You definitely don’t “come out as poly.” It’s just a relationship preference. She’s just wording it in a way where you feel you have to comply as if it’s apart of LGBTQIA (which it is not) or else you’re not an “ally.” She’s trying to trap you into it.
The only question that matters now is, do you want a polyamorous relationship? If you’re hesitating at all then it isn’t for you.
Your in what sounds like a safe and stable environment. Don't be foolish and leave tomorrow, but do not plan on staying for long. Start preparing your out. Find somewhere to stay, get your money in order, your job, and an attorney. It doesn't sound like you relationship is going to blow up tomorrow. Spend a few weeks getting ready and get out.
the co workers said that stuff based on what they heard about you
everybody complains about their partners and family at work.
You definitely don’t “come out as poly.” It’s just a relationship preference. She’s just wording it in a way where you feel you have to comply as if it’s apart of LGBTQIA (which it is not) or else you’re not an “ally.” She’s trying to trap you into it.
The only question that matters now is, do you want a polyamorous relationship? If you’re hesitating at all then it isn’t for you.
I think it’d be worth going back now that you’re speaking and seem more settled in.
How is this a question. Run and never look back.
Your in what sounds like a safe and stable environment. Don't be foolish and leave tomorrow, but do not plan on staying for long. Start preparing your out. Find somewhere to stay, get your money in order, your job, and an attorney. It doesn't sound like you relationship is going to blow up tomorrow. Spend a few weeks getting ready and get out.
Are you sure it was “Clorox” wipes?