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Date: November 20, 2022
Dude, you’re 19 years old. Do not put a ring in anything unless it vibrates and gives you both pleasure. Run, and fast. And that’s as a 37yo married mom for what it’s worth
Ex’s can absolutely be friends— redditors are freaks lol. And if y’all are still friends there are absolutely chill ways of going about it.
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This sounds like a huge red flag. You’re stressed about work, talk to somebody. The itchy legs is a thing, mine are all scratched up for the exact same reason. Find a moisturizer. As for him, do you really have a good life with him? Sounds like he’s a bully or bit of a jerk.
She is being pathetic and vindictive. Her not taking your feelings into consideration is not how a good partner behaves If you want to continue dating her I would sit down with her and express that not wanting to have sex with her doesn't mean that you don't care about her. That you're allowed take time to yourself and process emotions. Sex isn't a required part of any romantic relationship and that you won't be coerced or guilt tripped into something your uncomfortable with. But don't give her anymore chances after. Don't stay in a relationship that's unhealthy, and not to be gross but practice safe sex if you decide too. Take care!
I would actually encourage her to find some more hobbies. Usually people that are anxiously attached tend to make their partners their whole world and it suffocates the other person. Other than that, I would suggest keeping some rituals in a sense in the relationship to soothe her inner anxiety.
Something like every week we do this activity and try to always do this activity as a sign of your love. This will show her commitment and hopefully alleviate the anxiety she has in the long run. Also make sure she understands that you want to be the best version of yourself and this means taking time for yourself, for your own hobbies, friends, and inner thoughts.
You should take space when you need to. Just tell her that you’re really busy and you’ll make it up to her with something fun that you start to do consistently.
Usually anxiously attached people want consistency the most. If you start acting weird then it’ll trigger anxiety but if there’s something constant in your romantic lives at all times, this will help a lot. Also, she should respect your boundaries when you say you’re busy.
So you can just block him and I strongly recommend you do. If he’s showing such incredible controlling and threatening behaviours when you’re not even established, and threatening violence, believe me, if you stay with him, he will kill you.
Do you know it’s verified that the most common form of spousal murder is strangulation/choking? He has already told you that’s what he’ll do if you stay.
Please believe him and run. He doesn’t love you.
Don't wait. Break up now.
Those are core beliefs and fundamental to someone’s character. It is easy for him to be who you need and want right now while you are so far away from each other. But think about how a homophobic family or partner would handle it if you had a kid who was gay, what would happen when you forbid guns in your home, what happens when you are at dinner and one of them says something racist. Those aren’t things that change for most people. You don’t belong in that family or with that guy. You have different morals, core beliefs, and character.
I will want to know I’ve always wanted
You definitely messed up and should have been more wary of the friend given what your boyfriend said in the past. He was also the wrong person to share info with. I’m actually going to say that I understand needing to vent but this was not the place to do it. Also drinking to the point of blacking out is a pretty scary way to cope with a fight and I hope you seek better outlets in the future. But in the end this doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship for either of you, especially you. You should never feel like your partner if using you to fulfill his needs while ignoring your own… I’d say it’s time to cut your losses and move on
So you think she should support you by going to something she doesn't care about and didn't want to do for someone who isn't even her partner but you don't support her by letting her make her own decisions about what is important to her?
Not gonna lie but you sound like an immature, insufferable, ass. I wouldn't want to go to a chip ceremony even if it was my chip ceremony.
if she's got a fascination with cosmetic surgery that are not a medical necessity, I would reconsider dating them. it can become an addiction that never ends well.
I hope I am wrong. best of luck to you.
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ah this is why ill never attend or had a bachelorette party. Your girlfriend is genuine scum??
Why does it matter if a bedsheet last 1 year or 4? If you worried about it getting dirty you should wash it the recommended mount of times. Which is ones a week.
Tell her to go f**k herself and go back to your house. Tell her that if she wants to screw around with other guys then she's not doing it in your house and she can be the one that leaves.
“I can’t wait till we get our house” – of course, he can't wait for you to buy him a house!
You fell for his lovebombing and now you see who he really is.. if he makes you unhappy and miserable then why would you stay with him?
Give him a heads up so he can find a place to live! but don't let him to make you false promises or to show you how suddenly he changed and become the person you fell in love with!
I would make a new post and link if you know how too! Good luck
That’s reassuring haha. I think I’m too young that I can’t imagine anyone would be because I haven’t experienced it
It’s an update
You don’t owe her any apologies
What makes you think you aren't the lucky one having him as a bf?
Just sharing my views, not by any means anything legal.
Pre nup ok if he's bringing assets into the marriage otherwise it's just his ego thinking he's a big shot.
A post nup would only make sense if he's expecting to inherit anything, I'm thinking about homes that have been in the family for generations for example. Otherwise it's all fair game in a marriage, it's impossible to be in a relationship, living together and splitting everything 50/50, generally it's the low earning partner picking up the slack and providing support for the household and booking holidays, ensuring the house is a home and there is life after work, buying Xmas gifts etc.
If the two of you choose to have children your career will take a major hit and the time you spend raising the kids it's not monetised, think also about retirement contributions. Maybe have the lawyer add a clause for monetary compensation analysing that and that in the event of a divorce you'll keep the contributions to raise the kids to the same proportions and lifestyle the kids were used to.
I'd get a lawyer to look it over and most importantly have a conversation about what marriage is for him to make sure you're actually compatible, honestly it would be a deal breaker for me.
Well considering your post history I don’t blame you for overthinking what he tells you
I don't need to read this to know that you SHOULD LEAVE HIM!!!! The reason he started dating you is because a woman his age wouldn't put up with this. Please just use your head and see how f*cked up this is.
FIRE IN THE HOLE!
Fuck her
he groomed you, honey. you were 15 and he was 20. im not going to sugarcoat this and i think its weird that people will try to, but he changed when you turned 18 because you were finally legal to masturbate to, and the fact that hes lying about how yall met and how long yall have been together means he absolutely knows how much of a creep he really is. there isn't a way to do this without him freaking out, because it means his plans failed. you know what you need to do, just do it and block him on everything as fast as you can. you'll be amazed at how good you'll feel in a few months time.
to be clear, I'm not judging you. you're the victim in this. I've been in your shoes, and I felt the same way you did at the time. it's easy to fall into the trap of attention. I'm just happy to hear you've been disillusioned.
Wtf
Uh you're gonna get a fuckin UTI if he doesn't shower so…
What were these “encounters?”
No, it really isn’t. She didn’t cheat on OP. It’s nowhere in the same universe as that. “Forgiving” a friend for cheating on their SO doesn’t have to mean you’re cool with it, it can mean you’re willing to give them a chance to grow and change and acknowledge their mistakes without cutting them out of their lives for something that is ultimately none of your business when it gets down to it.
There are actual couples out there who have worked through infidelity together. Is that exclusively a “free cheating pass” or is there maybe a little bit of nuance to both love and friendship?
Poor dog
You're correct most adults would rather talk about it and move on. You deserve someone more mature who you won't feel the need to hide stuff from.
Not that he simply thinks that he’s single, he is.
Buy earplugs and/or a white noise machine. Save for a security deposit.
FYI it’s been estimated that a SAHM does the equivalent of $180,000 of labor a year.
Awesome. She can put that on her resume and find a job that pays her for her skill set.
I would show him this post and to stop watching so much porn.
Honey… she is going to emotionally JUDGE your relationship on how you treat her about significant decisions concerning both of you in the long run if you stay together.
If the house YOU like has an effed up setup, which makes the chores tedious and housework difficult, just because “it is YOUR MONEY and YOUR house…” then one day you will die in YOUR house pretty lonely.
It's not always logical.
What you did makes every woman in that thread think that you do not think that you will have her in your life in future.
Which would any woman on earth go slightly mad at you.
Or put it otherwise:
Your economically correct decision backfires emotionally. ?
Entitled to have a say or confused as to why you don’t value her opinion at all?
I’ve been with my boyfriend a much shorter time, and I’m at a different stage in my life (44, 2 kids who are young adults), and I don’t think I’ll ever live! with a romantic partner again. However, if I were moving I would solicit his opinion, and probably even my best friends opinion because they know me and may have some valuable insights on the house.
It’s weird to me that you see her opinion on the house ending up with you living in a house you wouldn’t “half like.” Do you like your girlfriend? Why do you leap to thinking you wouldn’t like it?
He doesn’t want to marry you. You can’t force him. Either propose yourself or accept being not married.
She's not of sound mind, even do a little math, assuming she was capable of carrying her baby she is giving birth around 51yr old, meaning having a the starts of a teenage life when she's in her mid 60s and theoretically 70yrs old with an 18/19yo child, someone who's parents even she is of sound mind won't live! to see grandchildren, not to mention the financial strain on everyone involved! This is a midlife crisis /menopausal idea not realistic or safe.
Reddit at it again….
Who says he will get to that dark place? Who says what happens exactly?
I know someone who just to had physical altercations with his previous relationship but now is in a loving relationship without any problems (12 years in)
Reddit is black and white and love other peoples drama
She’s obviously cheating
What big decision do you want to make? I'm not going to decide for you. If you don't feel like the way you've acted in the past justifies the way she acted, then handle that how you want to.
Do it
A basic rule is never threaten breakups or resigning from your job – as bot makes the opposite party start thinking around this line.
Be clear – what you did was NOTHING compared to what she did. You were roughly clear on when these main dates in your relationship were and would have checked better if needed. Your memory is just not that good. She sent you “this so called joke” with the specific aim of HURTING you.
You have NOTHING to apologise for.
Unless she understands what she has done – I can not recommend her as a future gf or even a wife. Do you want to be threatened with break up or divorce if you do not fulfils her expectations.
What you need to do – is to send her a text saying that “her joke” hurt you a lot – and it has made you question if she really want this relationship – as you can not accept to be wounded like this on a regular basis.
You feel she overstepped the mark – especially after you had apologised and she should have been aware that you would not take this as a joke. Your interpretation was that you had split up for good. To call it a joke diminished your relation seriously.
If she apologise – you can give the relationship a chance – if she starts blaming you for having no humour or complaining about something else – it is time that you make the “joke” a reality and search for someone that loves you and are not hurtful if you are not perfect.
Remember you are NOT to blame and do not apologise- this is all on her.