In the last couple of months my husband had some sketchy behavior, enough that I needed to ask him if he previously cheated. Even though he refuses it, I’ve asked your pet to start wearing condoms whenever we have sex, just until we work some things out with a therapist. I’m truthfully conflicted about whether or not a believe him and I want to give him the benefit it of the doubt so I felt like him wearing a condom would allow all of us to move forward in our connection while still keeping me “safe”. It would take a large amount of anxiety away for me.
When I asked him to get this done he freaked out. He said he believes a man shouldn’t have to wear a condom in a marriage which it takes away all the pleasure for him to do this. This individual told me if I’m worried about pregnancy I should get on contraceptive (we have talked about this in the past and I explained which i am not able to be upon birth control for a variety of reasons and that I had tried). He’s been super mean towards me for the last couple of days and pretty much told me he will not have sex with me if they have to wear a condom. He or she told me he needs time for you to mentally process my request. He’s making me seem like I am asking him to perform something horrible and i sincerely don’t know how to respond.
I explained very honestly why I was asking for this and that it would just be until we got through some therapy (not forever) and his response and reaction produced me feel like I am simply an object HE OWNS to get sex with however this individual wants. My feelings did not seem to be relevant at all. I am really confused.
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