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CREAMY, ¡¡¡ [Multi Goal]
Date: October 11, 2022
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CREAMY, ¡¡¡ [Multi Goal]
He either has a wife/girlfriend or he’s a pig.
Leave it alone. He’s changed his mind. He used to post her a bunch and clearly that didn’t work out. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to understand why he might not want to do that again.
no probs
“He asked for it to be a monogamous, indefinite, no-contact break.”
This is nonsense. Whatever his intent, he is literally asking you to sit around waiting for him to figure his shit out and not date anyone else potentially forever. All without any contact regarding how things are going. That's insanely controlling, and just plain insane. If he wants to break up, he can break up; he can always hit you up whenever he decides he wants you back to see if you're still interested. That is exactly how you should treat this situation. But asking you to put your romantic life on hold indefinitely is an absurd request, and it's one to which you should say “no”. Your relationship is already over; move on.
INFO: Do you see this behavior as “okay”?
I'm not trying to be facetious or sarcastic while asking.
You're willing to make excuses for him the person, and I'm sure he has some redeeming qualities, otherwise he likely couldn't keep other people around him, but do you generally view his behavior as “good”?
What do I mean by good? Let's start with a basic framework for a person's “goodness”.
Is the person in question: -Responsible -Respectful/Considerate -Communicative -Honest -Authentic* -Attentive -Team-player/Partner
(*May be in the development stage.)
And to be fair, the list could go on, but I hope you get the gist.
Is your boyfriend ticking off any of those boxes?– because you've just shared a different picture with us.
When you describe your boyfriend, (I don't know anything about him, perse, but through his behavior I can guess the sort of person he is, based on his behavior), this is what I see:
He's dishonest, deceitful, disrespectful, a thief, a liar, and a cheat.
(He may not have cheated on you in the conventional way, but he's cheating you out of a “good” relationship with a “good” partner.)
Here's what you do: Collect evidence and file a police report. Make sure you clue in a friend or trusted person about the situation, so you have someone for support, but also someone to be there if things go sour.
This part's important: You may think you know him, but you clearly don't. He's not who he purports to be and so looking at him from now on, you need to look at his as some random guy who's just stolen your money. You need to exile him from your life and get away from him. He's bad news.
The good news, however, is that you're young and you can look at this as a learning experience. You can process the situation through therapy and over time reflect on the red flags that were there that you ignored. Learn to trust yourself. Look back and see what other things you intuitively noticed.
All in all, just be honest with yourself about the nature of the whole situation and where you see yourself in a year. What do you want out of life? Focus on being your best person in the moment and work towards a six-month and year-long goal and leave this loser in the past, where he belongs.
That part. Unless they’ve been doing this for years, even when their child was under age, there’s no reason why they can’t be doing. It quieter now.
Honestly I have no idea if this comment will offend anyone. I hope not. It’s not my intent.
I am a woman, from birth, breastfed my two children. For me it was not a bonding experience. It was simple convenience. It was free and already prepared….if for some reason I couldn’t do it, I wouldn’t have cared. At least not on an emotional level.
That being said it’s a privilege that I never had to work for or fight for or wish I had. And I know my mother who also breastfed would often talk about how special that was to her. Which just seemed odd to me, as it wasn’t a big deal for me.
I cant claim to know how your wife feels. But I just don’t see how a baby sucking on your breast bonds you in any way more than feeding a baby a bottle or holding and rocking that baby…..
But if she’s not doing any harm to the baby, does it matter?
This might be a wild assumption to make, but have you ever looked up his name on Google to see if he’s a sex offender or not? The reason I say this is because maybe he doesn’t want children because he’s legally not allowed to be around them. He was 19 when you were 12 (and 22 with a 15 year old even if he didn’t know your age until 3 years later which is still strange bc that seems like an important thing to ask very early in the relationship lol) so yeah…
good for you for not jumping to conclusions! but i would just recommend what most people have said, set up boundaries and try to find a compromise
If all of this woman’s children were contributing, I would agree. But why is OP’s fiancé the only one that is paying for the mother?
See, this is the kind of shit where you can say “closeted people are some of the most horrifically homophobic people out there.”
But people push back as if you're putting the blame of homophobia onto gay people. That's not true, but repressing who you are in any way can eventually make people do some heinous shit.
That's not putting the blame onto gay people, there are closeted gay people who are fine and not violent. But there are some people for whom this kind of repression brings violent projection. There are many examples of homophobic conservative pastors who are eventually revealed to be banging dudes in secret
I always say. “it's actually next weekend. And you haven't even bothered to send back your rsvp”
Watch them panic. Then just laugh.
Time is very different: I made an excel sheet with the difference of income of individuals in 1981 as well as 2021 to see the comparison. I also included tuition debt, housing cost, and federal minimum wage. I work in finance so I see housing costs every day. However, this is not what my post is about. I am happy your children were able to buy homes within the past 3 years. I hope to do that soon.
Exactly!
i know it’s not an std, i should’ve worded it better. i’ve had bv before and i was on medication for it while with my ex and it went away, but whatever this is i’ve not experienced bv like this before, so my anxiety is at an all time high thinking it’s trich. i’ve not been on medication recently, last time i was on medication for bv was 2 years ago. i’ve been given medication today (metronidazole) to get rid of whatever this is, the nurse said it will also get rid of trich if I have it. I had my period 4 days ago. Waiting patiently till friday for my results.
You are with him out of fear of not finding anyone and want him to change his mind about something that brings major life style changes?
You're with him for the wrong reason.
BOTH future parents need to be on board about children and many other things. And you should not try to change his mind about that or he might become another thread on regreful parents here and nor you nor your future children need that. He has already told you he doesn't want them now and maybe never. If you do, then it's a deal breaker and you should end the relationship to find someone who matches your plan.
Beside, 8 months is a VERY SHORT time to be making ANY major change like moving, marriage and kds. I know some people do and are successul but look at the odds….