We have been collectively for a decade. She is my best friend and I love her. Over the years, I have stayed active plus regularly go to the gym and she has chosen not to and has gained a lot of weight. On the way, I have encouraged her to join me at the gym, encouraged the girl to join gyms that better suit what she likes to do, and have tried our best to positively reinforce the girl taking the gym and diet seriously. She keeps producing excuses to not go yet acknowledges that’s she needs to lose weight in a healthy method so I thought we were on the same page, then 4 years passed and nothing has changed. What usually happens will be she’ll get excited plus hit the gym really good for two weeks then something occurs and she won’t go for a month. How can I help her modify this? She is expecting me to propose this year and am know life long love is all about more than just looks but keeping a decent figure is important in my opinion and I’ve lost plenty of my sexual attraction to her… not a very comforting feeling when you’re going to propose. I’m not inquiring her to be model thin but I don’t want to get married to someone who is on the cusp of obesity when they are 30. I want us to be active, I want our future kids to be active, I would like us to live long healthy lives, and I want my wife to be sexy (why will this feel wrong to state? It shouldn’t). At a particular point it comes off since her not caring about me because I have attempted so naked to get the girl to commit to fitness like she used to be and she understands how important it is in my life and she still chooses to not. It’s getting to the point where I could feel my resentment developing every time she makes a reason to skip the gym and am know that’s not going to business lead anywhere healthy. How do I bring this up to her respectfully so she can sense the urgency but without ruining the relationship and making her feel horrible? I would like her to feel motivated.
If I break up with her for this it might surprise her because I’ve always been passive and walked throughout the issue because I don’t want to sound so vain but babe, you’re losing myself and I so desperately would like you to change that!
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