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BellaDayan Public Chat Channel
Date: November 14, 2022
AmateurPub
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BellaDayan Public Chat Channel
The clues are definitely in the post if you look for them. This is a Cluster B post and the daughter has very good reasons for not wanting her around.
I heard they come in handy if you accidentally wet your phone, kind of like putting it in a bowl of rice but more effective.
I assume you've communicated to her that intimacy is important to you?
It's her responsibility to seek therapy for her trauma. She knows that by not doing so she's damaging your relationship. She's making that decision.
they still invited him.
At that point, you say “Thanks for the invite but I already let you know if he's there – I won't be. Please have fun and remember this for next years invites.”
And then… go have fun with your boyfriend.
They could simply not realize how serious you are. They could not care. They could be prioritizing him. It could be one person doing the prioritization and not the group. All of the above. None.
Without knowing more about the “group dynamics” it's hot to say why and what and all that. All I would focus on, personally, is the hard boundary you've created and this year it will decide who's going – You or Him. There will be no confusion for future events.
Fwiw, you should know that the risk of miscarriage during pregnancy drops significantly after the end of the first trimester (at 12 weeks). Miscarriage in the second trimester happens only in maximum 5% of cases, but this is based on worldwide statistics, and the percentage in fully developed nations drops to as low as under 1%.
Further, you should not be taking on responsibility of her physical health in that way. This is not your baby, you had no choice in its existence, your concerns are ignored…feel free to return the favour. And I know, I know, it's not that easy when you love someone, but I'm validating to you that you absolutely have every right to be hurt by this behaviour, as it's a huge betrayal.
Further more, it absolutely is financially abusive. I cannot comment on if it's more, but they are treating you as a meal ticket on a baby you don't want. That's financial abuse.
I would recommend walking away from this situation, it's so far from healthy, I cant even wrap my head fully around it. They're using you, they're abusing you, and it's only going to get worse. It's absolutely time to leave.
On Sundays, my boyfriend and I actually hang out right after we get up until we go to bed. We watch something, cook and eat together, play Switch, etc.. The routine is actually pretty much the same every Sunday. But that doesn't really bother me. Problem is now only: yesterday was not so, yesterday we have not done so much actually as good as was nothing? Personally, I also feel that we have spent little time in the last few days and have also, for example, too little cuddled. So I have then actually only out of “necessity” (and because she suggested it) made today what with my sister, so only by phone because she also lives over an hour away by train and we can not meet so evenly for money reasons also she has a social anxiety disorder and it times not so evenly goes to the city or the like. We played some old live games and I really tried to have fun, it was kind of fun and I laughed but inside I felt … I don't know how to describe it. Inside I was rather longing for my boyfriend? Can you put it that way? I don't know.
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Forgive Once, if you can, but don't turn free Vodka into a free pass. If you don't plan to exceed the speed limit, you don't fill your car with rocket fuel, now, do you?
So, IF alcohol, drugs, or any other factors (such as where you are, doing what, and with whom) loosen GF's inhibitions, THEN I think even the most forgiving of us would say that, once you know that these factors encourage and enable you to behave badly, you must then give up using them again as an EXCUSE for behaving badly.
I don’t have it… so I have to…