A few days ago I made a post using a ThrowRA account because some of my friends know I use Reddit. I asked for advice about my situation and I received a lot of useful advices, and now I'm updating with another ThrowRA account because I lost access to the other one.
Background information: My husband and I have been together for 5 years, we got married last year, but we've been friends for a long time before we got together. He married another woman before me, they have a daughter together, and one day out of nowhere she decided to leave him and their daughter (back then still a baby) without even saying goodbye, and moved to another state with another man. We started dating two years after she left. Now she's back and she decided to contact my husband. He showed me their full conversation. She wanted to meet him in private "just to talk" according to her words.
Update: we were both very hesitant about meeting her, but he decided to go and invited me to go with him. They met today earlier and I was there keeping my distance, just in case he needed me. Their conversation didn't even last one hour. He said it started with her trying to explain why she left, saying that she was confused and that she regrets her decisions, and apparently the guy she cheated on him with was abusive to her. She said after she left she found out she was pregnant and that the baby was probably his (my husband's), but she had an abortion. He said she tried to flirt with him and invited him to her place. She's really unbelievable. He asked her to go straight to the point and what she wanted to talk about, and she said that she wants to meet their daughter. This was exactly what we feared. He said that she can go to court, because that's the only way he will allow her to see her, and she said she will, and that she will ask for her custody.
He's crying nonstop since we came back home. I had to take his daughter to spend the night with my sister, because she still doesnt know what's going on and we don't want her to see us like this. Now he's asleep, but tomorrow is going to be a long day, and I have a strong feeling his ex will still cause us a lot of headache.
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