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IM BACK! COME FUCK ME
Date: October 22, 2022
AmateurPub
AmateurPub
IM BACK! COME FUCK ME
Thank you! I had dated someone in the past and we had the same viewpoint- if it made the other person happy, we’d do that thing for them. That was my experience before this partner so I was taken aback at his resistance.
He’s also a blacklister if a restaurant sucks. Twice before my b day he had returned to a restaurant he disliked because of my encouraging and/or because we were meeting friends. One restaurant he loves now, the other is still on his black list. Because of his flexibility in the past and my perspective of putting someone else first on their b day, I thought it would go differently.
I guess he just has strong opinions and I can’t assume how someone’s going to act nor can I compare him to past partners that put me first. Thanks
known her for 6 months, kissed, and she says she has real feelings for him and wants something serious “you barely know her”
Your mom is a grown adult who needs to make her own decisions in life. If this makes her unhappy it's up to her to change it.
Sounds like you should #1 get it out and air it out regardless of if you and your man have gotten past it at this point it bothers you regardless if in the end you know you want to stay together, possibly he might have done things differently in hindsight too. Then lastly #2 bang it out because you obviously still love each other. So let him have it and let him give it. ?
Correct, he matters more, clearly, and he knows it, which really kills me.
I often hear that Golden Children were as abused growing up as the scapegoat, which I agree with. However, look at them now – both mid 20s, one getting married and one graduating from med school, and still living under the shadow of their upbringing, except one is wilting and the other is happily blooming.
I've taken a turn here – I think the brother is the biggest asshole of them all. The entitlement is staggering, and much like when women open their posts by saying “my partner is amazing”, I'm rudely skeptical of this man's love for this sister he's trying to shove onto his shadow; he has no interest in sharing the spotlight, he's fully bought into being a golden boy.
This is my take on it too, but if I were OP I’d want to be certain this is what he means… because if he really feels like it’s not a sexual act, that’s concerning on multiple levels.
I stringed him along by refusing to give him my number?
He was saying things like “I thought you were the perfect girl, but I guess I was wrong” or “you ruined the trip” or “you act like you don’t care about me” when I was trying to to give him space to calm down. Just really hurtful things because he was also hurt
Your concerns here paint a giant red flashing “HELL NO” neon sign, in my mind, but that phrasing is not going to work when you talk to your fiancee!
You need to sit down and have a talk with her as an ally; this is you two vs the problem, not you vs her. The problem, as defined here, is that her mother needs a place to online and is showing signs of bein unable to care for herself.
Approach the conversation from that point of view. Instead of “Here's why I think letting your mom move in will destroy our lives” try “Let's find a way to help your mom while still retaining our sovereignty as a couple in our new home”.