The [29M] hinge match [29F] would have stood me up had I not texted her beforehand. Now the girl wants a second chance.

TLDR: the title, essentially, with the additional information that she canceled with less than 30 minutes notice, only because I actually sent a two verification texts ahead of time.

I [29M] planned a coffee date with our hinge match [29F]. On the day of the date, the girl got weird, postponed the particular date 2 hours. I agreed. Then she didn' to answer when I sent a confirmation text an hour beforehand, " are we still on for 4pm? "…. Thirty minutes before the date, I texted her again, something like, " I' m leaving behind now! Looking forward to seeing you, but please let me know if you want to cancel/are not planning on arriving! " I sent this particular message because I had a sense she wasn' t arriving. However , I was giving her the benefit of the doubt because of the fact that she had expressed enthusiasm about meeting myself earlier in the week. A few minutes after my second text, she said ' I must cancel, but would like to plan something else soon. ' I was upset because I already agreed to postpone the date by 2 hours today and I just spent the last half-hour getting ready, giving myself just a little pep talk in the looking glass, shaving, getting dressed, washed up, etc . I saw the girl text just as I was getting in the car. Had she delivered the text, a minute later, I' d have driven 20 minutes for no cause. I' m 100% certain she would have stood me up had I not sent the _second_ confirmation text. I was annoyed, yet at least she mustered up the confidence to let me know instead of stand me up.

I actually let the situation sit for some time, then eventually I told her I didn' t want to reschedule. I was as courteous as I could possibly be, while being 100% honest that I felt she was inconsiderate for canceling so late, and that I' m convinced she’d have stood me up. She did own it plus apologize, which I accepted without a doubt. She explained how the lady was freaked out due to the fact I didn' t text her the day before, which I found confusing. From the perspective, she didn' capital t text me, as I delivered the last message on the day previous to that. She admitted to overthinking and I believe the girl explanation. Now, she is requesting a second chance and I' m not sure what the correct decision is. I' mirielle a little intimidated by the idea that she read so much into a lack of text messages to the point that will she was going to stand me personally up. I also really don' t even know if she' s right person for me anyway, so I' m just overwhelmed feeling like maybe it' t nicer to give a second chance, but maybe it wouldn' big t be worth the effort anyways. I feel like I spent a lot of emotional energy and I' m not sure whether I owe her another chance, especially if I might finish up expending more of my power if it doesn' t proceed well. Wondering what 3rd party perspectives think. Thoughts?

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