It's more he asks and when I reveal that I'm struggling a little bit he just withdraws all affection. The anger is what I'm not understanding, if he came to me with a similar issue I'd give him a hug and see what I can do to support. Just feel like he's turning his back on me.
I do have very good moments with him and we get along very well. I know it may sound different from this summary but it’s probably bc im highlighting a lot of the bad. I agree the tinder thing was ridiculous tho. But what am i supposed to do with the snapchat thing??
My God, what a stellar Father and Partner he is, to hoard a flipping parking pass from the Mother of his Child, when he doesn’t even own a car. (/s)
Seriously, if he is this callous while your baby is in the NICU, can’t imagine how poorly this will escalate.
My other concern is who is he sharing this parking pass with while home Tuesday-Thursday, when you aren’t there. I’m mean, he’s been pretty selfish so far…this isn’t a big leap.
She knows exactly what she wants – exactly what she's got. By which I mean being broken up with you but knowing you are devoted enough to let her play her “I'm finding myself and I need to think” game (translation – I'm finding other people and I need time to see if it's going to work out). You ok with being dangled on her fishing line like this? If so, great. But if not, you could buff up your battered self-esteem and move on.
You may not have liked what she said but she was honest with you. I would rather my spouse be completely honest than bullshit me when communicating. I believe in allowing those I love to speak their truth and not punishing them for it. Think about what you want in your marriage. Do you want her honest or not?
Yeah my dude, take this as a learning lesson on “pranks”
Send her an heartfelt apology that you have learned that your prank was unacceptable and stupid and frankly your embarrassed by your behavior. Tell her you wish her the best of luck in her next relationship, and that you will respect her boundary and never speak to her again.
This will ensure that she doesn’t tell everyone she knows that your abusive (hopefully) and allow you better luck in your next relationship. But yeah that was pretty fucking stupid. Men are biologically stronger than woman, and we get the joy of spending every second outside our homes worried that if we’re alone with a man, they could r*pe murder us or both. You took that core fear and brought it inside the home. You fucked up. It will never be funny. Send the apology. Now.
Listen that’s your backup. She’s keeping him around just in case. I would let him have her. Not my kind of life partner.
friend, you are on the wrong sub… try r/legaladvice. NAL but depending on your location, this is destruction of property felony charge.
It's more he asks and when I reveal that I'm struggling a little bit he just withdraws all affection. The anger is what I'm not understanding, if he came to me with a similar issue I'd give him a hug and see what I can do to support. Just feel like he's turning his back on me.
I do have very good moments with him and we get along very well. I know it may sound different from this summary but it’s probably bc im highlighting a lot of the bad. I agree the tinder thing was ridiculous tho. But what am i supposed to do with the snapchat thing??
Your “(No, I wouldn’t)” just sent me into hysterics so thank you!
My God, what a stellar Father and Partner he is, to hoard a flipping parking pass from the Mother of his Child, when he doesn’t even own a car. (/s)
Seriously, if he is this callous while your baby is in the NICU, can’t imagine how poorly this will escalate.
My other concern is who is he sharing this parking pass with while home Tuesday-Thursday, when you aren’t there. I’m mean, he’s been pretty selfish so far…this isn’t a big leap.
Agreed
That's kind of it though. She is in his family now, just as you are. The only issue is what can you put up with.
If you walked no one would argue with you
I'd start telling him “no you are using the low class uneducated pronunciation”. Rinse repeat till you dump his ass.
This is the most American thing to do, be wrong about something and still have the audacity to correct others about it.
She knows exactly what she wants – exactly what she's got. By which I mean being broken up with you but knowing you are devoted enough to let her play her “I'm finding myself and I need to think” game (translation – I'm finding other people and I need time to see if it's going to work out). You ok with being dangled on her fishing line like this? If so, great. But if not, you could buff up your battered self-esteem and move on.
no shit buddy, is that the case here or no?
There you go. You just came up with the solution.
Good luck.
You get what you deserve
You may not have liked what she said but she was honest with you. I would rather my spouse be completely honest than bullshit me when communicating. I believe in allowing those I love to speak their truth and not punishing them for it. Think about what you want in your marriage. Do you want her honest or not?
Yeah my dude, take this as a learning lesson on “pranks”
Send her an heartfelt apology that you have learned that your prank was unacceptable and stupid and frankly your embarrassed by your behavior. Tell her you wish her the best of luck in her next relationship, and that you will respect her boundary and never speak to her again.
This will ensure that she doesn’t tell everyone she knows that your abusive (hopefully) and allow you better luck in your next relationship. But yeah that was pretty fucking stupid. Men are biologically stronger than woman, and we get the joy of spending every second outside our homes worried that if we’re alone with a man, they could r*pe murder us or both. You took that core fear and brought it inside the home. You fucked up. It will never be funny. Send the apology. Now.