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Date: October 12, 2022
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?, ?Your Goddess body is made to admire and enjoyed!
Wrote it on a 34in ultrawide. It wasn't so massive then. But on the mobile app, it definitely is.
You don’t have the right to decide what is worth him cutting contact over. The fact that you thought you knew better and could “fix” the situation is extremely disrespectful to him.
Never, EVER, pull something like this again. You need to learn to respect the boundaries other people have set. Until you do, you will not be capable of being a good partner.
Learn from this.
What if they live someplace very warm and rarely wear cozy pants?
Beliefs aside, if can't express that he doesn't agree, or doesn't understand something without yelling, you shouldn't keep him around. You're not crazy for being bothered at all. Cause you're right and the way that he reacted was extreme, in my opinion
I agree about the lawyer. But I’m also wondering if there’s something medical going on. Maybe talk to your father or other family about whether they are seeing changes and what to do about. It sounds terrible. Please take care of yourself!
Hello, would it be too dumb to forgive him?
I'm sorry you're going though this man. Armed forces has a high rate of divorce due to just this. Being gone for months on end can really stress a relationship out. Hell, even when I was traveling a every once in a while as a Network engineer bugged my then gf a bit.
As far as reasoning, just consider yourself being at home alone for months at a time. Your brain either starts longing or gets used to being alone. It's why people have kids in these situations – while not the best reason, kids do provide companionship or at least distraction.
It's very well possible she got lonely as well and found someone. Sure you don't want to hear this, but I'm sure you considered it.
It sounds like she's convinced herself that it's over and has mentally prepared herself for it. You stop pretending or attempting to be hospitable at that point. Emotionally, coming to terms with leaving someone requires a certain amount of emotional separation. You no longer say 'I love you' kiss, hold hands.. all these things brings you back, and you've decided to move forward.
Again, sorry man. Couple counseling and/or reminder when your term is finished is a good start. If her mind is set though, you're fighting an uphill battle.
Let me change it up so you can see your error. Would you EVER tell your gf you are attracted to OTHER women? “Hey, Babe, I wanted to let you know, I really like Asian chicks. I think they are so sexy.”
If the answer is “Sure, why not?” Then OK. Because you are basically telling her that she needs to wonder about guys pulling you from her in addition to women. Why would you awaken her jealousy?
Do you feel shorted in any way by being with only her? If you and she progressed in your relationship, could you be happy if you never had ANYONE else, male or female? Because if you can be content with her, then don't even think about telling her about guys.
In fact, they felt amazing physically, I even had pleasure
Yeeeah so I'm calling troll on this
Yeah, what she did doesn't make any sense cause you only go to concerts as basically a gift to her. So her buying you tickets to a concert, albiet for a band you like, is ultimately a present for her. Definitely talk to her about it. Tell her you appreciate the present but that you don't understand why she got them for you when she knows you don't actually enjoy concerts at all bc of your anxiety. Tell her you'd prefer if she didn't do that again. Personally, I definitely feel as if she was being selfish.
You can live with anxiety. However, to live! with depression still, is a good indication that you have unresolved issues and could use a helping hand. Continuing therapy is a good place for trauma resolution.
I mean, I'm pretty sure it's fairly common to still live! with depression, we just all find our own ways to minimize it and to cope with it. My depression is definitely not as bad as it has been, thankfully because of the great help of therapy. It's how I've come to the conclusion that while I don't hate my parents/family, and acknowledge that they do care for and loved me in a way, it was not a way that I so desperately needed from them and ultimately caused more harm than good. It's why I felt the need to more or less estrange myself, because I did not find it healthy constantly hoping that maybe one day they will finally change and be the family I need from them. Instead I distanced myself from that in order to find my own way to happiness, and if they have or do end up changing that's great but I don't really feel comfortable stepping back into that now that I've finally found my own happiness by own path.
Perhaps depression isn't the right word for what I'm still living with. Mild melancholy? I don't know.
When you've grown up learning that the only person you have is you, then you continue to look out for you as #1. Although, contemplate the idea that a close brotherly relationship (something you missed growing up) could be someone that is healthy for you long term in your adult life.
I agree a close brotherly relationship is something that is healthy and good for me in the long term in my adult life. That's why I've found my own support from friends and loved ones who support and are they for me in a way that I needed and never really got from my own family. I'm not lacking in close brotherly relationships, I have that now and its why I'm not doing a lot better now, I just got it from my friends and not my family. I believe this is why I'm particularly fond of the found family/family of choice trope.
I guess the point I'm trying to get it is that I am doing a lot better now because I made the active choice to finally distance myself from a part of life that has for the most part only brought me pain. I've managed to find happiness and even some sense of control in my own life that I never really could have from my own family by going my own path and finding friends and loved ones who can be there for me in the way I never got. The problem is that on the one hand I'm not sure I really want to develop a relationship with my brother, since our interactions now still make me feel uncomfortable and unenjoyable due to the life long gap, both in age and interests, that's developed between us. On the other hand, I feel a sense of guilt for thinking that way and a sense of obligation because he's still my brother, similar to how I felt a sense of guilt for wanting to distance myself from and a sense of obligation to my parents. But again, I think that it's more so an instinctual feeling because for most of my life I was basically told to disregard how I felt for the sake of 'family'.
I do not think you are wrong about how a deeper heart to heart would be beneficial, it's just that I do not feel like I need it because I've already found my own closure and have pretty much moved on.
You’re asking someone with an illogical belief to be logical (the wife), it doesn’t work like that?
That's the theoretical range, but unless he's transferred from another army or has a professional skillset his career options will be narrow and his career pretty short.
They just don't like promoting older guys, there's not enough rope left to advance very far. Why block advancement options from young career soldiers?
How do I know this? I joined a bigger commonwealth army as an officer at 30 and was told I'd never make it past Captain. I went in with my eyes open and had a blast.
Marriage doesn't solve problems. Marrying this woman will not accomplish anything in terms of the quality of life you can provide the child. If you wouldn't marry her without the baby in the equation, don't do it now.
When your daughter gets older she should be given a heads-up to never introduce you to any of her friends.
Ye and it got removed. But either way, can u back off?
He does acknowledge that he’s clingy and apologizes for it but it always feels like a bit of a “sad boi, I just love you so much” And he’s apologized for not being good at dishes in the apartment now that he lives alone and he says he’s working on it but that’s only one of many little things that annoy me and will be 100x worse at my house
That’s a good idea. It’s kind of hot to think about cuz this is my longest and most serious relationship and so it’s my base knowledge but I’ll try…
No, he took advantage of you. He is old enough to know what he was doing was wrong. You are barely old enough to understand that and clearly do not know here. Why were you even getting drunk and high with this guy? You also participated in him having an affair on his wife. Who knows if he is even being honest that he isn't being physical with his wife and either way no one deserves the pain of cheating and an affair. Your friend probably will never forgive you because you participated in messing up her family. Now she knows her dad is a creep who cheats and preys on girls who are barely adults. It's gross.
What good would an apology do? He expresses his true feelings when he is enraged. An apology won’t turn him into a normal, loving husband as his rage will return the next time he is behind the wheel. Do you want this to be your future? You are not safe.
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Well this is an extremely unhealthy dynamic. How long do you plan on being treated like shit and emotionally shut out in your home?
“Grab yer pick prospector Patty….them’s gold in thar hills!”
Hopefully this statement fills in some of the blanks.
???no seriously cause WHAT is the problem?
I can see how people in healthy relationships who have very strict boundaries and a strong self esteem can't quite comprehend how someone might feel forced by such (truly pathetic) displays of emotional manipulation. Unfortunately some people, especially those who have experienced prior victimization, might not have those strong foundations to fall back on when the boundary pushing starts and they find their boundaries constantly disregarded and violated.
In cases like OP where someone constantly gets guilt-tripped until they “consent” to sex, it's a gradual escalation with more and more outrageous tactics being employed until the person is so worn down they don't see it worth the hassle to say no in the first place. Might as well lie back and think of queen of england to avoid the argument and dramatics that would follow a “no”. The escalation follows the idea of a “frog in a kettle”, where you slowly increase the heat until the frog boils alive.
It's a similar type of conflict-avoidance someone might develop with an irrationally jealous or controlling partner, where you “choose your battles” because trying to assert yourself feels too taxing emotionally, and in the end you find yourself steeped in learned helplessness that makes you feel completely powerless to assert yourself. Abusive people are incredibly good at making normally functional and self-respecting adults find themselves in situations they never thought they'd accept.
So if it helps you understand the tactic a bit better, think of it as emotional abuse that is geared to manipulate someone into having sex they don't want.
I'm genuinely happy to hear you haven't been in such a relationship. Thank you for considering what I was saying.
Selfish cuz he wanna go to the mall himself?
Yeppp! Degloving freaks me out. Hell even in cases where the finger is super swollen and they cut the ring off gives me the heebiejeebies. There are silicon rings now that can be a good alternative for folks that really wanna wear a ring but work with machinery and whatnot.