Little while ago he asked if he could go on a three day trip with this girl from college that he met four months ago, I’ve seen her only once if that matters. He claim that they are very good friends and have a connection. At first I thought he was joking but he was very serious about it. I stated that I don’t think it’s advisable and while I was typing almost everything I realized that in a three or more year relationship he certainly not wanted to plan any short trip with me and even did not want to go if a came up with ideas. And I got really mad, I asked him if he is out of their mind, we haven’t observed each other in more than 14 days because of our colleges but the second he got several free time he wants to embark on a trip with her? I had been really mad and I published many testy and wrathy things but the only issue he said was “okay, I understand”. He was not fighting for it, nothing. And this weekend during random conversation something snapped in my mind and I asked him what did he said to the girl about this trip, why he couldn’t go etc . And said, “well I told her – because of you”. It had been, during my rage, he had been sending her screenshots of everything I was typing and they were kind of laughing from me, like how I exaggerated and how crazy I am. I’ve never felt so betrayed. Today he’s saying that it’s every because I don’t trust your pet enough. I also saw just how she said that of course I’m included and he said that he or she really wants to go just along with her but they agreed that it may be good idea to take somebody else just to kind of mask it so it doesn’t seem strange. He’s gaslighting me at this time that they are just friends and exactly how can I not see it, which he would 100% let me opt for any of my male close friends, and he has no idea exactly why I blew this up so much.
Just from curiosity I’d love to listen to your opinions here plus thanks for staying with me for a sec: )
EDIT: thank you for all of your responeses, but do not Come at and state How are we not really broken up yet and How you’d be better with already single for a long time : it happened not even 6 hours ago and it’s night, I’m absolutely not justifying anything and I hate your pet and I am dumping him, I just need him in order to wake up, okay?: )
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