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brave-sanita chat
Date: October 12, 2022
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brave-sanita chat
Wow. Cough up the money and cancel the lease. Either that or see/hear him banging the girl from time to time. That’s not good for your mental health. Honestly, you better than me. It would’ve been some furniture moving if he did that to me.
I have cried at commercials. It’s a bit ridiculous but it’s me. I just cried during White Christmas when the General goes in to see his troops. It’s me.
I read The Nightengale and was telling my husband the story as I was reading. I got to the end and cried. Hours later I was telling him the end and OMG I sobbed telling him. Embarrassing but it’s me.
Adding for context: I cared for several people who were Holocaust survivors.
100%
Idk why but I'm getting lots of notifications but the messages seem to get deleted real quick? It's weird.
Someone asked what would stop her getting controlling if he gave in and demanding he stop platonic relationships. Absolutely she would then be in the wrong, but according to the post that's not what happened. Your partner asking you not to communicate with someone who is romantically pursuing you is rationale and pretty standard practice in most monogamous relationships imo. It has no correlation or causation with abusive control.
Don't protect a man who “bonked you on the side of the head a few times”.
I'd actually advise a police report but it's probably past that time.
You are not responsible for him. You are not responsible for protecting him.
What would you tell your brother/sister/friend, if they gave you all this information about their partner?
And you had a baby with this person? Why?
You're not, you know that and he should understand that too.
Your at a lose lose situation bro, like you can’t tell her straight up because it makes you looks like a AH but at the same time you feel bad for her and the logical reason is to leave, like why do you hang out next to a building that’s on fire? Because it’s the building you help built. Goodluck I have no real advice
What he tells his therapist is a snapshot in time. A snapshot you should never have looked at.
Keep in mind, his feelings can change over the course of a day, month, year, decade. Do not confuse him working through his feelings as a statement on his part regarding what he really wants for his future. ALSO, given that pregnancy is a burden that falls entirely on you AND he can change his mind at any point re: sticking around to raise the child, his feelings may not be based in a realistic view of the work involved in having and caring for a child. He may have Christmas puppy excitement about a baby that, again, he needs to work through because those feelings are real, but not ones that should influence the rest of your lives.
Leave, now. Unless you want a kid at 21, which seems like you don’t. If somebody did that to me and it was against my wishes I’d never talk to them again. Imagine if the roles were reversed? Betting she wouldn’t be very thrilled. You’re 21 dude. Live life, be happy, you don’t need this kind of fuckery in your life.
My only fear is she finds out because the baby looks like me. Like I am mixed with blue eyes. My mother's friend is Asian.
The advice you need has already been written for you, by one of the greatest mathematical thinkers in history. Put “beautiful mind blonde” in a youtube search. The only way that you both win and both maintain your friendship is by NOT doing anything, you both don't go for the girl. You both win.
yeah he isn't the one for you, move on
Dont forget about how he also lost this friend in the process.
Yes mentally ill, porn addicted men are not ready for relationships
yes she did, I didn't want to see it but I saw enough to realize what I done. I thin she still has it
Omg you’re so ridiculous. Is it not possible for an Indian house to smell like Indian food. Done with this ridiculous conversation.
You should sort out the dead bedroom issue first. It seems like everything else is stemming from that. I really don't blame him for feeling the way he does after those events.
?”I'd die for you” that's easy to say We have a list of people that we would take A bullet for them, a bullet for you A bullet for everybody in this room But I don't seem to see many bullets coming through See many bullets coming through Metaphorically, I'm the man But literally, I don't know what I'd do?
Have you asked her why she's telling you this stuff?
This is wild. One thing that stood out for me is your disability. How much caretaking is she doing during flare-ups and how often do they happen? Is it possible she’s been feeling overwhelmed and this new situation gives her an out?
Idk how she thinks any of this is fair to you though. You’re going to see your kids two weeks every two months? Wtaf??? You need a really good lawyer.
Jesus Christ… ‘I won’t contact her again… I’m thinking of emailing her in a couple weeks.’ Dude. It’s over and you’re reaching stalking levels.