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BridgetCutie Public Chat Channel
Date: October 9, 2022
AmateurPub
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BridgetCutie Public Chat Channel
You aren’t owed forgiveness, tbh. And you’re right that what you said was needlessly, painfully cruel, and there are things people just can’t forgive. The pain you caused still exists and will continue to exist, and expecting and, honestly, feeling owed forgiveness shows that you still have a lot of space to mature. They might be willing to work with you but it’s possible you haven’t done as much work as you think. Bc you didn’t just say a child deserved to die, you also said probably hundreds of needlessly cruel things before that and getting kicked out was the final straw. And Sometimes there also is just no full forgiveness. It certainly doesn’t mean things will be forgotten. I can forgive someone for stealing from me but not ever leave them alone with my things again. It’s likely that you’re someone they also would’ve kicked out of their lives if you weren’t their son. I don’t think you’ve really worked through all the things you need to in order to be forgiven.
Sure… that's essentially already happening.
But I think it's a good point to make, that I can be more flexible with taking care of the kids in the future – which obviously will be a huge relief once the situation arises.
It’s such an interesting topic OP and I appreciate your curiosity. I would have a serious conversation with your partner about why it bothers her and really push to the core of the issue.
Her comments indicate she’s bothered she’s giving 100% effort and you’re not. Parking the question of euros, it’s an time thing. If I can hypothesise, it seems she extrapolates from there – “if only” you did put in more hours working, we would have x financial security or y for our future. So it seems you are leaving things on the table.
I don’t think it’s a jealousy thing, I am thinking like others that it could be a comparability thing. Which is why I encourage you to have a deep discussion and go into it open-minded.
I would also do a little soul searching with yourself: If your job isn’t fulfilling, will you become bored of it in a few years where even part time is intolerable? Is there another role which would get your interest more? Or maybe you do have your dream lifestyle? If so, your match is out there.
Cooking can be stressful – hunger + work = bad time. Starting a month and half ago My wife and I pre- make our meals on Sunday and Freeze them. 2 weeks of food. Stews, lasagna (home made pasta), Sheppard's pie: easy foods that can be frozen and heated. 5 hours every two weeks.
less dishes – no pots or pans for two weeks just dishwasher loading less work – stew toss it in a instapot in the morning left overs for lunch eat healthier cook and prep together save time and money less waste – we cut carrots, onions and freeze them as well frees up time during the week for sides – salads, etc binding time leaving the cooking to a weekend allowed you to try different things no time pressure
Changing entirely how you approach the problem with a different solution can be a game changer.
I'd consider this on the same level as cheating. Your friend isn't a friend. Your wife apparently has a looser set of morals than you thought.
Explicit pornographic acts on camera? Yikes. Especially without you present or your consent as her partner.
Like cheating: this was a set of conscious choices. At any point she had the opportunity to say no. She didn't. Doesn't matter if she got caught up and rode the roller-coaster (and probably other stuff).
Treat it as cheating. Std check. Figure out if there's been more cooky behavior from her in the past, say 6 momths. Hire a p.i. if necessary. Get your finances in order. Talk to a lawyer and see what the options are. Listen to your lawyer.