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That much glitter isn't from a person, more likely he got glitter bombed after stealing a booby trapped package off of a porch or getting sent out in the mail.
Honestly yeah you probably hurt them but its been 2 years and they probably have moved on. Deleting social medias account wouldnt mean death or suicide depending on what was the content of your conversations. Do you ever check their social medias ? Do you see a therapist ? It’s not healthy to agonize over something that isnt even real at this point.
I think he was trying to make you stop working so that you would depend on him and that way if you found out that he's cheating you couldn't leave, idk if it's just me that has that idea. I'm sorry you had to go through that but I'm glad you're falling for divorce, please don't believe him any promise and don't go back to him cause this will most likely happen again. Better getting rid of him now than later that you have children and everything is more complicated.
Makes sence now this is exactly what my ex is doing to me chops and changes and wonders why I have the trust issues to stubborn to see. Yet if it was so help me God everyone take cover.. do what your hearts telling you to do this isto complicated. Just be friends with both
I’m going to go out on a limb and say that he’s already cheating. I’ve known several narcissists and they have 1) cheated and 2) blamed their partner for cheating (even when the partner was not cheating). Maybe I’m wrong, but usually these kinds of accusations (from a narcissist) is an attempt to distract you from reality.
It’s honestly not worth it. Save yourself and the baby. The baby would be innocent and doesn’t deserve to have an abusive parent, and a parent who might not be ready to raise a child. It’s nude work and you shouldn’t have a baby just because your parents want you to.
Dump the boyfriend, date the brother. Your boyfriend is rude and is name calling you, which is not ok. Also, you are 19. A 20 year old would be better for your age group than a 23 year old.
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Let him go, but you’re way too old to be lying about having an orgasm. Probably should’ve stopped that 20 years ago. It’s fairly normal when you’re just getting started having sex as a young adult, but that type of lying helps literally no one, and I don’t blame him for feeling upset about that part.
But the problem here is that he is acting the same way when she does it accidentally, like in her sleep. This isn't something you can control. He's disgusted because he doesn't think women should have bodily functions.
I understand your desire to return to work, who wants to be sat at home 6 hours a day, but I equally understand your partner’s desire to be there for your son. When my youngest got to school age my wife volunteered for the first year at the the school’s preschool a couple days a week and took a couple of courses to update her skills (although she’d been out of work for 8 years by then). So maybe consider updating you skills for a year before going back to work?
Your bf is immature as hell. I’m married and straight. My mom would have a stroke if my husband said something like that to them. What the hell is wrong with your bf??? Your dad isn’t upset at you or losing support for you, he’s just understandably freaked out. Have a serious talk with your bf about manners.
To be honest it wouldn’t surprise me him cheating during the times I left for vacation with family/friends. We had a rough relationship from the start and there was several times where he would tell me he wasn’t ready when things got nude. We have broken off in the past and he would be the one trying to take me back. Im too nice and would give him another chance. But I feel like this is it for me. It’s just the same scenario with him. He said to me tonight that he has a porno problem and can’t seem to take his eyes away from other women. But at the same time he loves me and would destroy him if I ever left cause I’m the only person besides his brother that he really cares about. He is promising now that he wants us to do couple therapy and that he really wants to change.
EDIT: So, I figured that I would add more context, I do get public transportation when I can to get to my workplace, I pay monthly rent to my parents and also pay for phone/ streaming services, if my parents ask me to pay for food, I do with no hesitation; I even offer even when they don’t ask. My job have very late work hours as I could finish early hours during the morning; so the price for an Uber/ taxi would rise significantly. Also, my work wage is monthly, however it is not fixed as it all depends on how busy my workplace is, how much I earn. I very rarely ask my parents for lift now as Dad will use it against me in an argument.
Not buying the expired IUD story. Your boyfriend and you should have chipped in and paid for it together and I’m sure Planned Parenthood offers it for free or low cost. Sounds like this was a “accident”.
He honestly sounds like about the dumbest man alive. He has no idea about how power actualy works. You could turn his life into a pile of rubble and he threatens you with court. Dude is living in the wrong century.
If he has a good income or property then for him Family court is figurative meat grinder where he (the father) goes in one side and a pile of money and houses come out the other side.
Just smile take contenporaneous notes. Judges love it when a man threatens to take children away from a mother through the court.
I've just got home from visiting with the friend. it is to late to talk to him now, I will find out more when I confront him. but I dont think it is something as sinister as spying.
Honestly this sounds like you cheated on your wife with her friend knowingly and are afraid she’s going to find out so you’re now trying to fabricate a story as an excuse… and you’re using Reddit to see if it’s believable that you were “tricked”.
Yes it's not against the law to get a haircut. It's also not against the law not to shower for 1 month straight, but I'd doubt you'd be fine with your gf not showering for a month just because “it's her right to do so”.
When you are in a relationship you are supposed to actually care what your partner thinks about you too. The priority shifts from yourself to the couple. Yes of course, your partner should not dictate the way you look or act or smell or whatever. However, they are supposed to have a say in these things.
If you just change your appearance drastically without consulting with your SO because “who cares what he thinks? what matters is that I feel good about it, whether that makes him be less attracted to me or not” is extremely toxic and entitled behaviour. It shows you don't care about the relationship at all.
I actually don't like growing my beard out because it requires some work to maintain it but if my girl tells me she would be more attracted to me with a beard you bet your ass I'd do that, because I want to make her happy and that's what relationships are about. Now if she asked me to dye my hair pink maybe I'd refuse, but let me be clear: I would absolutely EXPECT her to discuss these things with me, because in a relationship that's what you do, you communicate.
So not only have destroyed your relationship with your BF (which would have ended anyway) You have also tarnished your friend’s reputations.
As you know the first thing that your ex bf will do is tell everyone he knows what you and your friends did.
No one is going to believe your story about it being fake until they cross check with your friends, and they may not bother if they are more interested in gossip than the truth.
I seriously hope you grow the fuck up before you get into another relationship, as currently you are so toxic and immature you are dangerous to everyone around you.
Save it as proof. Confront her. Leave her. Don’t le ther cry and manipulate you back! I’m not a dude, but it would be the same answer if this was swapped for the genders.
Good point, but I fear if I chose one or the other I will sooner or later lose someone that is valuable to me. So I am looking to find a middle ground.
You need to talk to your sister. Tell her that when you invite her – or anyone else – that this is a personal invitation that doesn't extend to other people. Not girlfriends or grandparents or anyone since you have to budget your money. If she invites other people she'll have to pay for them on her own.
I'm a bit taken aback about the whole behaviour since it's common behaviour to not extend your own invitation to someone else when you're not explicitly told that you can do so. Haven't your parents taught her that?
NO. PARTNERS RESPECT EACH OTHER ENOUGH NOT TO CROSS BOUNDARIES.
You are not mature enough to be a good partner until you learn that. If you genuinely care about him, give him space (for as long as he wants), and do not ever try this again. You either love him-which means respecting him and his boundaries, or you don’t.
You’re not a bad person but you are being unreasonable. Anxiety can be tough but it’s something you need to manage yourself. He’s not your emotional support animal. He should not have to miss out on enjoying the experience in order to pacify you.
She is just jealous of your lifestyle. She should check her own life. Are you sure that you want to stay with a person that is not happy for you and asking from you to be miserable so she can feel better? That is a huge red flag!!!!!
I appreciate you saying this as I've been feeling guilty that I'm hindering our relationship's road to recovery. He hasn't tried to guilt-trip me or anything but I know he wishes to have our previous closeness back. He has tried to make active changes (more conscious of our expenditure together, ensuring he pays me back if I'm paying first etc.) but I'm still hesitant to be vulnerable again.
Welcome to r_a, where people limit context in their posts to what makes them feel validated. If your girlfriend is upset enough to argue about this the way she did, this isn't the first time this argument has come up.
Welcome to r_a, where people limit context in their posts to what makes them feel validated. If your girlfriend is upset enough to argue about this the way she did, this isn't the first time this argument has come up.
It's not cheating and she should complain to the gym because that's a completely inappropriate use of her private information. I'm in the UK and that's a sackable offense.
“She says the convo ended in her stating that she has a bf”
She's done nothing wrong and I'm worried about your state of mind to think that any of this was her doing.
You should definitely file a complaint with the gym.
He is an AH. The whole chase thing is something that immature idiots buy into. My husband and I have been together over a decade and there aren't any real surprises anymore.
He shouldn't act as your therapist. It isn't healthy for you or good for any relationship you're in. Are there any kind of live! support groups you could look into?
The blame is intrinsic: her past is what is “torturing” him. He isn't telling her it's HIS INSECURITY that is traumatizing him. But I agree it was a good thing he broke up with her. Rather than tell how relieved (healed?) he feels now, he should actually go seek therapy and leave OP alone.
He doesn't see it as ruining it. Just downsizing so it's more managable. The invitation are done and are being sent out today. Once again I will power through him being a stick in the mud. I know it's going to negatively effect our relationship but it's a sacrifice I'm willing to make. When I told our daughter I rented a church for her birthday she got so excited she wants a piñata at her party and she knew there couldn't be one in our house. I still have the feeling like I'm being incredibly disrespectful to my husband but I can't do another crappy birthday party in our house. Her third birthday was a disaster and it resulted in one of the moms pushing me because she wanted more space to take pictures with her kid. My extended family still complains about her first birthday because the house was so cramped and naked.
That much glitter isn't from a person, more likely he got glitter bombed after stealing a booby trapped package off of a porch or getting sent out in the mail.
Did the place smell like farts at all?
You shouldn't need to say this is a boundary as its common sense. Your options are have the talk and work this out or breakup.
Honestly yeah you probably hurt them but its been 2 years and they probably have moved on. Deleting social medias account wouldnt mean death or suicide depending on what was the content of your conversations. Do you ever check their social medias ? Do you see a therapist ? It’s not healthy to agonize over something that isnt even real at this point.
You trust her completely but still felt the need to go through her phone when she left the room….
Right.
I think he was trying to make you stop working so that you would depend on him and that way if you found out that he's cheating you couldn't leave, idk if it's just me that has that idea. I'm sorry you had to go through that but I'm glad you're falling for divorce, please don't believe him any promise and don't go back to him cause this will most likely happen again. Better getting rid of him now than later that you have children and everything is more complicated.
i wanna say break up with him but I'm worried about his next gf
Makes sence now this is exactly what my ex is doing to me chops and changes and wonders why I have the trust issues to stubborn to see. Yet if it was so help me God everyone take cover.. do what your hearts telling you to do this isto complicated. Just be friends with both
Just ask him to give her your number.
“Remember X? She was cool. Haven't spoke to her in forever, though. Do you guys still talk? We should all hang out again…” Etc. Etc.
Also, be open and up front, it's all the crab walking you're going to do that's going to be creepo.
If I am not mistaken, OP and her ex weren’t married, which means she really doesn’t have any recourse.
Not sure why you’re getting downvoted, this is the fakest story I’ve ever read
Especially if he’s apparently really manipulative and good at hiding it
I’m happy to hear that mindset. You deserve to be with someone who can share in aligned goals.
Nah, forget about her
Yup… only took you 20 comments to figure that out! Thanks for finally understanding.
A girl I knew did this and I broke up with her because of it.
When have boundaries think of the y
Are you making them because your jealous, overthinking, or your scared to lose him?
If the answer is yes it’s probably a bad boundary
It's always the guys selling these ideas as great for the women.
I am guy that pees outside
Especially if there is snow
I dress for myself, Op.
I dress appropriately for work ( I work with 10-18 year olds) with a little of “me”.
I would slash my own carotids before I would dress so my SO can
*he likes them and other men stare and get jealous and then he walks around like a proud peacock all night and it’s really cute*
Good lord and have mercy. Gloria Steinem, where are you now?!
Thank you ?
Paternity test and lawyer. Record (secretly) her saying she brought up the open marriage.
Sounds like he’s cheating or your not the only 1 sis
I’m going to go out on a limb and say that he’s already cheating. I’ve known several narcissists and they have 1) cheated and 2) blamed their partner for cheating (even when the partner was not cheating). Maybe I’m wrong, but usually these kinds of accusations (from a narcissist) is an attempt to distract you from reality.
It’s honestly not worth it. Save yourself and the baby. The baby would be innocent and doesn’t deserve to have an abusive parent, and a parent who might not be ready to raise a child. It’s nude work and you shouldn’t have a baby just because your parents want you to.
Dump the boyfriend, date the brother. Your boyfriend is rude and is name calling you, which is not ok. Also, you are 19. A 20 year old would be better for your age group than a 23 year old.
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Pretend to be sick, see what he does and call him out on it.
Why does he treat you this way? Two answers:
1) Because he's an asshole. 2) Because you let him.
Let him go, but you’re way too old to be lying about having an orgasm. Probably should’ve stopped that 20 years ago. It’s fairly normal when you’re just getting started having sex as a young adult, but that type of lying helps literally no one, and I don’t blame him for feeling upset about that part.
It depends.
Who was the guy and how did it happen?
But the problem here is that he is acting the same way when she does it accidentally, like in her sleep. This isn't something you can control. He's disgusted because he doesn't think women should have bodily functions.
I understand your desire to return to work, who wants to be sat at home 6 hours a day, but I equally understand your partner’s desire to be there for your son. When my youngest got to school age my wife volunteered for the first year at the the school’s preschool a couple days a week and took a couple of courses to update her skills (although she’d been out of work for 8 years by then). So maybe consider updating you skills for a year before going back to work?
You have nothing to feel guilty about once a dog attacks unprovoked like this to the point of death it should automatically be put down.
I agree her boyfriend reacted somewhat reasonably in context if she has sexsomnia.
You're husband slept with others in that short time period???
what in the flying fuck? yeah he's worthless being that just needs excuse for his lust. OP please never ever forgive this trash
How did it not hurt before you got married and had kids
Your bf is immature as hell. I’m married and straight. My mom would have a stroke if my husband said something like that to them. What the hell is wrong with your bf??? Your dad isn’t upset at you or losing support for you, he’s just understandably freaked out. Have a serious talk with your bf about manners.
?? yes you should make sure she can’t go. Bro, your too nice.
Put a dab of very hot sauce in each used one so she can’t go afterwards and insiminate herself.
To be honest it wouldn’t surprise me him cheating during the times I left for vacation with family/friends. We had a rough relationship from the start and there was several times where he would tell me he wasn’t ready when things got nude. We have broken off in the past and he would be the one trying to take me back. Im too nice and would give him another chance. But I feel like this is it for me. It’s just the same scenario with him. He said to me tonight that he has a porno problem and can’t seem to take his eyes away from other women. But at the same time he loves me and would destroy him if I ever left cause I’m the only person besides his brother that he really cares about. He is promising now that he wants us to do couple therapy and that he really wants to change.
It was a combination of being late and my phone going to voice mail. It's never happened again, so he has improved.
OP's edit removes this suspicion.
EDIT: So, I figured that I would add more context, I do get public transportation when I can to get to my workplace, I pay monthly rent to my parents and also pay for phone/ streaming services, if my parents ask me to pay for food, I do with no hesitation; I even offer even when they don’t ask. My job have very late work hours as I could finish early hours during the morning; so the price for an Uber/ taxi would rise significantly. Also, my work wage is monthly, however it is not fixed as it all depends on how busy my workplace is, how much I earn. I very rarely ask my parents for lift now as Dad will use it against me in an argument.
So when he treats you well, that's called love bombing and is also a manipulation tactic that abusive people use to get you to stay.
Not buying the expired IUD story. Your boyfriend and you should have chipped in and paid for it together and I’m sure Planned Parenthood offers it for free or low cost. Sounds like this was a “accident”.
What are you doing when he says that?
Are you being purposefully vague and weird about this or do you really not know what behaviors you’re doing at the moments when he says this?
You say you know you’re annoying—why? What do other people find annoying? Because no, everyone isn’t annoying.
He honestly sounds like about the dumbest man alive. He has no idea about how power actualy works. You could turn his life into a pile of rubble and he threatens you with court. Dude is living in the wrong century.
If he has a good income or property then for him Family court is figurative meat grinder where he (the father) goes in one side and a pile of money and houses come out the other side.
Just smile take contenporaneous notes. Judges love it when a man threatens to take children away from a mother through the court.
I see, I agree but I still want to be with her
You're correct and he doesn't understand the history he claims to identify with. He probably thinks he's a leftist but doesn't actually do any praxis.
I've just got home from visiting with the friend. it is to late to talk to him now, I will find out more when I confront him. but I dont think it is something as sinister as spying.
Honestly this sounds like you cheated on your wife with her friend knowingly and are afraid she’s going to find out so you’re now trying to fabricate a story as an excuse… and you’re using Reddit to see if it’s believable that you were “tricked”.
Yes it's not against the law to get a haircut. It's also not against the law not to shower for 1 month straight, but I'd doubt you'd be fine with your gf not showering for a month just because “it's her right to do so”.
When you are in a relationship you are supposed to actually care what your partner thinks about you too. The priority shifts from yourself to the couple. Yes of course, your partner should not dictate the way you look or act or smell or whatever. However, they are supposed to have a say in these things.
If you just change your appearance drastically without consulting with your SO because “who cares what he thinks? what matters is that I feel good about it, whether that makes him be less attracted to me or not” is extremely toxic and entitled behaviour. It shows you don't care about the relationship at all.
I actually don't like growing my beard out because it requires some work to maintain it but if my girl tells me she would be more attracted to me with a beard you bet your ass I'd do that, because I want to make her happy and that's what relationships are about. Now if she asked me to dye my hair pink maybe I'd refuse, but let me be clear: I would absolutely EXPECT her to discuss these things with me, because in a relationship that's what you do, you communicate.
So not only have destroyed your relationship with your BF (which would have ended anyway) You have also tarnished your friend’s reputations.
As you know the first thing that your ex bf will do is tell everyone he knows what you and your friends did.
No one is going to believe your story about it being fake until they cross check with your friends, and they may not bother if they are more interested in gossip than the truth.
I seriously hope you grow the fuck up before you get into another relationship, as currently you are so toxic and immature you are dangerous to everyone around you.
Save it as proof. Confront her. Leave her. Don’t le ther cry and manipulate you back! I’m not a dude, but it would be the same answer if this was swapped for the genders.
Good point, but I fear if I chose one or the other I will sooner or later lose someone that is valuable to me. So I am looking to find a middle ground.
Integrity is how you act when you think no one is watching.
You need to talk to your sister. Tell her that when you invite her – or anyone else – that this is a personal invitation that doesn't extend to other people. Not girlfriends or grandparents or anyone since you have to budget your money. If she invites other people she'll have to pay for them on her own.
I'm a bit taken aback about the whole behaviour since it's common behaviour to not extend your own invitation to someone else when you're not explicitly told that you can do so. Haven't your parents taught her that?
NO. PARTNERS RESPECT EACH OTHER ENOUGH NOT TO CROSS BOUNDARIES.
You are not mature enough to be a good partner until you learn that. If you genuinely care about him, give him space (for as long as he wants), and do not ever try this again. You either love him-which means respecting him and his boundaries, or you don’t.
You’re not a bad person but you are being unreasonable. Anxiety can be tough but it’s something you need to manage yourself. He’s not your emotional support animal. He should not have to miss out on enjoying the experience in order to pacify you.
She is just jealous of your lifestyle. She should check her own life. Are you sure that you want to stay with a person that is not happy for you and asking from you to be miserable so she can feel better? That is a huge red flag!!!!!
I appreciate you saying this as I've been feeling guilty that I'm hindering our relationship's road to recovery. He hasn't tried to guilt-trip me or anything but I know he wishes to have our previous closeness back. He has tried to make active changes (more conscious of our expenditure together, ensuring he pays me back if I'm paying first etc.) but I'm still hesitant to be vulnerable again.
Exactly, not a random house. Her co-workers house.
Welcome to r_a, where people limit context in their posts to what makes them feel validated. If your girlfriend is upset enough to argue about this the way she did, this isn't the first time this argument has come up.
Welcome to r_a, where people limit context in their posts to what makes them feel validated. If your girlfriend is upset enough to argue about this the way she did, this isn't the first time this argument has come up.
It's not cheating and she should complain to the gym because that's a completely inappropriate use of her private information. I'm in the UK and that's a sackable offense.
“She says the convo ended in her stating that she has a bf”
She's done nothing wrong and I'm worried about your state of mind to think that any of this was her doing.
You should definitely file a complaint with the gym.
Wtf happened that you two sisters are this broken?
He is an AH. The whole chase thing is something that immature idiots buy into. My husband and I have been together over a decade and there aren't any real surprises anymore.
He shouldn't act as your therapist. It isn't healthy for you or good for any relationship you're in. Are there any kind of live! support groups you could look into?
lmao you’re actually gonna stay with her? jesus christ what a doormat
The blame is intrinsic: her past is what is “torturing” him. He isn't telling her it's HIS INSECURITY that is traumatizing him. But I agree it was a good thing he broke up with her. Rather than tell how relieved (healed?) he feels now, he should actually go seek therapy and leave OP alone.
It’s not a “whim”. You can have the whole rest of your life to process. The decision comes first. Don’t marry this man.
LETTING?
Dude, fuck you. She doesn't owe you control over her nail polish habits. You're a control freak and she deserves better.
This makes so much sense honestly.
2-3 times a week
He doesn't see it as ruining it. Just downsizing so it's more managable. The invitation are done and are being sent out today. Once again I will power through him being a stick in the mud. I know it's going to negatively effect our relationship but it's a sacrifice I'm willing to make. When I told our daughter I rented a church for her birthday she got so excited she wants a piñata at her party and she knew there couldn't be one in our house. I still have the feeling like I'm being incredibly disrespectful to my husband but I can't do another crappy birthday party in our house. Her third birthday was a disaster and it resulted in one of the moms pushing me because she wanted more space to take pictures with her kid. My extended family still complains about her first birthday because the house was so cramped and naked.