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I’m late to respond to this post as I dont get on reddit too often but I hope you will see my response and I’m not too late to offering some advice so here goes:
Someone who went through a midlife crisis not so long ago myself. The people who are saying the drastic changes in how he acts and the impulses being due to drug usage are just wrong. I wouldn’t completely rule it out as drugs will do the same but at the same time I wouldn’t be so quick to jump to conclusions about it. While I was going through my crisis and mind you at the time I didn’t even realize it nor would I ever admit to something like it so goodluck trying to convince him, I became very impulsive, I also lost my job due to wanting to constantly go out get drunk etc etc. All I could ever think about was how much fun I used to have and I believed I had to somehow “relight” that passion. It costed me almost everything and I was so very hot headed I wouldn’t listen to reason or reflect on my own actions.
Anyways your husband, if it isn’t due to drugs, will snap out of it at some point and look back thinking what the fuck has he done.
But you should still prioritize yourself absolutely and don’t feel bad if leaving him is what it comes down to. If that is what it comes down to, my only advice is to be understanding and not necessarily get back with him. But maybe when he snaps out just be that friend who can help him realize he fucked up. But it’s okay.
You can talk to her abt it later when shes calmed down.
To simplify our fight, she talked about me time, privacy and stuff and said having this rule so we can practice asking permission.
Tell your girlfriend. What she'll do with you, I don't know, but needs to know her best friend is a snake.
That’s all I do
In what country? Where I am it's perfectly normal to tell friends you love them
I don’t know how to bring it up without making him feel like I think he’s doing something wrong
If you’re not going to see him on his birthday, you can ship it to him.
Go to a lawyer and get the papers ready.
Yes he is and the 32 year old weight loss guy, say hello to Graham
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Bad human being cheat…. you are a bad human being
Listen to your gut. Your gut will save you.
Please listen to this OP. I know you’re almost there.
check the manufacture and expiry date on the condoms dude..that should give you some idea as to how long she may have had them and it might give you some closure but there's nothing better than communication to sort out something like this..you need to confront her because this is certainly some sort of red flag.
He won't change. This is who he is. You need therapy badly. You think this relationship is good and loving, when it's toxic AF. He's abusive and dangerous. Again he will escalate once you're married thinking he's got you trapped. Do not marry him. He's not the man you want him to be. My husband hasn't ever acted like that.
Please stop co-opting that term. That’s not what it means at all.
I liked ‘old potato’
Yep I had some odd crap happen and the friend wasn't even a long time one. and that chick said I didn't know y'all was still talking so the friend was egging her on. So that's how the women pack can act maturity plays a role for sure. I would confront my the the so called future wife and say I know you cheated. And see where she crawfishs From there if she comes clean imediately she has some remorse If she lies oh hell no nothin to talk about move along..it's bad enough her friend is aying don't tell jus to keep him and marry what to say this won't happen again.
But why is it necessary for the guy to know how's she dressing or what's her outfit?
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Lmao had 4 children with you then threw it away to ride some random dick. Least she told you I guess.
Hell maybe you're into it.
Yeah I was afraid of how he would respond
Masturbation and sex are two very different acts. He has every right to ask her not to do that with him present but has no right to try and police that she not masturbate at all.
Me and hubby average 5 times a week our entire 12 years together. We have a high drive that is matched together. Sex is always satisfying. My mastubatory habits have nothing to do with how often we have sex. Neither do my husband's for that matter.
Might breakup the relationship? Most probably will and then you’ve got squat and starting over again
NTA. She seems like she's traumatized and it takes a lot to take care of that kind. People can seem amazing and still bleed you dry. You can lead a horse to water. Even most therapists have trouble turning things around for people with severe upbringing trauma.
The fawning can seem nice but it comes with a cost that it leads to some behaviors that make you like the only oxygen supply, and you'll get attacked for anytime you appear to be a threat to that supply of missing validation.
Sounds like you snapped after days of abandonment, insults, manipulation and spiteful childishness from him. Was what you said kind, no; was it immensely productive, no; was it accurate, sounds like it.
He’d already decided to shut you out and leave you alone and miserable on a holiday. He’d already made clear he isn’t interested in spending time with you, and he doesn’t care if you’re stressed or upset. He already decided to move out because you wanted to return a Christmas tree that he had been whining about despite suggesting buying in the first place. And now he’s angrily saying he doesn’t want to open up to you again – what, because him ‘opening up’ was a gift you should be grateful for, rather than something that was good for him?
It sounds to me like he has some underlying emotional problems around Christmas, likely related to his not great feelings about his parents, and was displacing those/taking out his feelings about it on you. Did his family pressure him into playing happy families at Christmas and now he’s avoidant about it? That sounds a lot like the sort of thinking that causes this avoidant behaviour, and results in people behaving so awkwardly because they’re assuming there will be conflict that they create the conflict.
But the key thing is, even if it’s that or something similar, that nonetheless wouldn’t justify him treating you this way. If that’s what is going on, it’s on the people with these problems to go to therapy so they don’t bully their new family for the problems of their old one.
He created a conflict, he panicked when you didn’t back down to his manipulation; he tried to back down without actually apologising/tried silent treatment waiting it out in the hope you’d come crawling back, and freaked out again and escalated when you made clear (with the wifi stunt) that that wasn’t going to work and he couldn’t just pretend he didn’t set up a problem. He escalated again, and now he’s panicking again because he doesn’t know how to walk his actions back, so he’s casting around for reasons you should feel worse than him and take all the blame. Your final loss of temper gave him something to fix on, and he’s riding it for all he’s worth to try and force not discussing or apologising for his actions in the lead up.
In your position I would say, once, “I acknowledge that remark was over the line, and hurtful. I apologise for expressing my feelings of abandonment in that way. If you feel you can’t open up in future, I accept that it may take time to regain that trust. However, my losing my temper came on the back of days on end of bad behaviour, provocation and deliberate escalation from you. I need you to also acknowledge and apologise for the multiple different hurtful and unreasonable things you have said and done over the last couple of weeks, and to acknowledge that you have a very great deal of work to do to regain my trust. I am open to marriage counselling but until you are prepared to meet me halfway and proceed with that, I think it’s for the best that you stay elsewhere. I’ll reach out again in two weeks to ask for an answer on whether you have calmed down and want to de-escalate and work this out.”
If he doesn’t take the time to reflect and calm down and isn’t prepared to touch any aspect of this besides your sharp words as if those wipe out everything else, then you need to make plans to move forward with your life.
Lmao you're the problem
I know. And my family is very healthy and his parents let him eat alot of unhealthy food growing up.
lol what? This story is TOTAL B.S. You're being played. Your wife took those pics for HIM and sent those pics to HIM. Wake up. It's a duck. Good lord how can anyone even debate for a single moment any other scenario here, were you all born yesterday?
I just wrote a whole Reddit post to ask this question to see what others think. I trust her. I’m not convincing myself either way but I’m obviously going to ask the question. This is the place to ask about relationships and potential issues right?
Marriage counseling?
Full offence you're a pig and dont deserve any kind of sympathy
Do everything you can to stop her from going on that trip.
Sounds like you got a real tough decision to make. Let's break it down. Your bf's friend is a cokehead with drug paraphernalia and you're worried he might do something illegal in the car and get you in trouble with the law. That's a pretty solid reason to say no to bringing him along on the ski trip. And your bf trying to guilt trip you by saying his mom would let his dad drive the car, is just straight up not cool.
It's your trip too and you gotta do what's best for you. You trust your bf but you don't trust his friend, and that's a red flag. So, why even risk it? Tell your bf that you're not comfortable with the friend coming along and that's final. If the friend can't drive because the car doesn't have plates, then he can't come.
It's not like the trip is going to cost less if the friend comes along, because the cost of the car rental is just the cost of the car rental. The cost of the car rental has nothing to do with the number of people who come along. So, your bf's argument is invalid.
In the end, it's your decision and you gotta do what's best for you. Don't let your bf guilt trip you into doing something you're not comfortable with. Hope this helps, bro.
Honestly I dont have friends, anti-social yknow?? And I have a very small family, but I wouldn’t want to talk to them because they were kinda mentally and physically abusing when I was a kid
Did he finish residency? 26 is pretty young to be finished. Regardless, his medical advice to you is wrong and he’s manipulating you. Anyone who respects you will respect your boundaries. Please don’t allow him to continue sexually assaulting you, because that’s what he’s doing. You did not consent to him finishing in you.
6 days a month? Like 3 out of 4 weekends he’s out?
Doesn't sound like she wants to be in an open relationship.
Acid is the only drug I've had friend kill themselves on.
So if you don't think psychedelics are a very hot drug then you have a problem.
I have a feeling her list of was in order.
So your worried about looking like a AH to your coworker but not your wife? Hmmm
So yes divorce him, but since you’re asking for other advice, you probably won’t like this and I’ll probably be downvoted but here goes. Youve allowed him to become the worst version of himself by letting it go this long. Partners help yes, but they do so as partners, they don’t take over and just do it all. They give help and request help in return. And how to do that when things aren’t working is by agreeing on what change is needed, not via force or frustration, but via requests, negotiation, encouragement, support. Google magic relationship ratio as I’m betting that’s not too great right now in your relationship. Change doesn’t happen by someone just agreeing, it takes time and baby steps to build knowledge, interest, and confidence, two steps forward one step back.
The problem is you’re so resentful (understandably) that you’re giving ultimatums, and fear is rarely a good motivator, it disempowers and makes people feel less likely to do something unless it’s severe enough, and It’s not clear if even divorce will motivate him at this point. It’s great you offered to pay for therapy, and he does need to go, but if you want to save your marriage, you both should go together. Try to work on the magic relationship ratio, try holding him accountable, but for baby steps, that are doable, then encourage him to problem solve when he gets stuck, and celebrate and appreciate his successes. He needs to build good habits and the best way to do that is start small and encourage him and help him figure out his own solutions. Are you babying and parenting him if you do this? Yes and you’ll still be doing everything along with this effort to help him. And I wouldn’t recommend this you’re, but you wanted a non divorce option, and this can work, that is if you don’t die of frustration, resentment and being overworked in the process.
And if this is too much, it is, you’ll be more of a mentor than a partner to him, but you’ve been that way already, but just doing things for him, rather than encouraging him to grow.
Just let her go. Do you really want to spend your life with someone this crazy?
A huge raise!
Ah well. It’d work.
I did some therapy back then when our situation got better because I used to work a lot at school + with dad to have a better life. We had a lot of very hot time and after this dark episode I fell into depression. I’m off antidepressant since the last 2 months and started to feel better but all this is killing me back
Sounds like he got his parents to break up with you.
Wait whoa. He is degrading you for listening to porn, when he actively WATCHES it. Dude he has a double standard for women and men. He's allowed to watch porn “because that's just what men do”, but women are supposed to be “pure and innocent” so they shouldn't. Do you really want to spend your life with someone who tries to control who you are? You can't even be open with him in the bedroom because he shuts you down every time you try to have a conversation. You even said he watches stuff you actively want to explore WITH HIM and he just shuts you down. I'd honestly say don't play his mind games. Shut it down here and let him and his friend figure it out. Find someone you CAN have these conversations with.
It's not a mutually exclusive situation, I think it's both issues myself. The drinking issue may be the straw to break OP's back and want to confront their friend but I think they're only fixating on it without it being necessary. The bigger issue is the controlling husband, the drinking is a symptom of it.
You gotta set that boundary up. If you're not in the mood, forcing yourself to do things can I pact that mental health. Led to resentment, depression the works. If he doesn't respect your boundary then he isn't the perfect partner for you.
Naw, man. That is concerning. You're suffering from crying wolf syndrome. A particular scenario is happening so often that it's causing you to question whether or not it's for real. She really sounds like she has a poor work ethic, and just wants an easy job she can walk into, do nothing, and walk away with a paycheck. The moment it gets “too much,” she takes sick days off until she's fired or is forced to resign.
Hi OP. This type of arrangement comes with risks. Even though you say you will have your “own space” within the family home, it is still ultimately someone else's home, with its own customs, routines and dynamic. Having stayed there for “months” before, you're obviously well aware of this, but it's worth reiterating all the same.
It is great that you get on well with his family and friends. Remember to be aware that his parents – lovely though they may be – are there primarily helping their son. They have no obligation to you. And you should endeavor not to take advantage of their kindness.
To that end, I would consider the following:
Have his parents extended the invite or is he doing so? How are you going to ensure that the semi-permanent arrangement doesn't become permanent? Are you planning to save up for your own apartment or move out together? What contribution will you make the household upkeep – in terms of chores, cooking, and some maintenance costs even if not a full rent. What is your boyfriend doing to put himself in a position to move out?
In spite of the slightly negative tone, these arrangements – provided they're relatively brief – can be an opportunity to make lovely memories, and if everyone is genuinely onboard, are financially astute as well. But there has to be a clear plan of attack to move out.
Wanting/not wanting kids is a dealbreaker. There cannot be a compromise if both are sure that they want/don’t want kids. Your paths are incompatible.
I think this should 100% be the child's decision. He's 8, that's old enough to have a sense of personal identity. Kids are already at the mercy of adults, he shouldn't be forced to have his name changed if he doesn't want to. This should be entirely his choice.
I think it must be very very hot to deal with the loss of all the ideas and plans you had for the future when you get a divorce. It seems to me like you’re assuming a lot of things with not a lot of information, since your mom doesn’t seem like she wants to talk about it, which is totally understandable.
Missing or loving someone doesn’t necessarily mean that you want them back, or that you can trust them again, you dad lied and betrayed his marriage and his family and only thought about himself. I don’t know your mom but I think she has many more reasons to not want to get back together with him than you and your sister. Their life as a couple was completely turned upside down.
My parents also got a divorce because my dad cheated, and I really advise you to not interfere, it’s their relationship, if they want to get back together, they will.
Yep I’m going to go full Reddit here and jump on the DO NOT MARRY bandwagon. Your Spidy Sense aren’t just tingling, they are about to erupt in Shingles all over your skin.
What do you mean we will be breaking up either way?
Should I tell him I read it? Or should I just end things
Get a therapist.
When did I ever state that I know him? I just feel like he's the one for me, and I wanted to take the next step and have us live under the same roof
Sounds like it was worth cheating on your husband and destroying your marriage then. /s
Let's see how very hot this guy seems when you are stuck together night after night arguing over the household chores and bills. If he sticks around that long.
They'd know something about him if he divorced his wife because she went out without him. Going out twice a month without your spouse is perfectly reasonable behaviour.
This should be the tldr