator in LA, to rape her own sisters, and continues to cash checks from him.
Her whole self image is that she is perfect. She's been confronted with the reality that she's an accomplice to monstrosity. People don't just flip their own script: especially not if they've been lead to believe they can do whatever they want in their life. So she's remixing her self image, starting with “I'm perfect”, mixing in some sexual assault she can't ignore, and leaving the rest on the cutting room floor.
I'd ask OP if his fiance even acknowledges that her sisters were assaulted. It sounds like that little wrinkle has escaped her because while she empathize with people on TV who have been assaulted in stories, she doesn't sound like she's growing closer to her sisters. They would just be more cognitive dissonance: they would definitely not let her live in this fantasy.
She keeps saying she was assaulted as a child, but not by who, because she clearly still supports her dad and likes his money and their relationship. That's why none of her behavior makes sense: it's a movie edited beyond recognition in her own mind to avoid feeling bad or giving up her self image or wealth.
I have two theory's, He said that to see what she would say back To see of she would give him the green light, And start something. Clearly she didn't and now he back tracking, he knew he sent it to her, or maybe he was trying to send it to Someone else that has name starting with same letter
Either way I think you need to seriously think if this is the man you want to spend your life with,
If this is the type of behaviour you want your kids to look up too
If you want to stay which you probably do, He needs consequences for his actions because we know that it wasn't a mistake what ever bull he telling you,
Tell him when he back to come pack some stuff and to find somewhere else to stay until you can work through what he has done Because you don't believe for one second it was a mistake
Once he back and if packing tell him to hand over his phone Go through it, Contacts see if anyone you don't know on there All apps, picture gallery the lot.
Call it a hunch but it was probably ment for someone who he been sleeping with while away for a month who has same letter at beginning of their name
Sounds like a teenager proposing to his GF so she doesn't go to college. I cannot believe this man is almost FORTY and she is 35.
they don’t allow relationship posts of this type on aita. figured it worked for structure
If she had to acknowledge what her real role was, it would flip her whole world. Her whole family of origin story is “I am the perfect daughter who always supported my father through several marriages and never acted out like my siblings. I enjoy the quality of life I deserve for my loyalty and character.”
She learned the reality was that she was enabling her father, a wealthy sexual predator in LA, to rape her own sisters, and continues to cash checks from him.
Her whole self image is that she is perfect. She's been confronted with the reality that she's an accomplice to monstrosity. People don't just flip their own script: especially not if they've been lead to believe they can do whatever they want in their life. So she's remixing her self image, starting with “I'm perfect”, mixing in some sexual assault she can't ignore, and leaving the rest on the cutting room floor.
I'd ask OP if his fiance even acknowledges that her sisters were assaulted. It sounds like that little wrinkle has escaped her because while she empathize with people on TV who have been assaulted in stories, she doesn't sound like she's growing closer to her sisters. They would just be more cognitive dissonance: they would definitely not let her live in this fantasy.
She keeps saying she was assaulted as a child, but not by who, because she clearly still supports her dad and likes his money and their relationship. That's why none of her behavior makes sense: it's a movie edited beyond recognition in her own mind to avoid feeling bad or giving up her self image or wealth.
I have two theory's, He said that to see what she would say back To see of she would give him the green light, And start something. Clearly she didn't and now he back tracking, he knew he sent it to her, or maybe he was trying to send it to Someone else that has name starting with same letter
Either way I think you need to seriously think if this is the man you want to spend your life with,
If this is the type of behaviour you want your kids to look up too
If you want to stay which you probably do, He needs consequences for his actions because we know that it wasn't a mistake what ever bull he telling you,
Tell him when he back to come pack some stuff and to find somewhere else to stay until you can work through what he has done Because you don't believe for one second it was a mistake
Once he back and if packing tell him to hand over his phone Go through it, Contacts see if anyone you don't know on there All apps, picture gallery the lot.
Call it a hunch but it was probably ment for someone who he been sleeping with while away for a month who has same letter at beginning of their name
We had one get arrested in my hometown by using his studio as a front to buy alcohol for underage girls and coerce them into sexual acts.