Housemates (23M, 22M) put a “no hookups rule” on me (22F), sort of my fault, but I feel it’s unfair. advice

I online with three best friends that I have known since high school (21F, 23M, 22M). We often go out together and will occasionally go home with someone we meet while out.

I have recently been going through a rough patch romantically and had been having a bit of a run of one night stands. And unfortunately about 2 months ago a hookup went a bit wrong, it was nothing super bad, more like a misunderstanding.

But because of the yelling in my room my friend (23M) came in to see what was going on. Which caused the guy to get pretty heated, and it escalated. My other friend ended up coming out too and it was really intense and reallly scary. Everyone had been drinking, no one was listening to me. I was crying, it was really really awful. But it was probably worse for my friends

I felt very guilty even though I knew there was no reason it had to escalate like that, and they were very pissed off at me. I tried to talk about it and he basically said he doesn’t want random men in the house that he doesn’t at least vaguely know and that it’s stressful for him. So I agreed to not do it again. Everyone was in the lounge at the time and everyone agreed

This has been fine, I just stopped. Except my other friend (22M) continues to bring girls home. I think it’s been twice I’ve seen him walk past with someone I didn’t know.

When I brought this up I was like completely dismissed and they just brought up the shit that happened two months ago to guilt me again and said it was “different”.

I basically don’t know where I stand and don’t even know if this is fair or not I guess.

Edit: I feel like there’s a bit of context missing but they banned random men in general, like not just me having hookups

Edit 2: people are asking for context on how the fight started: he was holding a drink in his hand as we were kissing, something bumped and he ended up spilling it on my expensive sheets, so I wanted to clean it up and I said that a bit aggressively I guess, he said he’s clean it up later, I told him “no I’m cleaning it now”, “who the fuck cares it will wash out” “I fucking care” etc, etc. It wasn’t super heated, we were just frustrated. I didn’t feel threatened. Just pissed off, but we were yelling pretty loud.

When my friend came into the room he was like “Is everything ok” and we were both like half hot, then my hookup was like “who the fuck are you” and the tone completely changed, that’s when he became properly aggressive. I tried to explain what happened but he wasn’t listening to me. There was a lot of yelling and then they started like fronting up and it became a bit physical (pushing kind of stuff), thats when my other friend came out and it was more one sided after that and he left.

Edit 3: I’m off to sleep now, Thankyou for your responses. I haven’t broached this with the boys much at all because any mention goes down like a lead balloon. So it’s good to talk about things. But we are all on very good terms and i always let them know I am very thankful to have them in my life.