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Date: November 13, 2022
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Your sister is being petty. Tell her to fuck off.
I see huge amounts of text about what your girlfriend wants. All about what your girlfriend thinks would be ideal and what her preferences are.
What I don’t see in what you wrote is your honest opinion. Does her news make you sad, make you excited for her? Make you jealous? Make you happy? What is your thought?
If you want monogamy then say you want no cheating ever. If she disagrees break up.
If you want her to explore her options while dating you then let her.
Whatever you do be honest with yourself. It’s better to have no partner than a partner that resents you or doesn’t want to be with you.
He needs help desperately. You can't give it to him. It's something that he has to do for himself.
Solid advice.
Like she would tell you the truth. Please, open your eyes. She’s playing you.
He said he wasn't sure he should tell me,
Sometimes it's better to keep quiet and let people suspect you might be foolish, rather than open your mouth and remove all doubt.
Also a bit manipulative, but here i don't think that's what happened. I think he genuinely feels abused.
Victimhood mythology, Learned-victimhood might be an equivalent term. Arbitrary shame about the mythical idea of virginity is part of this.
This often goes hand in hand with low self-esteem and self-loathing. In other words, he may have been a victim of hurtful and unjust treatment as a child, though he's not a victim as an adult. But rather, he's trying to perpetuate a narrative or underlying agenda where he welcomes and invites poor treatment and disrespect. Wherein he does things subconsciously to encourage people to reject him and distrust him. (E.g. trying to root around with one's roommates.) Because that would make a kind of sense out of certain chaotic and nonsensical core memories from his childhood. This is easier and simpler than being angry at one's role models, parents and caretakers for being chaotic and not good listeners.
He also has huge self confidence issues in his appearance with can explain the virginity and some of the toxicity.
There's something of an empathy-gap here.
You sympathize with his struggles, while he blames you and pities himself. He sees your struggles with problematic drinking to be an opportunity he can exploit. Then guilt-trips you when he didn't get what he wanted, using terms he knows will trigger you.
But yeah, after getting this info, i made it clear we are certainly NOT going to have sex.
It's a bit worrying to me that this was ever a question, because this guy doesn't sound mature enough to deal with the consequences of sex. Especially since you mention the habitual self-loathing about his appearance, and attempts to dredge up pity and sympathy.
But that's easy to say, having the benefit of hindsight.
Heaven forbid he accidentally gets somone pregnant. He doesn't seem like he'd be a very good father or role model.
Thank you so much for the feedback though, it really helps to get an outsider's view
You already found someone? And they “feed your soul”? (cliché af)
So you're emotionally cheating on your wife? Just end it then, bro. Don't ask us anything, you already made your decision.
Short version: you can’t make this work. Or at least, you can but only at the most extravagant cost in time and energy.
Relationships mean being there with each other. LDRs are handicapped, because they attempt to “be there” without “being there.”
And if she’s withholding and / or draining at distance, you have no reason to expect that will get better with proximity. I’m sympathetic with anxiety, but that’s a bad enough burden on you close up. At distance when you can’t be there for the worst of it or have any recourse when she gives up, it’s quite hopeless to think you’ll help her at all with that.
“Husband, this is not a whoopsie. I consented to loaning him $800. I did not consent to loaning him $1500. Since this is a shared account, you were obligated to talk to me about this BEFORE loaning him the money. By doing this without talking to me first I feel like I've been conned and taken advantage of and you have lost some of the trust I have in you.”
Yeah I know he’s said that to me