Our own son has gone through a great deal recently and my husband and I would really love some suggestions about what to do. My son has a 6 month old child with his ex-girlfriend(17). She obtained kicked out because she was pregnant so the lady moved in with him. Which was until she decided to depart and move back home. The lady left us a note saying she was sorry and we haven' t gotten a hold of her since. My son has been working 2 jobs and it' s i9000 taken a rough toll on him. My husband and I watch the baby sometimes and you will find days when he comes home to pick up the baby and he' s completely drained.
I used to be cleaning and I found a note in one of the drawers. I realized it was written by my kid and I didn' t realize how bad things really were. It detailed him getting into an amazing school(didn' t know he applied to university again) but he can' t go because he has a baby. It made me cry like no other. The baby is suffering, plus it' s even worse that will he' s doing it in silence. When we found out that their girlfriend was pregnant, we told him that we were here, but don' t expect us to take over. But now, now I' m torn. I just want him to be happy. Right now he has no degree, works 2 low paying jobs, and it is struggling a lot mentally and physically. He just obtained accepted into one of the best universities for STEM and has an opportunity to change his path at the moment, but he does have a child. I just really, really want to talk about it, even though he said he was not going in his note.
ETA- I would like to include that my husband and I are totally willing to take in our grandchild but it all comes down to whether or not our son will allow us to help. I love the both of them deeply and will by no means deny help to my kid when he is clearly within distress.
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