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Atyblue Public Chat Channel
Date: November 6, 2022
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This right here. You have to tell someone. Your mom is guilty of criminal neglect if she knowingly puts you in a position to be abused. While nothing you have described sounds criminally actionable, if an investigation is done it will likely stop him from further acts.
I think it's fine to feel weird about it. Like it's not porn where it's not real. It's real live very hot attractive woman, in person with your partner. Taking to the group of men, trying to get them to buy them drinks and chat enough to convince them to pay for a private lapdance. Basically it's just a woman sexually arousing your partner and flirting with him, unless its a distance only club where they don't come over and are on a stage only. That's not ok for me with a random girl on a night out, why is it different because its a girl getting paid to do it?
I'm kind of the same as the other people here saying they don't get them. My partner gets plenty of sex at home to the point he doesn't need porn, but if he did, that's live! and available to him also whenever he needs. Why would he want to go and get turned on by other real women, who fake being interested in him for money. It's just bizarre to me.
I only know of 2 groups of guys who done the full going abroad and strip club thing. Where they went, the strip clubs are brothels also. My bf and his friends paid to sleep with prostitutes when they were younger at one. Bf said he couldn't get hot because he realised pretty quickly, the girl probably didn't want to have sex with him and alone in a room it suddenly just felt terrible.
The other one was a bunch of 30-40 year olds on a bachelor weekend. All bar 2 of them, including all the married men slept with girls from the strip club.
I think I've heard, seen enough, and don't feel any justifiable reason for my partner to go to a strip club to check out real naked women in person. So for me it's a boundary we've discussed, and that's fine for us. I'm not keen on it and his previous experience makes him not want to go anyway.
But more so than anything, I now work in financial crime for a bank. Investigating everything from basic scams, to exploitation and terrorism. The amount of girls in these places I've seen getting pimped, exploited and trafficked has totally blown my mind. They get paid in cash or bank transfers, then you see them and the other girls all transfer it to an older man's account. I kind of knew this happened elsewhere and does, but I didn't realise how much it happens in the UK. Given what I've seen, strip clubs and brothels are never going to be ok with me.
That being said, these are worst case outcomes. But we've not really evolved to want our partners to go out and watch or interact with women trying to sell them a sexual service. So it is totally OK not to feel good about it. You're not going to be able to change that if it's inherent to you. All you can do is decide to accept it if you trust him enough, that oogling other nakee women in real life isn't going to cause anything more than looking for him, and no unacceptable boundaries for you will be crossed.
Either you are ok with it completely, you're not ok with it at all, or you're not okay with and it makes you feel bad to some extent but you're going to let it happen anyway and just move past it, in which case the uncomfortable feeling is unlikely to go away until it's been and gone.
He’s a taker. He thinks as a woman it’s your job. I’m guessing that if you changed jobs and worked longer hours away from home he’d still expect you to do it. He tried using the “being home” thing as an excuse for his misogyny, but he’s proved himself now to be sexist. You are working, he is working, what the difference? A small piece of skin and his entitlement due to it.
The bare minimum shouldn’t be rewarded.
Divorce him, problem solved
At least we know what happened to their kids if they ever mysteriously disappear.
Read the book The Gift of Fear. Right now, today.