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Date: October 8, 2022
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Thank you for replying! It’d be lovely if you could point out what immaturity you found in my thread cuz I have no idea haha.
I’m more of a big city gal and not sure if I’ll stay in the U.S. most of my life. He is a more suburban dude and but okay with trying it out at a big city just not permanently. And he’s def staying in the U.S. and not going anywhere
It sounds like you’ve got a nugget of platinum, but you’re complaining because you read you should look for gold. You’re either (1) not that into him and looking for an excuse to break up or (2) setting silly goals for what love’s supposed to be and can’t appreciate your bf as a result. Be honest; which is it?
I think this person is being a little dramatic.
What I would probably do is next time they criticize a life choice or spending decision, say “hey, I really don’t appreciate when you criticize X or Y. I don’t comment on your lifestyle choices in that way because you have reasons and decisions to make as a family together. Your daughter and I have certain goals and expectations regarding how we conduct our finances and lifestyle. I don’t need your approval of every decision, but I would appreciate your respect and understand that we think about our decisions carefully. I take care of our family and my wife is happy with what I do for her and the family.”
Even if your clock is ticking, having kids with someone like this sounds like a nightmare. So much has to be planned for with children and it sounds like he will not be willing to do that if he’s acted this way with you for years. Also, what else could he be lying about? I’m so sorry this happened to you but I would get out
Have you never heard of this happening with French fries? It’s a no win scenario for you unless you just get the extra ones they claim they didn’t want.
No this wedding deal is NOT a red flag. Family pushback is a BIG red flag. It is a powerful force that destroys loving relationships and marriages.
Your family considers your BF's looks, and his income, beneath them, and unworthy of you. They will try every tactic, in hope to convince you of this, or to find any other reason for you to be dissatisfied. Let me give you some tactics of your own.
First, offensive tactics. Probe for weakness. Don't pin your hopes on your BF's staunchest opponents. As you see, some of your elders have already decided that, even at age 27, youth has made you naïve, and love has made you blind. If you confront them yourself, they will talk down to you, no matter how persuasive your arguments may be.
Instead, find family members who have little or no problem with your BF, and energetically cultivate their goodwill. Give highest priority to those who your parents will talk to as an equal. Talk only to your supporters about your wedding plans. Say nothing about family members who are against the marriage, no matter what they say about you and your BF.
Next, build support for your wedding by involving your supporters it. Ask their advice and help, even if you don't really need it. Listen intently, and gratefully adopt at least some of their ideas. Give them roles to play in the wedding, and thank them effusively for volunteering.
On defense, avoid conflict at all costs. Expect more arguments from family members, and instead of answering with logic or emotion, use only diplomacy. Listen with patience and respect. Thank them for their caring, their concern, and their advice. Promise to give their arguments serious consideration. Nothing more. If reminded, say only that you have not forgotten, and that in fact you've kept their thoughts in mind. No questions, no talking points, no arguments, no sign of resistance, not even in facial expression or body language.
Next keep your BF at a distance from hostile family members. They are very likely to try and provoke him with angry words and bad behavior, to get him to answer in anger, and make you think less of him. Bring him only to meet with those who accept him.
Now here is a difficulty. Let your BF know you are taking the diplomatic path, and explain why. He may expect that you will talk back to his detractors, and defend him. You may face some difficulty in arguing that in your family you are still your parents' child, so they will insist that you must respect what they tell you, and the harder you fight, the stiffer their resistance. You may have to ask your BF to please trust you on this. I wish you good luck.
How did the conversation come up that it was okay to start sex while one of you is asleep? How many times has he done this in the past? Have you ever done this to him?
It sounds like they were VERY clear about what she wanted, so for him to go so blatantly against that begs the question “who is she marrying?” “Should she?”
I always love to see a post that is simultaneously condescending and written with the skill level of a ten year old.
he says all men cheat
He's a liar and a cheat.
What do I do about this?
What do you want to do? Divorce? Not much of a marriage with his behavior and attitude.
She sees the pattern that if she cheats on you you’ll just forgive her and stay. So she has no reason not to cheat, so she’ll continue to do it.
Depending where you live, marriage has many meanings. Some of it is law, joint finances/taxes while it can also be religious and/or family oriented.
Find out what part(s) he objects to.
If he doesn't want the law involved, then don't legally get married, just religiously, or maybe not at all, but wear “commitment rings”.
There is often room for compromise.
This response is really important to me and thank you for the advice. I would gladly take responsibility for the dog, after everything I’ve seen it go through. I really feel like a terrible person for putting this off for almost a week now. Anything could’ve happened. I’m just glad there’s people like you in this world that can offer great help with sending an abused dog to a good home. This puppy will never face torment like that again thanks to folks like you
Cheating
Serious lack of morals
Serious lack of integrity
Serious lack of intelligence
And you need to seriously consider what your relationship is going forward.
You were incredibly naive and stupid to not tell her no to going to the bar. It’s a place for singles (and cheaters) to get hookups. You say you didn’t want to be the kind of husband that limits what she can do. Firstly it isn’t limiting what she can do, it’s telling her that if she does it, it is a breach of trust, and crossing of a boundary that cannot be fixed.
You now share some of the blame for the situation you are in. Hopefully you have grown a spine, and will have some respect for yourself when you finally deal with the situation.
I swear every early 20's post can be summarised as “You're dating a dickhead, leave”
i’m not sure but i feel like it’s his only vice
They are not. Conception is when sperm and egg meet. Implantation is when the fertilized egg implants in the uterus.