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Date: October 9, 2022
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Being annoyed in this situation is normal but giving you the silent treatment is stupid and indicative of deeper issues.
You have said in the comments that you have an issue with drinking which you should definitely work on for yourself, but his response is worrisome.
Get better for yourself and have some standards regarding how you want to be treated. being concerned is good but plenty of people have forgotten to send messages indicating that they're fine and plenty of people have not received said messages until later.
Unless this behavior gets repeated several times his frustrated should've been over once you explained what happened.
Oh…and if he doesn't trust you because of his insecurities that's his problem, not yours
HELLL NO! If he dumped you once he'd do it again! As a performer you're going to be put in situations that might test your relationships but you've been handling it right by being open and if he's to insecure that he dumps you over a feckin photo then you need a better man!
Not at all. It's been decided that the relationship is over.
My dear, she wants to fuck other people, or she may have someone in mind that she wants to fuck – which could be why it's so sudden and out of the blue. I'm sure this new “fun” lifestyle has a hand in this decision as well. But I've been in your shoes. My fiancé came home from work on my birthday and decided he didn't want to be with me anymore either, just out of the blue and all of a sudden. And as soon as he was out of our house he was making a Tinder profile and getting on Bumble, he was fucking women he worked with that were married, and I was home crying, sick, over someone that it felt like didn't care to begin with. Our 4-year-old didn't matter. She thinks the grass is greener and well cared for on the other side, so let her go find out that it isn't. Let her make this mistake and when she finds out the hard way don't let her back in. Find someone that isn't going to hurt you this way. Because there's no coming back from this. And if she decides she wants to come home, and she will, you'll always have this fear in the back of your mind that she'll do it again. I know because it's a reality I online, but that's a long story for another day. Do what's best for you and your family, take care of yourself because no one else has your best interest at heart but you.
Why don’t you just take custody of your daughter?
Yeah, thats a bit weird, define the intimate plans and if GF knows them
I will be honest to you from my male perspective. I could watch a video to climax and by the next day I would never remember that girl or her body. It was just images used at the heat of the moment to climax. Men and women are very different. A woman becomes very attached and can perfectly recall sex and compare. Most men are not this way and most men can have sex with women they don't care to be attached with. I honestly can't remember or imagine the sex I have had with any previous partners and don't really care to try. If you stop him from using porn he will either lie to you, he will be extremely unhappy and uncomfortable and this will lead to a break up, and or he will cheat on you. I belief your best course of action is to let him use porn and get over it or to end your relationship and not date anyone long distance or anyone with any urge for sex. Some men exist that have no drive and that may be a better option if you really can't stand for a man to look at images he will forget the next morning. But if you want to keep this relationship just let him use porn or commit to the original plan because it is very unfair to force him to lie to you which is the most likely outcome to all of this.
the picture was literally a normal selfie and i was wearing a hoodie and a headset and my hair was down everything was normal…
He's 32. if he started having sex at 18 that's 14 years and they've been together for 5 leaving 9 years he was presumably single. That's only 7.8 people a year. Really not that many if you put in to perspective. But also, that says absolutely nothing about someone's ability to be loyal and maintain a happy, committed relationship. Don't confuse your anxieties with someone's actual character. I understand feeling like “how could I satisfy someone forever that's used to having different women all the time” but that anxiety and fear doesn't turn change the fact that after all that he has chosen to be with OP, loyally for over a third of his adult life.
It would seem that only a minority of guys are into this.
Challenge him to do it
Plenty of people aren't looking for something serious. People just need to be honest (both sides) about what they want or are looking for.
“I'm looking for someone to share my life with” exists in the same realm as “I'm looking for someone to date and enjoy time together, but my life/heart doesn't have room for a permanent partner at this time.”
There can be tons of reasons for that second circumstance. A partial-custody parent, a busy student, a demanding career, a career that is likely to require you to move to where the job is, a lot of travel requirements (or just a travel desire/wanderlust). An unstable housing situation. Imminent need to care for an elder. Grieving a past relationship. Managing a complicated mental or physical health challenge. Etc.
The point is dating for “in the moment” companionship is as valid as dating with the aim of finding a permanent partner to share your life. The goals are different, but that's ok. You just have to be up front about those goals when you start talking or meet the first time.
Your gf is a male?
Lmao changing that now
I think you're doing the right thing by staying firmly to the side of this drama. You're ultimately not involved in it, it's between your step kids and their father – you're much better just keeping out of it.
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I’d straight up ask him, “Do you want a divorce? Because if you do, then we can talk about it like adults. If you don’t, then take the word out of your vocabulary because it’s actually damaging our marriage whenever you threaten divorce.” Don’t walk on eggshells in your own home, OP. If he wants to pick fights and throw tantrums, you don’t have to participate.
Thank you for this. I was trying to think of a clear way to say “You are the friends you keep”.
She sounds like she fits right in with her trashy friends.
She is straight up choosing to be with NOT OP on Christmas.
I think OP os better off just letting this infatuation die.
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Never leave the house. Lawyer up asap. In a year or so you’ll look back on this and feel relieved to be out of the marriage.
Never leave the house. Lawyer up asap. In a year or so you’ll look back on this and feel relieved to be out of the marriage.
You are in an abusive relationship. It will only get worse.
In my experience its normal to start going raw only after having the exclusive talk.
I like what a few others said as well – if you don’t end up like the way it looks layered, just get the vacuum sealed storage container and keep it in there until you have more space to have it out.
Haha thank you! I've binged all seasons of Catfish multiple times, and trust me, I am definitely cautious and have had my radar out for all the signs lol and I appreciate your input! As I mentioned to others, I've known him for a couple of years, no one has ever had it out for him and we've videocalled. Throughout our interactions, I've naturally been trying to see if things don't line up and I've not once had anything close to a feeling that he has lied about anything. Still don't, even after all these comments. He may be stringing me along, and I may be gullible but he is no liar
At least she seems to have good taste in men.
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He doesn’t respect you. Move on
People search tons of different things for no particular reason!
Number 3 could be that she read about those sites and wondered what they are.
Drastically changes in behavior means they changed other things as well, and it never for the better.
If she spends all this on hotels, check the hotel statements…. her and her “friend” might be meeting others
How are you splitting expenses 50 50 after marriage? You're not roommates
man my fucking heart
Thankfully he is your bf, not husband! Leave this man asap!!! What are you even thinking????
If you are in the USA – the entire bill of rights applies to you. Even if you are married.
So, you can disobey your husbands wishes if you want to, the question is do you want to? The next question is are you scared to?
Because that is a whole different set of issues to address outside of what you mention in your post.
Getting revenge is not healthy, nor will it promote your healing. It will only sink you to her level.
Go to the gym and work a heavy bag. Each time she occupies your thoughts, remind yourself she’s no longer in your life and you’re better for it. And for goodness sake, unfollow her. By putting her SM in front of your face by choice is doing you so much harm.
He’s upset because you stayed home sick and wanted to rest?
Is this a common occurrence?
To me, if you’re home sick, unless you cannot help yourself to the restroom or to food, you don’t need “help”, you just need to rest.
I can’t imagine my partner staying home with me like that or worse, being mad that I wasn’t up for doing hang out stuff when I just needed rest. And visa versa.
I work from home so when my partner is sick, I’m here but aside from offering him soup or meds or whatever, I just leave him alone.
The only thing they should be spending on “her” is for relationship counseling for both of them. Idk why you are under the impression that counseling benefits only her when he's said numerous shitty things about her and has made 0 attempts to see anything from her point of view.
A huge amount of these comments seem to be extrapolating all kinds of imagined poor treatment. He says he spends time with her, and they do plenty of stuff together. I’m not saying he is right, but it doesn’t seem a one sided issue
“We met all together at the park he was playing guitar” – Ah yes, busking…The profession of choice for people in their 30s who have their life shit together.
“my only standard for a relationship is compatibility”- No, you have a kid to look after. Your standard should be only introducing a guy into your home and child's life after the relatonship has matured and he has shown himself to be a trustworthy, responsible, mentally healthy, dependable and non-predatory person. It is very inappropriate to have let this guy move in so early and he clearly doesn't have his life act together (despite his age).
8 years , especially evolving as a teenage love is a huge space of her life. At this point, she might be overthinking things about her and her 8 years worth of investment and what went wrong and if something is wrong with her and so on.
I think the mistake she has made was shutting you out for 2 weeks, Some people do that in order to process things and box it out… OR…may be she had figured out by now that you are emotionally immature and not capable to handle complex emotional states like this.
Eitherway, what i am really curious about is why you asked for advice and is getting super defensive in all the comments where people are giving you advice haha..take it or leave it, no?
You are refusing to accept that it could be about anything but her still being into her ex. Despite being told differently. Multiple folks on this thread have suggested that the issue is likely her feelings about herself. It's about the time wasted or the perception of herself, not the person involved.
I only needed to read the first paragraph to know that you should’ve ran far away from him and should still run while you have the chance.
Oh, trust and believe, I am -very- blunt, especially when it comes to advocating for my patients. When families come in with birth-givers in labor, I straight up ask them, “In the last 24 hours, have you eaten or drank anything? If the answer to either of these is no, get out, go get food and drink, and then come back. If you pass out for any reason while I'm tending to this person about to give birth, I will step over you, and continue doing my job. Because you are not important to me.”
You would not believe the sheer amount of audacity that some people have. But don't worry, friend! If you're ever in my care, I always and forever go to bat for my patients. ♥
Jesus Christ. You’re literally torturing your gf and you’re still playing the victim? This is wrong on so many levels that you’re making her jump through so many hoops only to be ranting about her on the internet still.
From what you say, she’s got the patience of a saint and is willing to bend over backwards to keep you safe and happy. Her “broken promise” about the alcohol thing…smdh. Why do you believe you must be in control of her all the time?
Do you not care for her own happiness and her desire to online the way she enjoys? She seems to be putting in the hours to support you, but letting her be with her friends is a major red flag for you? Poor girl, seriously.
It’s good that you acknowledge some of the issues you have but you likely need professional help, for both your sakes. This will surely end up in another tragedy if you’re just going to micro manage all her actions and not trust her.
Having a sip of alcohol is not the same as getting shitfaced at a party, with your close friends mind you. Why aren’t you ever with her when she’s hanging with her friend group anyways?
Jesus Christ. You’re literally torturing your gf and you’re still playing the victim? This is wrong on so many levels that you’re making her jump through so many hoops only to be ranting about her on the internet still.
From what you say, she’s got the patience of a saint and is willing to bend over backwards to keep you safe and happy. Her “broken promise” about the alcohol thing…smdh. Why do you believe you must be in control of her all the time?
Do you not care for her own happiness and her desire to online the way she enjoys? She seems to be putting in the hours to support you, but letting her be with her friends is a major red flag for you? Poor girl, seriously.
It’s good that you acknowledge some of the issues you have but you likely need professional help, for both your sakes. This will surely end up in another tragedy if you’re just going to micro manage all her actions and not trust her.
Having a sip of alcohol is not the same as getting shitfaced at a party, with your close friends mind you. Why aren’t you ever with her when she’s hanging with her friend group anyways?
That is insane. If she were having sex with you, and you were more into wanking to porn, I could see her side of it. But she’s got to understand that you need physical release.
They're saying the same thing as me. You can always end a relationship If you don't want to be in it. You cannot however, end a relationship because you think someone else would want that.
You owe her nothing
You're really shocked that people don't want to be watched while they shit?
I'm going to look at this slightly differently here.
The way you told her you love her is awkward, you didn't just tell her you love her you put her on the spot and expected an answer really you should wait until people are ready to tell you they love you or something of that calibre. I highly doubt that will have helped with her being stressed at all and you probably exasperated that a fair bit.
She has also told you that she pushes people away when she is stressed, and she has told you and you're aware that she is currently stressed.
It could be that she does not feel the same way, maybe she isn't ready yet or maybe she is just like you said stressed.
You really need to find some quiet time with her, help her relax and have a clear adult discussion. Tell her that if a relationship with you is something she is interested in pursuing then she needs to know that you will be there for her whatever, and you will help her through the stressful times but she also needs to work on herself to not push you away if there's going to be a future. I would personally apologise for putting the I love you pressure on her with the way you told her, and tell her that you do not expect her to reciprocate those feelings so quickly. If she wants to be with you she will put in the effort.
Everyone asks about dating questions all the time. The gay one could be seen that way. Just have to think of some generic dating questions.
Update!
No shit, Sherlock!
Is it her specific job that makes her anxious or working in general? If it’s the former that can be changed. If it’s the latter, well people who have anxiety still have bills to pay (and if that sounds harsh that includes me).
She's just not that into you. & you sent an unsolicited pic which is just gross. Lessons should be learnt my friend. You came across arrogant and creepy – your friend will likely hear about it soon. Next time, go get your own.
It don't matter at this point unless he wants to be with you, but he has to be the one to say so if he already said no. To me, it sounds like he likes you and y'all probably need to work on communication as an intimate couple & not just friend talk. I mean, yes do continue to talk like friends, but learn to adjust to being more together. You can ask him about it, i probably would if i was you, might not go well so be careful. Shy people have big egos/insecurities that aren't easy to hurdle. Good luck, it's a naked one right here, this ik factually ?.
It is and has been proved many times. I agree, it is concerning.
I feel like you. as for the wife of his friend, I asked her to be brutally honest with me and not to think about my feelings. I'm grateful for her. we are close friends and it took her all the energy to give me this truth.
Get the cleaning lady. Ignore your husband – he is ignoring the problem and you just have to clean by default. Because he pretty much refused to help, he also lost all his right to have a vote on this. Get the cleaning lady now. And stop pretending in front of friends and family – you are only hurting yourself further by doing this. If you start telling them the truth, they can 1. support you and 2. give you some needed feedback for your situation.
I think a divorce is a reasonable response to your situation. You don't have a partner, you have an uninterested in household matters teenager. That's not what you agreed to, so you have every right to terminate this relationship.
Also “stubborn and unkind” from him are coming across as “you’re not rolling over and accepting my creepiness and “jokes” and I dislike that you’re putting your foot down and calling me out on it.”
I’m really sorry for the naked times. It sounds like life is really shitty right now. But who your ex girlfriend sees isn’t really any of your business.
What he does is annoying, and the whole not letting you play anything you want to hear is annoying.
Did you think that he would stop listening to them after you’d gotten serious?
You should take this as a learning opportunity to recognize that when you start dating someone, you need to see them as they actually are, not who they could be.
It’s a variation on “don’t date potential,” but with a soundtrack. This is who he is. His identity is inextricably connected to being a GD fan. If you try to change that about him, you’re an A.
And even the part where he won’t let you listen to anything but GD. Surely you noticed that before now? Why did you keep dating him after that realization? Honestly, that would’ve been enough reason for me to hit the road.
What is with this string of posts lately, where the woman is being mistreated by her bf in unacceptable ways, and still she writes here asking what she should do?! GIRL, LEAVE HIM. Why are you still with this person? He love bombed you until he was sure you were under his thumb, and now he feels secure enough that he is showing his true colours. Kick him to the curb and make him lick it clean.
You can love someone and not be right for each other. You broke her trust. Once that happens, it's very difficult to ever get that back.
This cycle needs to stop though. This emotional rollercoaster is not good for either of you. You are never going to progress in your lives or relationship by doing these things. Someone has to be responsible and say enough is enough. Either you decide to get back together, or you cut it off for good. Or, you ask her if she's simply getting a sexual fix from you, and that's all she wants from you.
I would collectively gather your neighbors and talk to the management of the apartment complex to tell them you will not be renewing your leases if something isn’t done about the situation. I would also advise them that you all will start leaving reviews for the complex about the situation so that they will start seeing financial loss if they don’t handle the situation by trespassing these folks.
I got mad because even when I reminded him that we did Japanese style last year, he still wanted to do it the Japanese way again. It's easier for him that way since he has another month to buy a gift. So he decided to do that instead of thinking that his wife is American and she probably wants a gift on Valentine's Day.
If you need some time, then he needs to respect that. You can't ask him to put his life on hold, though. But on the flip side, he shouldn't be acting like an ah. You were honest with your feelings and stated your needs. He reacted by getting angry and being mean to you. You have to do what's best for your mental health, and he's supposed to understand that not everything is about him. Idk OP. If I had just lost my mother and asked my bf for space cause I wasn't handling my emotions well, I'd get pretty pissed that he decided it was a good time to treat me like crap. I hope you are able to work through this pain OP. Lots of hugs.
Nope. Those are your memories & mementos. Maybe you want to save them on your computer. He doesn’t get to erase your life.
It’s not the same as actually putting effort, you can still be with someone and put effort into small things.
Where he lives is entirely irrelevant. Whether he’s apologized or not is irrelevant. My main point is just that it’s not about you. It’s about your mom and him. Doesn’t matter who’s to blame. He doesn’t feel comfortable there.
YTA. That’s your wife. You both made a really bad decision, now you both need to online with the consequences.
I work with the profoundly autistic population.
This comes down to the two of you not being compatible, if the individuals in my facility can manage to be polite and kind, your girlfriend can too. Truly sounds like she’s using ASD as an excuse.
Yeah…clinical isn’t really the most important part of that talk.
Yeah…clinical isn’t really the most important part of that talk.
Yeah…clinical isn’t really the most important part of that talk.
Set up a simple camera that records to your phone next interaction/ get together, when you try to isolate from her stand in front of it. Try your best to grey rock and ignore her. If she does start poking or pestering you just calmly say “I really just don't like those types of jokes, can you please stop?” When she apologizes in front of everyone, say thank you, can you please just not do it again, it really upsets me! That sets the stage for everyone to see that she agreed not to say/ do those things. It doesn't matter if she's joking, you politely asked her to stop. The camera sets the whole scene of her private tormenting interactions with you. I'd personally get as many weird psychopath instances I could showing her two faced bitch actions. I'd put them to together for nice video montage of her being an evil bitch, maybe screenshots of other victims stories, a few slides of your own worst interactions with her. Then send it to everyone in your family. Do not hit her, do not engage with her alone unless recording, I am worried she's gonna accuse you of something horrible. She's evil. Protect yourself.
I acknowledged in a lower conversation below this same parent comment that I believed that was also I possibility and that I feel for OP but I still don’t think he should contact the ex.
Please don't stay in a relationship with someone that doesn't respect you, because it also means he doesn't love you. He's with you for selfish reasons, he's not your partner.
Can you leave that marriage when it was forced on both of you? Doesn't sound that way.
So you can chose between:
Online in a marriage with a stranger. Give it a shot and become a couple.
It doesn't seem to matter much what his ulterior motive is. It only matters where you want that marriage to go that neither one of you can leave.
Best revenge is too online happily ever after ,and completely forget him!
Yes we meet each other every couple of months
Bro you being weird about it makes you the creepy one
Bro you being weird about it makes you the creepy one
Bro you being weird about it makes you the creepy one
Girl run. I wasted 8 years of my 20’s on a man who couldn’t commit. I ended up meeting the man who is now my husband two weeks after I finally kicked the asshole out of my house when he put his hands on me for the first time.
I’m the same age as you- definitely look into freezing some eggs if you can afford it. Hubs and I have been trying for three years with not a pregnancy in sight (not to try to scare you or anything, just better safe than sorry).
So glad. All the best to you. I think you're good staying with yr person? But you've got to string them up and make them admit it. ?✌️❤️